Don’t Ask Why!

Ask Why

Why is this happening? I caught myself whining this very disempowering question on Monday morning after sneezing four times in a row while heading to the beach for my power walk. Through watery eyes, I gazed at my reflection in my rear view mirror as I wiped my runny nose with a tissue. I looked like a bad Nyquil commercial. I couldn’t believe it. Here I was coming off a 9 day cleanse to restore health and balance to my body, and now I felt a cold coming on. How was this possible? I had been feeling great all week except for that weird scratchy sensation in my throat over the weekend. Uh oh!  My mind started running through the events of the past few days and weeks, looking for the cause of my symptoms. Was it the recent cold weather? Was I around someone who was coughing and sneezing? Was it because I stayed up until almost 5 AM one morning to edit a video for my YouTube channel? On and on it went. The search continued as I parked my car and did my pre-walk stretching. More questions arose. How was I going to facilitate our Miracle Monday group from 1-2:30 if my nose wouldn’t stop running? How would I do a coaching session afterwards? That’s when I remembered Lesson 25 from A Course in Miracles:  “I do not know what anything is for.” 

The ego, also known as the voice of fear, refutes this statement because it wants us to believe it has all the answers. It also wants to find something or someone on the outside to blame for our unpleasant experiences so we continue to feel powerless. It’s mantra is “seek but do not find,” and we will never find the cause “out there.” Later in Lesson 25 it says, “Everything is for your own best interest.” I know. This is certainly difficult to see in many cases. The ego doesn’t want us to believe this either. However, Spirit, or the voice of Love, reminds us that there is always a bigger plan at work so we don’t ever have to be afraid or figure anything out.  Asking questions like, “Why is this happening?” is a waste of time. The ego’s script will never make sense. You can have a great interview and still not get the job. You can be the most loving person in the world and still find yourself in the middle of a divorce. You can do a cleanse and take care of your body and still get a cold. Here’s the good news. Spirit can use any of these unpleasant experiences as teaching devices to remind us of the Truth. We are not our bodies and we are never separate from our Source. It is much more beneficial to ask questions like, “How can I move forward from here? What can I do to return to a loving, peaceful state of mind?” If you don’t know the answers to these questions, just ask the voice of Love. It will tell you. It told me to stop asking pointless questions and start walking!

I felt a sense of surrender as I stuffed tissues in my pockets in preparation for what I thought would be a very drippy and miserable beach walk. I was wrong. Once I got moving, my nose stopped running and I was breathing the salt air easily. I didn’t need any of those tissues (or my sleeve!) A miracle happened. My nose wasn’t healed, but my fearful thoughts had shifted back to love. I thoroughly enjoyed that walk. I wish I could say that my cold symptoms never returned, but no such luck. My nose started dripping again later that afternoon as I played the crystal singing bowl to begin our group. I am grateful that my symptoms didn’t return full force until I got home. I caught myself slipping back into that “why” question a few times, but each time I released it and let it be. Fortunately, the next day my calendar was completely clear, so I was able to rest, use my Neti pot, and let the cold run its course.

Though not pleasant, this experience helped me understand some of these ACIM concepts on a deeper level. Life is always giving us opportunities to learn. It’s always working for us, never against us, despite outward appearances. If you are having difficulty seeing your current situation as working for you, now is a great time to give yourself the gift of Life Coaching. It brings me great joy to share tools from the Course and other spiritual teachings that have helped me see things differently. Family Constellations is another great tool that helps you see things from another perspective. You will be amazed to discover how hidden family loyalties may be affecting your life choices today. Join me for an upcoming group session or schedule a one-on-one session. One-on-one sessions can be done in person or over the phone. For more information, please visit my website or contact me directly.

Until next time, keep asking empowering questions and don’t ask why!

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