A Magical Disney Nightmare

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Many have heard me say, “You can take the boy out of Disney, but you can’t take the Disney out of the boy.”  The seven years I worked at Disney World as a puppeteer and parade performer were some of my happiest.  Even though I left in 2000, I still have dreams about it.  Most are enjoyable, but there is one recurring dream that is not so pleasant.  I had it again this morning.  In this dream, I am working at Disney again, but everything has changed.  I don’t know anyone.  I don’t know where to sign in, or where to get my costume.  I am either too embarrassed or there is nobody around to ask, so I wander around the tunnels under the Magic Kingdom confused and frustrated.  If I find my way, new complications arise.  I forget my locker combination so I can’t change into my costume, and then I miss the bus to parade step off, so I have to walk there.  When I finally arrive, my float is going out the gate, so I have to run to catch up with my unit.  Once I do, I realize I don’t remember the dance routine!  

It is always such a relief when I realize I’m dreaming.  Once my heart rate and breathing return to normal, I look for the message.  One time in this magical Disney nightmare, I remember I decided to make up my own dance moves as I traveled down the street.  It occurred to me that the guests wouldn’t know I wasn’t supposed to be doing my own thing.  I had so much fun dancing to the beat of my own drum!  It seems I got the message.  Sometimes we cause ourselves a lot of stress by trying to do what everyone else is doing or what is expected of us.  It was such a liberating feeling!  In today’s dream, I was so disoriented that I had to surrender and ask someone for help.  The parade coordinator I found showed me everything I needed to know.  It was so simple.  All I had to do was ask.  What a great reminder to ask for help when I need it.  I don’t always remember to do this.  I get too busy or I think I should be able to handle things on my own.

This weekend my schedule was very full, and after pondering this dream, I understood why I received this message.  I had forgotten to ask Holy Spirit to help me make all of my decisions for the day the past few mornings.  This practice helps me undo my ego by turning to a power and an awareness greater than myself.  It doesn’t matter what you call it, just ask it for help.  I happen to use this mantra from Lesson 71 in A Course in Miracles.  

What would You have me do?

Where would You have me go?

What would You have me say, and to whom?

I like to start my day with questions and not affirmations.  Sometimes using the word “I” in an affirmation is an attempt by the ego to make me feel special, and thus separate.  The whole point is to dissolve the illusion of separation and surrender to the oneness.  That Presence sees the entire picture: past, present, and future.  It knows what is best for me and everyone involved, so why not defer to that knowing rather than my own limited “I” point of view?  Surrendering is what works for me, but if you like using the word “I’ in your morning mantras, and it is working for you… Wonderful!  Keep doing it!  Click HERE to watch a short three minute video on this topic.  Feel free to share this video and your morning mantras and start of day spiritual practices in the “comments” section.  I’d love to know what works for you.

How do I discern whether I am listening to the voice of Love or the voice of fear?  I consciously put my hand on my heart, ask the question, and if I feel peaceful about the answer that comes to me, I know it is coming from Love.  If I feel agitated, anxious, or righteous, then I know it’s my sneaky ego.  If you have trouble discerning these two voices, I would be honored to assist you.  My Life Coaching and Family Constellations are based on the strong principles of A Course in Miracles, and both can help you tune in to the voice of Love.  To learn more about them and to schedule a session, please visit my website.  Until next time, may all your days begin and end with peace.

Can You Honor Your Father and Your Mother?

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After my magical birthday celebration with friends planting rose quartz crystals all over New York City, I spent the next few days with my family at a rental house on Lake Wallenpaupack in Pennsylvania.  What a nice surprise to discover that they were all there when I arrived on Friday!  My older brother, my three older sisters, their spouses, their kids, and grandkids all heard the call to come together this year.  I can’t remember the last time this happened.  Sure, we have our rough patches, but we are one of those weird families that actually enjoys spending time together.  The weekend was full of love and laughter.  On our last day together, my siblings and I planned a road trip to see my Aunt Ruth in New Jersey.  It had been at least 20 years since I had seen my dad’s sister.  When he died in 1975, our connection to that side of the family was not as strong.  Since they live in the Northeast, my siblings have been to recent weddings and parties with them.  I moved to Florida in 1992, so I have been a little bit more “out of the loop” (in more ways than one!) 

Having been immersed in the therapeutic philosophy of Family Constellations for the past 3 years, I understand how important it is to connect to the energy of both sides of my lineage.  Like it or not, we are each “half dad” and “half mom.”  Regardless of our relationship with them, we have to acknowledge this simple fact.  If I reject a parent, then I am literally rejecting half of me.  As a facilitator of Family Constellations, I see the effects of this disconnect all the time.  A child who rejects or has a break in the bond with mom often has money troubles, or difficulty feeling safe in the world.  A disconnect with dad can create challenges with direction or finding one’s ideal career path.  Some lucky people like myself experienced a disconnect with both, for one reason or another, so we get a double strength growing opportunity!  The good news is, with Family Constellations, you can repair the connection and allow the energy of love to flow again.

I had a feeling it would be a powerful moment when I saw my aunt for the first time that day, and it was.  I can’t deny how much I look like my father as I grow older.  That was the first thing she said to me when I arrived at her door.  “Oh, you look so much like my brother!”  She hugged me three times before we sat down in her living room.  Those hugs were some of the best hugs I’ve ever had.  It was wonderful to hear stories about her and my dad growing up.  I learned a little bit more about their mother, who was ostracized from the family at a young age.  I did my best not to ask too many questions, as I didn’t want it to feel like a Family Constellations intake interview.  I told her about the work I was doing, and also gifted her a sun catcher made with purple amethyst and pink rose quartz crystals.  I guess I picked the right stones because my aunt was wearing a purple and pink outfit that day.

My cousin, Sharon, outdid herself ordering several plates of sandwiches, assorted salads, and preparing 4 different flavors of homemade zucchini bread for dessert.  It was delicious!  Both of her brothers, various spouses, children, and grandchildren were there as well.  It was a delightful reunion.  Before we left, we all convened around the Mother Mary statue in my aunt’s backyard for a group picture.  It certainly was a unique photo opportunity.  As we waited for a neighbor to arrive to snap the photo, I took the opportunity to sprinkle a few rose quartz crystals in the foliage around Mother Mary.  After the photo shoot, while walking back to the front of the house, I discovered a beautiful light blue and white feather in my aunt’s yard.  It sure looked like the traditional colors of Mother Mary, and I was grateful for this gift of grace.  As we said our goodbyes and shared more hugs, I had the feeling that my dad must be very happy to see this reunion.  I know I certainly was.  Before I got in in the car with my brother to head to the Newark Airport, my Aunt Ruth looked me directly in the eyes and said, “Thank you for the work you are doing.”  It gives me God bumps just thinking about that moment.  It sure felt like she was delivering a message from my dad and all of our ancestors.  I am honored to be doing this work, healing hearts and helping individuals and families return to love, one constellation at a time.

If that sounds good to you, please visit the Family Constellations page on my website for more information.  There you will find out when and where the next group sessions are being held.  You can also set up an appointment for a private one-on-one session in person or over the phone.  I look forward to sharing this revolutionary healing experience with you!  Until next time, I invite you to take a few moments to find something about each of your parents to be grateful for, even if the only thing you can come up with is gratitude for the gift of life.  It will be enough to get the love and your life flowing again.

P.S. If you feel inspired to start planting rose quartz to add to the Web of Love and Peace around the planet, you can share the experience by taking pictures and posting them on FaceBook and Instagram with #rosequartzgrid.  Thanks to my creative friend, Caroline, you can also add the locations on this Google Map!  Let’s watch the Love spread all over the planet!

The Pink Apple

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I have been sprinkling rose quartz crystals all over the planet since Valentine’s Day weekend of 2004.  That’s when I met my rose quartz spiritual family.  I learned that rose quartz holds the frequency of unconditional love and compassion.  The intention is to create a web of love and peace around the planet that any of us can tap in to whenever needed.  It has been a fun way to create miracles and interact with people wherever my travels take me.  Of course, I could do this without the rose quartz, but it is nice to have something tangible.  I will be forever grateful to my friend and teacher, Mac, for gifting me my first necklace made of these tiny pink stones and to all of the beautiful souls I met that weekend who share this intention with me.

I continued the tradition this past week in New York City as part of my birthday celebration with great friends.  They joined me in planting rose quartz all over the city.  We started the very first night we arrived after a delicious pizza dinner in Brooklyn and a spectacular walk across the Brooklyn Bridge gazing at the sparkling lights of Manhattan.   Our first stop in Manhattan was Ground Zero.  We sprinkled rose quartz at the base of the trees that surround the perimeter where the towers fell.  Once we finished, I took a few prayerful moments to activate the grid and imagined peace washing over the hearts of all those affected by the events of that day.

There were plenty of places to plant rose quartz as we rode bikes through Central Park the following day.  My favorite spot is the famous angel statue in the center of the park.  A sweet couple from the UK asked what I was feeding the turtles when they saw me tossing the little crystals into the pond behind the statue.  After explaining is wasn’t turtle food, I gave each of them some rose quartz to throw into the pond to make their own wishes.  Fountains, rivers, lakes, and ponds are great places to plant crystals because the energy fills the body of water and radiates to all who pass by.

One place I knew I wanted to plant some rose quartz was Columbia University. This year marks the 50th birthday of my favorite spiritual teaching, A Course in Miracles.  It was in 1965 while working in the Psychology Department at Columbia that Helen Schucman first heard that gentle, authoritative voice say, “This is a course in miracles.  Please take notes.”  It felt so right to spread rose quartz there as my way to say thank you to Helen, and to honor the teaching that has changed my life so dramatically.  Little did I know I would have such an emotional reaction there.  As I closed my eyes and held the stones to my heart before tossing them into the fountains in front of the old library building, an overwhelming sense of gratitude washed over me and tears welled up in my eyes.  It was a feeling I will never forget.

The grand finale of the “pink love fest” was the beautiful mural we encountered in SoHo on our last evening in New York.  The artist had painted the world with a red heart in the center and red lions marching around the circumference.  To me, this symbolized the lion-hearted love we were spreading around the planet.  If you read my Lion’s Gate blog from 2 weeks ago, you will understand the extra significance of the lions.  While planting rose quartz and taking pictures by this wall, a photography student approached us to ask if we would be willing to be part of her class project.  Her assignment was to find out what we thought of when asked about human rights violations.  I told her how we had planted rose quartz all around Ground Zero and even scattered some outside a grocery store where there had been an altercation moments before we walked by.  My friend George summed it up perfectly when he offered this suggestion.  “Instead of looking for human rights violations, why not look for human rights affirmations?”  Indeed, what you look for, you will find.  She loved the idea and asked George to write it down so that she could show her professor.

After our heartfelt conversation, our new friend snapped some great photos of the three of us in front of that mural, and promised to send them to my email address soon.  Once we said our goodbyes, another young man came over to ask what we were doing and why everyone was stopping to take pictures by that mural.  Spirit gave us yet another opportunity to share our story and give away more rose quartz. Just like the ripples that are created when we toss a stone in the water, I have no doubt that the ripples of Love we created last week will keep expanding and touching hearts.  I know the people we met and the experiences we had deeply touched mine.

If you like the idea of creating a web of love and peace around the planet, why not join us and start spreading your own rose quartz crystals?  You can purchase them for less than five dollars at any craft store that sells jewelry making supplies.  Or simply set the intention to create a ripple of love, peace, and joy wherever you go.  That works too!  If that seems like an impossible task from where you are right now, then perhaps it’s time to try Life Coaching or Family Constellations.  Both will touch your heart and bring you back to that place of peace, love, and joy.  I use A Course in Miracles as my foundation for both.  Please visit my website for more information.

Until next time, may you always feel the waves of peace, love, and joy washing over your heart wherever you may travel…

P.S. If you feel inspired to start planting rose quartz, let me know where on my Peace Through Oneness FaceBook page. Take pictures and post on Instagram and Facebook with #rosequartzgrid  Let’s watch the web of love spread all over the planet!  

Trashy Thoughts

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Each time I go on my beach walk I pass an empty lot heading back to my car.  It always makes me a little sad to see the plastic bottles, cans, food wrappers, and other trash scattered across the grass on the other side of the chain link fence.  Sometimes I wish I could wave a magic wand that would make all the garbage levitate, collect into one solid mass, and then send it hurtling out to space on a collision course with the Sun.  Alas, I’m not Harry Potter, but there is something I can do.

If I truly believe what A Course in Miracles teaches, (and I do), I know that what I experience on the outside is a direct result of what I’m thinking on the inside.  If I am thinking predominantly fearful thoughts, then I am going to encounter many fearful situations in life.  If I am thinking mostly loving thoughts, then I am going to experience loving people wherever I go.  It’s really quite simple, although not always easy.  So if there is a lot of garbage in my mind, then I am going to see a lot of garbage in my environment.   Not that I’m thinking about banana peels and soda cans, mind you.  I mean garbage like, “I’m never going to finish my book.  I can’t believe that jerk didn’t use his turn signal!  My belly is too fat.  That man is taking forever to pump his gas.  I’m not going to have enough money to pay my bills.  I feel guilty I haven’t called my brother back yet.  I am not worthy of love.”  You get the idea.  These kinds of thoughts never improve a situation.

Little by little, I am replacing them with more loving ones.  “I have so much fun writing my book.  I know it will be finished in the perfect time.  No big deal.  There are times when I have forgotten to use my turn signal.  I am healthy and getting healthier every day.  Great!  I have time to send a text message while I wait for that man to finish pumping his gas.  God is my Source and there is always enough.  My brother knows how busy I am these days and that I love him.  He will be happy to receive my call when he has my undivided attention.  I am loved beyond measure. ”  The more I think thoughts like these, the less trash I will see.  For now, I will continue to monitor my “trashy thoughts,” and continue to monitor the beach and sidewalk.  When I see bottles and wrappers, I simply pick them up and toss them in the can.  This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from A Course in Miracles:

 “…seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world.”  

Are you having a hard time removing the litter in your mind?  Life Coaching and Family Constellations are both great clean up crews.  They will help you see things from a different perspective and start putting the trash in the can where it belongs.  Visit my website for more information and to view free videos that will help you clean up your thoughts.  This week, I invite you to place the “No Littering” sign in your mind and watch what happens!