I don’t have a lot of memories of my dad, but I do have some. He went Home on New Year’s Day when I was 7 years old, so I didn’t have much time with him. (I like saying it that way instead of “passed away” or “died.” It feels more accurate.) In any case, one of the things I remember is the time he spent with me in our backyard trying to teach me to hit a wiffle ball. Bless his patience because his youngest son was definitely not a jock! I remember him taking me to the IBM Country Club to watch The Flintstones Movie and other family films. Since my siblings were much older, it was just the two of us, and I really liked that. I also vividly remember the time my dad took me to the Emergency Room when I somehow got a pine needle from our Christmas Tree imbedded in my heal. He kept me occupied and calm in the waiting room by making a game out of how many words we could find using the letters in the “NO SMOKING” sign. Two hours and two stitches later, I was good to go. When he got sick and couldn’t work anymore, he could still play my favorite board game, Snoopy Come Home. We played it over and over. That darn dog just kept running away!
I’m sharing this to emphasize that what I remember most about my dad is the time we spent together, and not the gifts he bought me. I remember his presence more than his presents. That’s not to say I didn’t enjoy getting toys. Of course I did! Anyone who knows the story of my first Family Constellation, which by the way, changed the course of my life, knows that the spontaneous memory of the little toys my dad used to give me were a key component in the healing that happened that day. But that’s a story for another day. Today I want to invite you to take a moment of reflection before you brave the stores on the day after Thanksgiving. Maybe the perfect gift for that someone you adore won’t be found at a “door busters” sale at 5 AM. Maybe it will be found in your own backyard or at your kitchen table.
If you are one of those people who loves to shop, the thrill of the chase, and you don’t mind crowds, by all means, go for it! Take advantage of those sales on Black Friday! My favorite spiritual teaching, A Course in Miracles, clearly states that we are not asked to give up anything other than fearful thoughts that keep us from the awareness of Love’s presence. However, if you’re like me, going through airport security sounds like more fun than being in that chaos. Stay home. There is another way you can give the gift of presence by visiting my website and purchasing a gift certificate for any of my services. Maybe someone you love needs a friendly ear, and a reassuring voice that will give them tools to help them move forward. You can give the gift of one, four, six, or eight Life Coaching sessions. If you purchase a Life Coaching package on or before Monday, November 30, the recipient will receive two extra sessions. For example, if you buy a four week package, you or your loved one will receive 6 weekly sessions. Sessions can be done in person or by telephone. A Family Constellations workshop or a private two hour session is another gift that will keep on giving for years to come. It will also be a gift for the entire family, like a ping pong table, only way better! You can use the PayPal Gift Certificate option on my home page and PayPal will email your recipient a gift certificate or allow you to print it and give it to them personally.
To all of you who have been in my life either a short time or a long time, have attended one of my workshops or classes, or simply read these weekly blogs, I extend the gift of eternal grace and gratitude to you. May you be blessed with peace and continue to choose Love over fear more and more consistently.