Love is My Captain

A few weeks ago I had the honor and privilege of sailing the Caribbean Sea on a huge cruise ship with over 200 spiritual seekers. Dr. Kenn Gordon, the Spiritual Leader of the Centers for Spiritual Living, shared a message about trust using our ship as a metaphor. He spoke about having trust in the captain of the ship to get us to our ports of call and then home again. If he did not have this trust, he never would have boarded the ship. There certainly was no need for Dr. Gordon to go up to the bridge and steer the ship or direct the crew. Trust allowed him to enjoy the cruise and do what was his to do and let the captain and crew do what was theirs to do.

This metaphor really spoke to me. I believe we can trust that there is a force directing this cruise ship called “Life.” We can call it God, Spirit, the Universe, or not call it anything at all. I use all of those words, but sometimes I just call it Love. Just like the captain of the cruise ship, we can trust that Love will guide us to where we need to be and eventually back Home again. With Love as my captain, I don’t have to be concerned with how to get there, I just have to enjoy the ride and do the things that are mine to do along the way.

There have been many times in my life when I have had to let go and trust that I was being guided by Love. In 1992 I was guided to Orlando, FL. I did not know a soul there, but something told me I was supposed to be there. Those eight years turned out to be some of the most magical years of my life. I loved working with dolphins and Mickey Mouse. But eventually, I felt like my time in Orlando had come to an end. Once again I let Love guide me, and I started the new millennium in South Florida.

It was in 2001 that I experienced my “dark night of the ego,” for which I am extremely grateful. Yes grateful, because it forced me to do something different. The following year not only did I start going to church at Unity on the Bay in Miami but I also started massage school. My life changed in miraculous ways that year. I found a spiritual tribe and also my calling to help others on their path of healing and wholeness. It was one of my classmates from massage school that introduced me to the teachings of A Course in Miracles in 2006. That introduction was really my introduction to the Captain who had been steering the ship all along, and life continued to get better.

Because of a desire to open a spiritual retreat center with a dear friend, Love guided me to California in 2012. Alas, the retreat center was not meant to be, but during those nine months I met amazing people and learned many lessons. When I came back to Florida after what I call my “California Adventure,” I was pretty sure that the warm turquoise water, sandy beaches, and tropical climate would be my home base for the rest of my days. I knew I would travel for work and play, but the wave of gratitude I felt every time I returned home to Fort Lauderdale and looked out the airplane window to see that magnificent ocean below told me this was the place for me.

Well, now it is time to trust Love once again. I am feeling guided to move to Houston, TX where there are many blessings waiting for me in both my personal life and my professional life. No one could be more surprised by this than me! As I said, I truly thought Florida would be my home base for the rest of my days. However, if I truly trust Love, then I must go where the ship is taking me. This move isn’t happening until the second week of April, so I will enjoy Florida for the next six weeks. After the move, I plan to visit my amazing spiritual family and Mother Ocean in the Sunshine State as often as I can. Who knows? Perhaps one day Love will guide me back to Florida. But for now, I’m going to continue to enjoy the ride, do what is mine to do, and trust that I am exactly where I am supposed to be in every moment.

One of my favorite quotes from A Course in Miracles appears in Lesson 42 in the Workbook for Students:

Your passage through time and space is not at random. You cannot but be in the right place at the right time.

I know this to be true for each and every one of us. Yes, it may not feel like it at times, but if we look back at our lives with an open heart and open mind, we can see how each event has led us to the next perfectly. If you could use some assistance seeing this or in trusting Love to be your captain, it would be my great honor to be the voice of Love with a Life Coaching session or series of sessions. All of my sessions are based on the strong principles of A Course in Miracles and other New Thought teachings. Once I share some of the tools and techniques that have worked for me, you can relax and enjoy the ride too. Look around my website or send me an email for more information.

Family Constellations is another great tool to help you surrender to Love. Please join me for an upcoming group session or send me an email to schedule a private session in person, by phone, or via Skype. For my friends in South Florida, the workshop at Bridges of Wellness this Saturday, February 24 from 2-5 PM may be the last one before I move so I hope you will be there to experience this magical afternoon of healing and soul connection.

Until next time, I invite you to enjoy the cruise, do only what’s yours to do, and let Love be your Captain.

It’s More Important Than Ever to Choose Love

A tragic shooting happened this week at a high school just 23 miles from my home in Fort Lauderdale, FL. No, it doesn’t make sense. Mass shootings like this or any acts of violence for that matter never do and never will. They leave us feeling a wide range of emotions like fear, anger, hatred, sadness, and helplessness. Yes, we need to allow ourselves to feel any and all of them as they come up. And then what?

When things like this happen, trying to find blame or make sense of it will not benefit anyone. But there is something you can do…choose love. If you haven’t heard of it, I’d like to introduce you to the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Foundation. It was created by one of my forgiveness heroes, Scarlett Lewis. Scarlett is the mother of Jesse Lewis, a young boy who lost his life in a similar school shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in December of 2012. I highly recommend her book Nurturing Healing Love: A Mother’s Journey of Hope and Forgiveness. Let me be clear, this is not a book about a mass shooting. The way Scarlett turned this tragedy into an inspiring story of hope and then into a foundation that is literally changing the world is nothing short of miraculous.

If you’d like to do something that will make a difference, I encourage you to make a donation large or small to the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Foundation. This organization develops enrichment programs for schools to teach children and teachers alike the power each of us has to change our thoughts and choose a life without fear and hate. The following is from their website:

The Choose Love Enrichment ProgramTM is a free Pre-K through 12th grade social and emotional learning program that teaches educators and their students how to choose love in any circumstance and helps them become connected, resilient, and empowered individuals. These skills, tools, and attitudes have been proven through decades of scientific research to be the best way to ensure a healthy, meaningful and purpose-filled life.

If you are a teacher or in any way involved in the education system, please consider bringing this program to your school. Why wouldn’t you? It’s free! Click these links to watch a video testimonial from both a student and a teacher involved in the program. Together we can indeed make a difference one student and one school at a time. I envision a day where horrible news stories like the one we heard this week are a thing of the past.

Until next time, please join me in praying for peace to comfort those who have lost loved ones in this or any other tragedy. Let’s do our best to not let fear close our hearts and keep choosing love!

You Want Me To Do What?

Last week I was blessed to be on a cruise ship in the Western Caribbean Sea celebrating the 90th Anniversary of the Science of Mind Magazine. One of the best parts of that experience was being totally unplugged from social media, emails, and text messaging for six days. My phone remained in airplane mode the entire cruise. I only used it to take pictures and to tell time. It’s not that I don’t love being connected to my friends, my family, and all of you. I do. In fact, in the Oneness we are always connected. However, it felt very good to be fully present with the wonderful people I met on the ship without my phone to distract me. Like most things, our technological gadgets can be both a blessing and a curse. If you are able to give yourself this gift sometime I highly recommend it.



Over two hundred people came from around the country and the world to take part in this event. I was honored to be asked to lead a thirty minute guided meditation on our last day at sea as part of that day’s programming. I begin each of my Family Constellations workshops and A Course in Miracles study groups with a guided meditation, but they are usually between ten and fifteen minutes. What would I do for twice that amount of time? Could I play my crystal singing bowl that long and fill the space or should I bring some meditation music? Should I share the Ancestor Meditation I use for Family Constellations or would that be too weird out of context? Maybe I should just do one of the releasing or surrendering meditations I do with my Life Coaching clients. These were the questions bouncing around in my head prior to the cruise. 



I was so grateful not to be scheduled to lead the meditation on our first day together. That honor went to Dr. Michelle Medrano of the Mile Hi Church in Denver. As I sat there Monday morning listening to her gentle, soothing voice take us on a journey, those questions about my meditation started bouncing in my head again. As soon as I started thinking about the Ancestor Meditation those familiar tingles ran all through my body letting me know that was what I was supposed to share. Alright then. Spirit has been using that particular communication device long enough for me to know I need to pay attention to whatever I’m thinking about in that moment. I decided I would simply take my time and give them the deluxe version of that meditation allowing plenty of time for my crystal singing bowl to work its magic at the end. 



At 8:30 Friday morning I made my way to the front of the room and placed my crystal bowl on the table. I invited the attendees to close their eyes and get comfortable while I gave them a sample of the transformative power of connecting with their ancestors. I tapped the side of the bowl with my suede stick four times to honor each of the four directions and then began running the stick around the circumference to make it sing. As the bowl hummed, I did my best to get out of the way and let Spirit give me the words to connect us all with heart energy. Then, generation by generation, I invited our ancestors to take their place behind us, extending back beyond the horizon. Those first twenty-five minutes flew by. I only had an extra five minutes to let everyone marinate in the flow of love and light coming from behind and moving forward to their descendants and creations. At 9 o’clock I chimed the bowl three times. When the sound completely faded I put the bowl back in its case and sat down, trusting that what just happened was exactly what was supposed to happen. 



Well, I got my confirmation pretty quickly. A man sitting in the row behind me tapped me on the shoulder. I turned around to see tears in his eyes as he told me the experience felt like pure love. What higher compliment could one receive? On our next break, a few other attendees shared that they too had powerful experiences with their ancestors. I’m not sharing this to toot my own horn. I am very aware that it is not me but Spirit working through me that people responded to. My job is to listen for guidance, or in some cases “feel” that guidance, and then act on it, even if it seems weird or out of my comfort zone. When I do this, the results never cease to amaze me.



This experience reminded me of the time many years ago when my friend Kate asked me to deliver a blessing at her commitment ceremony, ironically held at the Science of Mind Church here in Fort Lauderdale. I told her it would be an honor. Shortly after I began pondering what I would say, I received the message to share a short guided meditation as the blessing. I quickly dismissed this idea and went back to my search for nice words to bless my friend, her partner, and this new chapter of their journey together. Despite my best efforts to suppress it, that silly idea kept popping back into my head, this time with images. Reluctantly, I called Kate to ask her how she felt about it. Kate had been a stage manager for many years. Her response was, “You’ve got five minutes. Do whatever you like but don’t go over!”



Once I got the green light from Kate, many more images for the meditation started flooding my brain. I surrendered and let them come. But, much like my deliberation before the cruise last week, many times prior to the ceremony I abandoned the idea of a guided meditation in favor of the safer option to just say some sweet things about my friends. Well, the day of the ceremony arrived and I still wasn’t sure which way to go. Luckily, I didn’t have much time to think about it. Seconds after the brides reached the altar and we all sat down the minister called me up to do the blessing. I was on!



I took a deep breath and let the congregation know I was going to take them on a short journey to honor the coming together of these two beautiful souls. I know I invited them to join hands, but I don’t remember much of what happened after that. The next thing I knew I was sitting back in my chair in the front row while the ceremony continued. This was very early in my spiritual journey. I had never done anything like that before. As I sat there I kept wondering what possessed me to do that and what must people be thinking! 



After the ceremony, my roommate told me that he felt electricity running through the whole sanctuary when everyone joined hands. Since he was my friend I thought he was just being nice. Then, at the reception, something miraculous happened. A woman I’ll call Mary approached me and asked if she could share her experience during the meditation. Uh oh. My mouth said “sure” but the rest of my body wanted to run and hide. 



Mary began by telling me she was a dancer, very energetic, and had a hard time focusing. A few years prior to this, a friend had gifted her a reading with a psychic medium for her birthday. Mary was skeptical, but because it was a gift, she made an appointment anyway. Apparently this psychic was the real deal because she knew things about Mary’s grandmother that no one could have known. Mary loved this grandmother dearly, so when the psychic told her Grandma recommended that she start meditating to calm down and focus, Mary took it seriously. 



After the reading, Mary tried many different meditation techniques. She went to workshops and read books on meditation. Nothing worked. No matter what she tried, Mary could not quiet her mind so she eventually gave up. So on that day in 2006, (which also happened to be my birthday) when I announced to the congregation that I was going to lead them in a short guided meditation, Mary rolled her eyes and prepared to be frustrated for the next five minutes.



To her surprise, when I invited everyone to open their eyes and become aware of the room again, Mary said she felt like she had been asleep for hours and had woken up refreshed and revitalized. She couldn’t believe it had only been five minutes. (Yes, Kate the stage manager was very happy.) Mary thanked me profusely and said she was going to give meditation another try now that she knew she could do it. That was one of the best birthday gifts I have ever received.



Is there something outside of your comfort zone that you have been avoiding? Is that still small voice inside urging you to try it anyway? Are you receiving some form of guidance from within that doesn’t seem to make sense? Yes, by definition it will feel uncomfortable! However, I will tell you that every time I have taken a step outside my comfort zone it has led to something magnificent and made a positive impact in ways beyond anything I could have imagined. Try it for yourself and see.



It would be my great honor to cheer you on as you step outside your comfort zone. I offer single Life Coaching sessions as well as four, six, and eight week packages at a discounted price. Maybe you’re ready to connect with your ancestors in a powerful way. Join me for an upcoming Family Constellations workshop or schedule a private session in person, by phone, or via Skype. You will be amazed by what is revealed and healed in these sessions. Please look around my website for more information about all of these opportunities. Send me an email with any questions or to schedule an appointment. 



Until next time, I invite you to unplug for a moment and listen. What is that still small voice trying to tell you?