A Gift from Grandma

Anyone who has been to one of my Family Constellations workshops knows I begin each one with a short meditation inviting participants to visualize their ancestors standing behind them offering support and strength. Since I am the one guiding the meditation while simultaneously playing my crystal singing bowl, it’s challenging to visualize this for myself. Well, not to worry. Earlier this month I was blessed to feel the love and support of my ancestors behind me quite unexpectedly during a financial coaching session with Karen Russo.

Karen is the author of The Money Keys and was one of our fabulous keynote speakers at the 2018 Big Sky Retreat. I love the way she talks about money from a spiritual perspective. Karen says, “Money worries are a faith issue, not a financial issue.” Things are going well for me, but they can always be better. Since I resonated deeply with her message at Big Sky, and given what I know about my family history, I decided to invest in myself and my business. Since she was right here in Houston I scheduled a one-on-one session with her and I’m so glad I did!

Karen began our session with a short centering prayer. I closed my eyes and before she could utter a word, I felt the presence of my mother standing behind me on the left and her mother directly behind her. I couldn’t believe how quickly it happened and without the slightest conscious invitation from either of us. A moment later my father took his place behind me on the right, and then the rest of my ancestors filed in accordingly. I was grateful for their presence and understood right away why they were there.

Just like parents want their children to have better lives than they had, the same is true of our ancestors. They don’t want us to have the same challenges and struggles they had. They want us to be happy, healthy, and prosperous. What would be the point for them to overcome those obstacles only to have us repeat the pattern? It seems obvious once you think about it, but if you’re like me, you’ve probably never thought about it.

Over the past seven years, I have participated in and facilitated hundreds of Family Constellations. During that time, one thing has become abundantly clear. Not only do we inherit physical characteristics like hair color and eye color from our ancestors, but we can also inherit family traumas. Because they are buried deep in our unconscious mind, we usually don’t know that they are there. Once we shine a light on them we can connect the dots and recognize the pattern.

As I said, it did not surprise me when my mother and grandmother showed up. In the summer of 1930, almost a year into the Great Depression, my grandmother was eight months pregnant with my mother when my grandfather died unexpectedly in a swimming accident. Suddenly she had no husband, no job, very little money, and only a month before her new baby arrived. I can only imagine what she was feeling during that time. In addition to her pain and grief, financial worries must have been constant.

Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D. is a pioneer in the field of epigenetics and an internationally recognized leader in bridging science and spirit. In his book The Biology of Belief, he says that our egg is present in our mother by the fifth month of our grandmother’s pregnancy. That means the egg that would become little Johnny was present when my grandmother received the devastating news about her husband. My mother, my siblings and I were all marinating in the energy of pain and scarcity both before and after my mother’s birth.

Forty-six years later, my father died after a long journey with cancer. Now my mother was experiencing her own pain and grief while having similar financial worries. How would she provide for five children with only a part-time job and no husband to help pay the bills? And so the pattern repeated. Once again I was immersed in the energy of “there’s not enough.” That’s why I was not surprised when my mother and grandmother showed up during my session with Karen. I know for sure they don’t want me to have the same struggles with money that they had. They want to help me release any lingering beliefs about money that are not serving me.

After the meditation, I couldn’t wait to tell Karen what had happened. It was a wonderful start to a wonderful session. I could feel my ancestors cheering me on as Karen suggested some smart business practices for me to implement. She also gave me several practical tools to work with. I left that session with greater clarity and a strong sense of optimism about my financial future. Thank you, Karen, Mom, Grandma, and all of my ancestors. I will honor you by having a different relationship with money. I will value the work I do and trust that money flows to me and through me easily and abundantly so I may continue to do great work in the world. Thank you for showing up and blessing me to do it differently!

If you could use some spiritual coaching around money, I highly recommend working with Karen Russo. Visit her website, follow her on Facebook, and find her books on amazon.com or wherever books are sold. If my story resonates with you and you recognize a repeating pattern in your family, know that your ancestors are behind you cheering you on to break the cycle. If you would like to experience the magic of Family Constellations to help you in this endeavor, please reach out to me for a private session or join me for an upcoming group session. You can find more information on my website or send me an email to book a session.

Until next time, may you remember the love and support of your ancestors is always behind you.

A Friendship Miracle

What exactly is a miracle? There are many different definitions out there. I like the simplicity of Miracle Principle number 26 in Chapter 1 of A Course in Miracles: “Miracles represent freedom from fear.” To me, this means anytime I shift my perception from fear to love, it’s a miracle. It’s an inside job. A miracle does not require anything in the outside world to change. Miracle Principle number 35 says: “Miracles are expressions of love, but they may not always have observable effects.” Sometimes the effects are observable, but the real benefit is the freedom from fear. I experienced a miracle like that on my way to Richmond, Virginia last month.

I was not able to find a nonstop flight from Houston to Richmond, so I booked a flight that had a three-hour layover in Atlanta. That was alright with me because I have many beloved friends in Atlanta. I was hoping at least one of them would be free to join me for lunch at the airport. To my delight, one of my dearest friends whom I worked with my first summer at Disney World was able to meet me. She and I had not seen each other in years, so it was wonderful to catch up on all the happenings in each other’s lives.

We had planned on parting ways at about 1:45 so she could get home in time to meet her kids at the bus stop and I could get back to my gate well before my 2:45 flight. I mentioned that we hadn’t seen each other in years, right? Well, we laughed and chatted until 2 so I didn’t actually get to the TSA line until a few minutes after 2. As I stood there for at least another twenty minutes, I realized I had made a grave error in judgment thinking I could get back to my gate in less than a half hour. By the time my backpack and crystal singing bowl made it through the X-ray machine, I was more than a little stressed and beating myself up for not allowing more time to get through security. How embarrassing to miss my flight when I had been at the airport since 11:15 AM!

Once I got my shoes back on and retrieved my belongings, I bolted down the stairs to the platform to catch the next train that carries passengers to the terminals. It was now 2:30 and I was panicking. I still had to travel past Terminal A and B before getting to my gate at Terminal C. It was probably only 30 seconds, but it felt like 30 minutes before the next train arrived. When the doors opened I made my way to the back of the train car and sat down to pray. I needed a miracle!

I asked that Spirit take away my fear and replace it with something else. After a few moments and a few deep breaths, a wave of peace washed over me. I realized no matter what happened, I would be okay. If I missed my flight I could take a later one. It would be inconvenient, but I would still get there. Freaking out on that train would not change my situation, only my experience of it, so I surrendered to whatever was going to happen and continued to breathe.

When the train arrived at Terminal C, I jumped out and politely but firmly made my way through the crowd, ran up the escalator and walked briskly to my gate. My heart was beating pretty fast when I arrived at gate C11. It wasn’t a good sign that there were no other passengers at the gate. However, there was a gate agent still standing at the podium by the jetway. Was it possible they had not closed the doors yet?

Fortunately for me, they hadn’t, but they had removed my ticket from the computer system. The gate agent yelled my name to her coworker at the other desk and after a few more moments and clicks on her keyboard, I was walking down the jetway. My heart was still beating quickly, but it was also overflowing with gratitude. I made it. Since I was flying Southwest I did not have an assigned seat. Being the last one on the plane, I took the walk of shame down the center aisle while everyone looked at me. I plopped myself down in a window seat in an empty row at the back of the plane. Grace was with me that day because the airplane was only half full, or half empty depending on your point of view. It truly was a miracle!

Some might say the miracle was the fact that I made the flight or that it was not full. Don’t get me wrong. I was extremely grateful for those two things. However, the real miracle was my freedom from fear while riding that train. I had some very unloving thoughts about myself for not being more mindful of the time. All of that worry and fear only caused me to suffer. It did not change the outcome. Not only did I make the flight, but I also had an extra fifteen minutes with my friend to listen and offer her support on a matter that was heavy on her heart. In the end, love found a way to make it all happen. Now that is a true miracle!

Would you like to experience a true miracle in your life? Don’t let fear live in your heart any longer. Ask Spirit to take it from you and replace it with something else, namely peace, love, and joy. I would be honored to assist you in that endeavor with a series of Life Coaching sessions or a Family Constellations session. Through the miracle of technology, both can be done from anywhere in the world! All of my sessions are based on the strong principles found in A Course in Miracles and other New Thought teachings. Please look around my website or send me an email for more information and to schedule a session. Don’t wait. It’s time for a miracle!

“Miracles honor you because you are lovable. They dispel illusions about yourself and perceive the light in you.”

Miracle Principle 33 from A Course in Miracles

Not What I Expected

I will admit I’m a little tired after the extensive traveling I did last month. It started with the Big Sky Retreat in Montana, followed by a week at Serenity Farm in Virginia, and ended with a trip to Dallas last weekend to facilitate a workshop at HeartSpace Spiritual Center. I don’t usually schedule that many events in one month. I considered postponing my Virginia trip, but my dear friend and Serenity Farm hostess, Gail Courville, suggested I come that week so we could attend a conference in nearby Charlottesville where Marianne Williamson was speaking. Gail was also hosting a house concert on Saturday night featuring two musicians whom I met and fell in love with earlier this year at the Posi Awards. If you don’t know the music of Bob Sima and Shannon Plummer, find them on iTunes or visit their website. You are in for a treat. I knew I wanted to be there for the concert, and hearing Marianne speak at a smaller event would be interesting, so I went ahead and booked my flight.

To say we packed a lot into those six days would be an understatement. Thursday and Friday were full days of private and group Family Constellations sessions. We also held a Fall Equinox Ceremony on Thursday to welcome the change of seasons. A few weeks before my trip, Gail suggested we add a session on Saturday morning to allow those interested in Family Constellations the opportunity to go deeper into the philosophy behind it. Not only did more people attend than I expected, the powerful healings that happened in the first fifteen minutes told me adding the morning session was a good choice. It flowed so well I may shift the way I present workshops in the future.

We finished another full day of Family Constellations on Saturday just before people started to arrive with food for the potluck dinner and house concert. One might have assumed our special guest musicians, Bob and Shannon, had been with us all day. The songs Bob chose to open the concert were about a mother’s love, healing, and generational pain. Those of us who had been there all day sat with our jaws hanging open. The lyrics definitely struck a chord with us as Bob later joked while striking a chord on his guitar. I shouldn’t have been surprised. We were sitting in the “Knowing Field,” the area of the house where we had been working all day. As anyone who has been in the Knowing Field knows, that’s where the magic and miracles happen. It was the perfect ending to a powerful day, and more than I expected.

The next morning I attended the 11 AM service at Unity of Bon Air followed by my afternoon Family Constellations workshop. Meanwhile, Gail stayed at Serenity Farm to host Bob and Shannon’s Sunday afternoon workshop on Practical Breathwork. The plan was for Gail and me to jump in the car when I returned to Serenity Farm so we could drive to Charlottesville in time to hear Marianne Williamson. It was an ambitious and optimistic plan.

After the day’s activities and driving back in the rain on unfamiliar roads (passing a few accidents along the way), I was relieved to turn onto the long driveway leading to the main house at Serenity Farm. It was as if my soul took a deep breath and relaxed. If I had tapped into my heart’s desires at that moment, I would have known that getting back on the road again for another 45-minute drive to Charlottesville was not what it wanted. However, when I entered the house, I did notice my heart’s desire to join Gail, Bob, Shannon, and the remaining workshop participants at the dining room table. I sat with them for a moment, but I had it in my head we needed to get going, so I ran upstairs to put my stuff away and change clothes.

Thank goodness I am part of a community that knows how to tap into the heart. Gail joined me upstairs a few minutes later and expressed exactly what I was feeling. After all the busyness of the weekend, we both wanted to stay put and have some quality time with our guests, so that’s what we chose. During the course of the evening, Bob and I discovered we had a lot in common, including some very specific family dynamics. It got a little freaky at one point when we both started sneezing as if sneezing were as contagious as yawning. The four of us stayed up talking well past midnight, and I am beyond grateful for the heart connections made that evening. I’m sure Marianne was brilliant, but I would not trade that quality time with Bob, Shannon, and Gail for anything. It was not the weekend I expected, it was better!

My six years of facilitating Family Constellations have taught me to check in with my heart, trust my instincts, and go with the flow. When I do, miracles happen and things turn out better than I could have expected. It would be my great honor to help you experience the same thing with Life Coaching or a private Family Constellations session. Both can be done by telephone or computer from anywhere in the world. Visit my website or send me an email for more information and to schedule a session.

Until next time, may things be not what you expected but better!