Where’s Your Happy Place?

I just returned from a wonderful and very full four days in Fort Lauderdale. To all those I did not get to see this time, please forgive me. My schedule was packed with events, a Family Constellations Workshop, and seeing as many beloved friends and spiritual family members as possible. In fact, by Monday afternoon, my body was telling me that perhaps I had planned too much in those four days. I was exhausted!

However, one of the things I really hoped to do while in town was walk on the sidewalk along that stretch of beach where I used to do my cardio every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday morning. Not only did I need the exercise, I knew a dip in Mother Ocean would be amazingly refreshing. She is always more than willing to carry away my worries and any energy that no longer serves. Since my flight back to Houston was early Tuesday morning, I was running out of opportunities to get there. Finally, after a great Miracle Monday ACIM study group at Bridges Spiritual Centers followed by a magical burrito with my friend Charles, a break in the action presented itself. Charles graciously lent me the keys to his car and said, “Go!”

Words fall short of expressing the joy I felt as I trotted along that familiar route as the sun went down that evening. It’s my absolute favorite time to be at the beach. The temperature is cooler, the sky is often painted with brush strokes of pink and orange, and the water becomes that mystical, silvery color. When I finished walking the four miles, I wasted no time removing my sneakers and socks so I could wade into the gentle, rolling waves. As I submerged myself in the warm water it felt like a reunion with an old friend. All the busyness of the weekend melted away as I floated on my back letting Mother Ocean completely support me. My body is relaxing just typing these words.

Eventually, I had to force myself to get out knowing I needed to get back and shower before dinner. My contentment must have been obvious because as I walked up the beach the life guard mentioned how happy I looked floating in the water. I certainly was. That spot on Fort Lauderdale Beach will always have a very special place in my heart. I spent many a morning and evening there simply basking in gratitude feeling blessed to live so close to the ocean. It is my Happy Place for sure.

Where is your Happy Place and when was the last time you were there? Of course, happiness is an inside job, but it doesn’t hurt to get a little help from the outside once in a while. If you’ve been feeling stressed or overwhelmed lately, I encourage you to visit your Happy Place as soon as possible. You could physically go somewhere in nature that makes your heart smile or just take a few moments to go there in your mind during your meditation or quiet time. Maybe your Happy Place is your sofa while reading a good book or watching an old movie. Perhaps it is an outdoor cafe where you can people watch while sipping a cup of tea or cappuccino. Wherever or whatever it is, there’s no better time than the present to go there. Your soul will thank you! And whatever task or project you’re working on will benefit from this infusion of happiness.

If I can help you find your Happy Place with a Family Constellations or Life Coaching session or series of sessions, please don’t hesitate to contact me. It makes me happy to assist others in experiencing more peace, love, and joy in their own lives. For more information or to schedule a session please look around my website or send me an email.

Until next time, I look forward to receiving a wave of contentment from your Happy Place! Let me know in the comments below where that is and enjoy your stay…

“God’s Will for me is perfect happiness.” ~ A Course in Miracles – Workbook Lesson 101

Frustration to Magic

It’s very easy to become frustrated with life’s little inconveniences until they turn into magic right before your eyes. I had that experience recently.

Several weeks ago I was with friends in a beautiful gift shop in Long Beach, California called Fern’s Garden. As we wandered through this magnificent garden filled with angels, wind chimes, and other eclectic gifts, I ran across a bin of tiny gold genie lamps. I couldn’t NOT get one for my dear friend and kindred spirit, Radleigh Valentine. Why? Radleigh’s most recent book with Hay House Publishing is titled, How to be Your Own Genie: Manifesting the Magical Life You Were Born to Live.

I love this book and I love Radleigh, so I thought it would be a silly but cute little gift to give him when I visited his city later that month. Well, the first frustration came when our schedules did not allow us to see each other that weekend. It was disappointing, but there was not much we could do about it. The little genie lamp came back home with me and I decided to mail it to him instead. With all the junk mail we receive these days, I thought he would enjoy receiving something fun from a friend.

When I got home I made a card, placed the little lamp inside, and sealed the envelope. Because it was bulky, I took it to the post office to ensure it had enough postage. I was surprised when the Houston postal worker only asked for 94 cents. Something told me it should have cost more than that, but who am I to argue with the man who works there?

It seemed odd that more than a week passed before I heard from Radleigh. Eventually, he sent me a text message asking if times were tough because he received something from me with postage due. I knew he was teasing, but I was not happy with that Houston postal worker for not collecting the right amount of money. Here I was trying to be thoughtful and instead, I added something to my busy friend’s to do list! To make matters worse, Radleigh was out of town at the time, so now this “thoughtful gift” may involve someone else having to make a trip to the post office. If that didn’t happen, there was a chance the gift would be sent back to me. Yes, I was frustrated.

Another week passed before Radleigh sent another text message with a photo of the incriminating letter and the caption, “Bail Posted.” I was glad he received my gift, but I was still frustrated that he had to make a special trip to the post office to pay the postage due. That frustration dissipated when he told me what happened that day.

Not surprisingly, there was a long line at the post office. When an elderly woman with mobility challenges joined the line behind him, Radleigh insisted she move in front of him. She tried to refuse, but Radleigh’s mother raised him to be a gentleman. He wasn’t taking no for an answer. That’s when something magical happened. Witnessing his kindness, every other person in line followed suit and the elderly woman went directly to the front of the line and was out of there in 3 minutes.

As soon as he shared this story, I knew that all of the frustration happened for a reason. Radleigh did too, which is one of the many reasons we are kindred spirits. He was definitely supposed to be in line at the post office at that exact moment to initiate that magical experience for everyone there. As if that weren’t magical enough, the postal worker who took care of him had seen what happened and told him he didn’t have to pay the postage due. Yes, sometimes frustration can turn into magic if we choose to see it that way.

Could you use some magic in your life? I highly encourage you to follow Radleigh Valentine on Facebook and Instagram or catch his show “Magical Things” on Hay House Radio every Thursday afternoon at 4 PM Central Time. If you or someone you love feels stuck, How to Be Your Own Genie might be just the book to help get the magic flowing again. Radleigh presents some tried and true tools in a fun and fresh way so you can start granting your own wishes! You can purchase this book on amazon.com or wherever you like to buy spiritual books. As always, if I can assist you with Life Coaching or Family Constellations, please look around my website or send me an email for more information.

Until next time, may you be open to the possibility that your frustrations could indeed turn into magic!

A miracle is never lost. It may touch many people you have not even met, and produce undreamed of changes in situations of which you are not even aware.

A Course in Miracles – T-1.I.45 (Miracle Principle 45)

Lessons from a Six-Year-Old

We can learn so much from children. They remind us how to be playful and be in the moment. I lost track of time laughing and playing on the inflatable slides and bounce houses at the water park in Cozumel last week with my friends’ six-year-old daughter. It was one of the highlights of my trip. The next day was not quite as fun when that same little girl had a meltdown. Things had not gone her way that morning and by lunchtime she had gotten herself so worked up that she crawled under the table at the restaurant. When she finally emerged she continued crying for quite a while.

Granted, that sort of thing is to be expected once in a while from a six-year-old. To the six adults at the table, it was very clear that it was just her thoughts that were making her so miserable. Nothing was really wrong. We were still in a gorgeous location having lunch with loved ones by the turquoise waters of the Caribbean Sea with plenty of options for fun later that day. Despite our efforts to shift her focus to happier thoughts, she was locked on the unfairness of life.

According to A Course in Miracles, that is one of the things the ego does best. It looks past any loving thoughts and only looks for evidence of wrongdoing. Haven’t we all done that? Even though I know better there are still times when I allow my negative thoughts to get on a runaway train speeding away from peace and joy. As a matter of fact, I jumped on that train later that day. After learning some unexpected news, I found myself very upset and unable to return to peace. There I was sitting on a balcony in Cozumel with a beautiful view of the ocean feeling unhappy! It seems preposterous, yet a testament to the fact that happiness truly is an inside job.

Here was my opportunity to learn the lesson from the six-year-old. Just like her upset, I knew it was my thoughts about the situation that were making me unhappy. I didn’t try to bypass them. I simply allowed myself to be upset for a while knowing that I had to feel my feelings first. Then, I did my best to not think about the situation and focus instead on all the blessings around me. I won’t say that those thoughts didn’t try to creep back in, but taking a step back to be the observer kept me from crawling under the table and crying at dinner. I’m happy to say it turned out to be a wonderful meal with lots of laughter and chocolate lava cake. Who could be upset with that? By the next day, the news that caused my upset had a happy resolution. That made me even more grateful that I did not dwell on it because I would have missed out on a beautiful evening.

Is there a situation in your life that is trying to take away your peace or convince you of the unfairness of life? I would be happy to help you step off that train and start feeling peace and joy again with a Life Coaching or Family Constellations session. Both will give you tools and a new perspective so you won’t have to crawl under a table. Look around my website or send me an email for more information or to book a session.

And the next time you find yourself on that speeding train, I invite you to feel your feelings, take a few deep breaths, and when you’re ready, jump off that train into a happier thought.

“Remember always that you see what you seek, for what you seek you will find. The ego finds what it seeks, and only that. It does not find love, for that is not what it is seeking.”

A Course in Miracles – T-12.VII.6