It’s amazing what can happen when we look for things we have in common rather than ways we are different. As I shared a few weeks ago, I’m not much of a sports fan, but I found myself at another baseball game at Yankee Stadium this week. It was the Yankees vs. the Astros, but I was not invested in any particular outcome other than having a good time with my family. Before the game, my sister’s husband took us down to an area behind center field called Monument Park. Although I did not know most of the players that were honored with plaques, I could feel the respect that was given to them. As anyone who has attended one of my Family Constellations sessions knows, it is very important to honor those who came before. In addition to the retired ballplayers, there were also plaques honoring Nelson Mandela, a visit by Pope John Paul II in 1979 where he offered a mass for world justice and peace, and a tribute to the victims and rescue workers of 9/11. It was a beautiful way to honor the history of the team and the stadium. I was grateful for the opportunity to pay my respects to all of them with my trademark tiny rose quartz crystals. Two worlds intersected with love and respect.
This experience reminded me of a similar one that happened ten years ago while I was staying with a friend on Long Island. My friend was an Interfaith Minister, and when two Mormon missionaries showed up at her door a few days before my arrival, she invited them to come back for lunch. She felt compassion for these teenage boys who were so far from home and most likely longing for a home-cooked meal. And, knowing our diverse spiritual backgrounds, she thought the four of us would have an interesting conversation. She was right! When they first arrived, we exchanged pleasantries and then they jumped right into the Book of Mormon to share their beliefs. At the time, I had only been studying A Course in Miracles for about a year and a half so I was quite eager to bring out my copy and share my beliefs with them. As you can imagine, the conversation became awkward and uncomfortable very quickly.
Luckily, lunch was ready soon. We adjourned to the dining room where we all sat down to have a nice bowl of chicken soup. Before we ate, my friend spoke a beautiful blessing over our food and our time together. Her invocation of the power of love shifted something. We started talking about the things we had in common, where our beliefs intersected, and how good the chicken soup was! Miraculously, any tension from the previous conversation dissipated, and the four of us enjoyed a wonderful lunch. I will never forget that powerful lesson. When we try to convince someone that our beliefs are correct, things will inevitably get tense. But when we share from the heart instead of the head, love connects us all.
Many say that we should never talk about religion or politics with those who disagree with us. However, in these divisive times, we probably need to talk about them more, but with an open heart and an open mind. As my friend Mary Morrissey says, waiting for someone else to stop talking so you can talk is not the same thing as listening. We learn much more by listening than talking. If we can agree to disagree without the need to be right, we might just experience a miracle. As one of my favorite quotes from A Course in Miracles so simply states:
Do you prefer that you be right or happy?
Are you having a challenging time with someone who insists that you’re doing it wrong? I would be honored to help you find harmony in that or any situation that is trying to take away your peace. Life Coaching and Family Constellations are both powerful tools that can relieve stress, repair relationships, and foster better health and abundance. Simply send me an email or look around my website for more information and to book a session.
Until next time, if you’d like to experience more love, peace, and harmony, I invite you to be more vigilant for ways we are alike than different. The results will be miraculous!