Roadblock Blessings

It sure seems like I have been encountering a lot of roadblocks lately, both literally and figuratively. The City of Fort Lauderdale is turning the intersection directly adjacent to my apartment building into a traffic circle. Workers have been there for weeks creating this new traffic pattern. Many days the main road in front of my building has been completely closed to traffic, forcing me to find alternative routes to my destinations. This situation has made me aware of how often I’m on “automatic pilot” while driving home. I forget about the road closure until I see those beautiful bright orange signs and the striped blockades in my path. When I’m tired or pressed for time, this feels like anything but a blessing.

However, something good has come of these recurring obstacles. During my recent travels, a close friend stayed in my apartment for a few weeks while she looked for her own living space. When she moved into her new place she left a few boxes in my apartment. A few days after my return we decided to meet for lunch and then reconvene at my apartment so she could get her things. That day the main road to my apartment was closed again so I took a long detour home. When I finally got there my friend had been waiting for me for quite a while. I asked how she got there so quickly and she told me about a shortcut she had discovered while I was away. I can not believe I have lived in this building for three years without knowing about this back road that avoids two busy intersections. Had the main road not been closed I may never have known it existed!

In addition to physical roadblocks, there have been numerous obstacles in my business life lately. For weeks I have been trying to set up a new email account with my current domain name I know that seems like a rather easy task, but my busy travel schedule this fall and new responsibilities with the Big Sky Retreat did not leave me much time to devote to this project. When I finally made time this week, I could not believe how complicated it was to get the company that hosts my domain name to communicate with the company that hosts my website. I thought I was making a wise investment by purchasing an email service with the company that hosts my domain name. I have used them since 2010 with no issues. However, the instructions to get the two websites communicating with each other had me completely baffled. I consider myself to be reasonably adept at figuring things out on the computer, but this was beyond my capabilities and my patience level.

Rather than spend more time on this project and risk further frustration, I decided to revisit the email account options with the company that hosts my website. This time I found them to be much simpler than the first time I looked. Setting up an account here was infinitely easier than the steps required with the other company, so I decided to cancel my original subscription. To my surprise and delight, the first company gave me a full refund since I hadn’t actually used the service yet. The email service with the other company is included in my current plan, so this roadblock ended up saving me time and money in the long run.

I hit yet another unexpected challenge the other night while attempting to move the recordings of my first online class from the cloud to YouTube. I did not know that when you choose the “private” setting for videos on YouTube that only people that have YouTube accounts can view them. I want the videos to be private since participants share personal stories in these classes, but not everyone has a YouTube account. There is another setting called “unlisted” that prevents videos from showing up in searches, but once people have the link they can post and share the videos at will. Neither of these options felt adequate for my needs.

This prompted me to investigate the privacy features of another video sharing site called Vimeo. I discovered that Vimeo gives users the option to require a password to watch certain videos. This I could provide to the participants very easily. Once again, what initially was a very frustrating obstacle ended up redirecting me to a better solution.

This week we celebrate Thanksgiving here in the U.S. Most Americans spend time reflecting on things they are grateful for like good health, friends, and family. This year I’m going to add roadblocks to my gratitude list. It may take a little time to find the blessing in them, but I believe all roadblocks will eventually direct us to something better.

Have you hit a roadblock recently? More than one like me? If so, maybe now is the time to invest in yourself and give yourself the gift of Life Coaching or Family Constellations. Both will give you the opportunity to see those roadblocks from a different perspective and how they might actually be blessings. I also offer gift certificates for all Coaching and Constellations sessions. This year you can give the gift of healing and transformation, gifts that truly keep on giving. Simply purchase a session or sessions on my website and then send an email to with the recipient’s contact information. Also, please note that pricing for Life Coaching sessions will go up slightly starting in 2018, so take advantage of the lower rates before the end of the year. It can be a gift you give yourself!

Until next time, be thankful for those roadblocks. They may just be the Universe saying, “I have a better way.”

Out Past the Edges

This week I have been getting the message loud and clear to go out past the edges of my comfort zone. On Saturday I had the opportunity to share the magic of Family Constellations at Unity of Houston in Texas. In addition to setting up traditional constellations, I felt strongly guided to create an exercise around Hurricane Harvey. In the five years I have been doing this work I have seen over and over again that when an event of this magnitude happens emotions can get stuck. Those emotions need to be expressed. No matter what the cause of the trauma, there usually isn’t time to process the emotions surrounding it. We feel we have to toughen up and keep going in order to get through it. Family Constellations provides a safe space to finally express those emotions whether they’ve been trapped for forty days or forty years.
Many Houstonians whose homes were ravaged by the flood waters are experiencing frustration and depression as they wait for the resources to clean up and make repairs. Most of us felt helpless as we watched the events unfold on our television screens wishing there was something we could do. Some living in Houston who did not get flooded were carrying a form of “survivor’s guilt.” Why did this happen to them and not to me? What I know for sure is that everyone in that city and beyond was affected by Harvey whether flood waters reached them or not. I wanted to be sensitive to where each participant was in the healing process while creating an experience that would be meaningful and beneficial to all. In the days prior to the event I took the question of how to accomplish this into my meditation and prayer time. Spirit gave me some ideas, but I wasn’t clear how all the pieces would fit together.

On the day of the workshop I thought about skipping the exercise because I wasn’t exactly sure how to set it up. However the urge to offer an opportunity for healing was too great to stay in my comfort zone. As I do before every constellation, I asked Spirit to guide me step by step on what to do. Once I got out of the way, the exercise kind of created itself. I instructed participants to form two circles as a sort of living mandala in the center of the room. The inner circle was composed of those that experienced the flood waters in their homes or neighborhood. I asked these people to stand in the center facing outward. The larger outer circle was made up of the participants that the flood waters did not reach. I invited these people to stand facing inward looking at the inner circle. Then I had them speak to each other with sentences I provided. “I was scared. I didn’t think the water would ever stop. I felt helpless. I didn’t know what to do.” I also gave them time to say anything else that was in their heart about that event. Once the emotions from both circles had been expressed, I invited them to close the gap between them and physically connect by placing their hands on each other’s shoulders or arms. The participants reported immediately feeling relieved to no longer be separate. Next I asked them to say aloud together, “What happens to one of us happens to all of us.” I wanted them to feel the truth of this statement while they remained physically connected. 

While this was happening there were four participants I purposely left outside the mandala to be the observers. These were people who either evacuated or did not live in Houston at the time of the storm. Now it was time to assign each of them a role without them knowing who they were. I wrote down what they would represent on small pieces of paper, folded the papers up, and handed one to each of them. Once they had their roles I asked them to find their place in the mandala. At first they attached on the outside, and then I invited them to make their way into the center. I asked each participant to somehow connect to one of these four new unknown elements so that everyone was touching at least one of them. All reported feeling better with these four there intuitively knowing they were there to help. These feelings of relief and comfort increased as each of the four revealed who they were by reading what I had written on their paper: God’s Love, Human Kindness, Infinite Resources, and Compassion.
The positive feedback I received after that exercise from the participants made me so grateful to have listened to Spirit and stepped outside my comfort zone. As if I needed confirmation, the message that Rev. Michael Gott shared at Unity of Houston the next day was titled, “At the End of the Comfort Zone.” Message received!

Could you use some assistance getting out past the edges of your comfort zone? You don’t have to do it alone. I would be honored to assist you with one of my four, six, or eight week Life Coaching programs, or with a private Family Constellations session. We can work together in person, by phone, or via Skype. Please look around my website for more information about all of these opportunities.

Until next time, take a few steps out past the edges of your comfort zone. That’s where the miracles happen!

The Gift of Grace

Some weeks I know exactly what I’m going to write about in this letter. Other weeks the topic eludes me until the last moment. This week was the latter. I do my best to share things that truly touch my heart, events which demonstrate that “miracles are natural. When they do not occur something has gone wrong.” That is miracle principle number 6 from A Course in Miracles. I love finding evidence that this principle is true.

Just last night I had a wonderful Family Constellations session via Skype with a new client. She was a delight to work with, and I felt the powerful release and shift in energy when the love that had been blocked started flowing again. Before we ended the call, she asked if she could say a prayer for me. This has never happened before, but since we had just finished talking about how important it is to receive as well as give, it felt appropriate to accept. Her prayer was so full of loving words and gratitude it brought tears to my eyes. I sat in front of my computer with my hands on my heart simply taking it all in. When she was finished, I told her how much her prayer moved me and thanked her again before ending the call.

After that I sat in silence for a few moments. I needed time to absorb what had just happened. It was very humbling. I felt immense gratitude to Spirit for using me in this way to facilitate healing and miracles. I can think of no greater honor. It shouldn’t surprise me that the next morning I read this in my daily lesson from the Course:

A miracle contains the gift of grace, for it is given and received as one.

I am grateful for the gift of grace from every single person I have ever worked with, including all of you who read my weekly stories. Without you, I wouldn’t have this opportunity to do what I love. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You are a blessing in my life.

There are more opportunities to experience the gift of grace either in person, by telephone, or online. We have three more online classes where you can “Create Miracles” with us every Sunday at 7PM Eastern / 4PM Pacific from the comfort of your own home. No worries if you missed the first two classes. You can catch up with the recordings or just take an individual class if you like. Visit the Miracles page on my website for more information and to register.

You can also join me for an upcoming Family Constellations workshop or schedule a private session. Family Constellations is a powerful tool to help you discover what may be blocking the love, health, or abundance from flowing into your life. I also offer four, six, and eight week Life Coaching programs to help you get past whatever might be trying to take away your peace in this moment. Please look around my website for more information about all of these opportunities.

Until next time, may the gift of grace make itself known to you in all areas of your life.

Love Knows No Limits

For those of you who have been reading my weekly stories for a while now, you know I am a big fan of miracles. I am both grateful and not surprised when they happen because I expect them! Well, another one happened last week. As I was preparing the material for my new online class “Create Miracles,” which is an introduction to A Course in Miracles, I ran across a video I shot at the beach about four years ago. As the waves rolled in I read the introduction to the Course. I used the ocean as a metaphor to explain the three lines contained in the introduction that are very familiar to most Course students. 

Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God.

In a nutshell, I interpret those sentences to mean “only love is real.” In the video, I talked about my mother to illustrate this point. For the last six years of her life my mother lived in Florida near me. During that time it was challenging to watch her life force gradually dwindle and her physical body slowly shut down. When she finally laid her body aside in April of 2011 I was very sad, but I was also happy for her because she was no longer suffering. I was grateful that she was free of the body that was failing her and the mind that was beginning to fail her. 

From A Course in Miracles perspective, since the body can be threatened, it must not be real. That’s not to say that we aren’t having the experience that the body is real. It sure feels real. But what I know for sure that is real is the love my mother and I had for each other. That love can never be threatened. Even though her body is not physically here anymore, the love we shared is very much alive and well in my heart. In fact, I feel her presence often.

There was one time shortly after her passing that I very clearly felt her presence. I won’t go into too many details because I have already written about that experience. About three months after she died a friend and I were having lunch at a Chinese restaurant discussing our mothers. I was telling him about my mom’s last days and he was sharing about his own mother’s latest antics. I had grabbed three fortune cookies from the big bin at the front of the restaurant. We both agreed that the third fortune cookie was for my mother. When we opened it I couldn’t believe my eyes. The fortune read, “The one you love is closer than you think.” That most certainly felt true.

This past Sunday, the day of the first class of “Create Miracles,” I went to that same Chinese restaurant by myself for lunch. I was thinking about what I would share with everyone about the introduction to the Course and thinking about the video I made at the beach. When it came time to open my fortune cookie I had to laugh. You guessed it. I got the same fortune. “The one you love is closer than you think.” I felt those angel bumps all through my body. It sure seemed like my mother wanted me to talk about her and share our lesson of unconditional love with the class. Six years later, that love cannot be threatened, and she’s still sending me messages so I don’t forget.

Would you like to experience more miracles in your life? It’s not too late to ”Create Miracles” with me during our 5 week journey into A Course in Miracles every Sunday at 7PM Eastern Time. We had a great first class last Sunday. That class was recorded for those who could not attend live. You can still sign up for all 5 weeks for a special price of only $75. I will send you a link to watch the classes you missed. Something magical happens when we come together to discuss miracles, and it definitely happened last Sunday even though we gathered virtually from the comfort of our own homes. As my mother keeps reminding me, love knows no limits! Go to for more information and to register.

If you prefer to share miracles one on one, I also offer private Life Coaching and Family Constellations sessions in person, and by phone and computer. The miracle of technology can bring us together wherever you are in the world. Please look around my website for more information.

Whenever you are having a difficult time no matter what the circumstances, may you always remember that love knows no limits…