I heard Rev. Michael Beckwith of the Agape Center in California once say that most of us think prayer is asking for things on the outside to change so we can stay the same. He offered that a more beneficial prayer might be to request help changing our thoughts on the inside so that we’re happy no matter what happens on the outside. I’m so grateful I remembered this during the drum circle I attended last Saturday. I had never been to this group before, and as soon as I arrived the energy felt a bit heavy and oppressive. The organizers seemed overly concerned with where people sat, what type of drum we had, and how we beat the drums. I respect the traditions of others, knowing they are rooted in a belief system that is meaningful to them, just as I hope others would respect mine. However, I also know the ego loves to make us think we have to “do it right” in order to be connected to Spirit. It wants us to believe we have to say the right words for our prayers to be heard, sit a certain way to meditate, or act a certain way to get into Heaven. Despite the lies of separation the ego tries to tell, I know, in Truth, we are always connected to Spirit. And, the times I feel most connected are when I am experiencing peace, love, and joy. I believe joy is an essential ingredient in spirituality that is often overlooked. On this topic, A Course in Miracles says:
Into eternity, where all is one, there crept a tiny, mad idea, at which the Son of God remembered not to laugh.
It looked like that tiny, mad idea had crept into this drum circle. I thought to myself, “Oh no. I’m stuck here for two hours with a group of people who forgot how to laugh!” The Cherokee elder who lead the circle made if very clear he expected each of us to stay for the duration because we were each an integral part of the ceremony. Since I had plans afterwards with friends who drove there separately, leaving early was not an option anyway. So I decided to make the best of it and pray for a miracle. Of course by miracle I mean a shift in my perception from fear to love. I asked Spirit for help to find something in this ceremony that I could resonate with, and maybe even enjoy. I love the sound of drums, so I decided to focus on that instead of the other participants or the songs. Since everything was sung in the Lakota language, the Cherokee elder shared a little bit about each song before it began. Every time he spoke I was amazed at how similar his teachings were to A Course in Miracles. My respect for him grew as he talked about oneness not being just a metaphor, but a reality. Later he spoke on the importance of forgiveness, especially forgiveness of self. I could certainly resonate with all of that!
As the drums beat together in harmony, so did our hearts. It occurred to me that all of us were there for the same reason, to help one another heal by remembering our oneness. With this awareness, I was able to relinquish my judgments about the lack of joy. I began to notice a few people smiling that I hadn’t noticed before, and the next song seemed a little more upbeat and happy than the rest. It was hard to keep my feet still. When it ended, the Cherokee elder confessed he didn’t sing the song he told us he was going to sing. Instead, he was guided to sing a song called “Spirit Dance.” He shared that this song is never one he plans to sing, it just comes when the Spirit World wants to dance and bring more joy to the ceremony. That was a pretty clear answer to my prayer. By the end of the ceremony, I was feeling great and grateful to have been there. My fear had shifted to love, and that was a miracle.
Would you like to experience a miracle? Is there something in your life that is causing you fear? Come to a Family Constellations workshop or schedule a private session in person or by phone. It is a great way to shift your thoughts on the inside so you can be happy no matter what happened or is happening on the outside. I base all of my Life Coaching programs on the strong principles of A Course in Miracles. I know they can transform your life because that’s what happened when I applied them to mine. Call me to schedule a free twenty minute consultation or visit my website for more details on Life Coaching packages and upcoming Family Constellations workshops. You can feel better fast with a little help and the right tools.
Until next time, keep marching to the beat of your own joyful drum (a.k.a. your heart!)