Anyone who has been to one of my Family Constellations workshops knows I begin each one with a short meditation inviting participants to visualize their ancestors standing behind them offering support and strength. Since I am the one guiding the meditation while simultaneously playing my crystal singing bowl, it’s challenging to visualize this for myself. Well, not to worry. Earlier this month I was blessed to feel the love and support of my ancestors behind me quite unexpectedly during a financial coaching session with Karen Russo.
Karen is the author of The Money Keys and was one of our fabulous keynote speakers at the 2018 Big Sky Retreat. I love the way she talks about money from a spiritual perspective. Karen says, “Money worries are a faith issue, not a financial issue.” Things are going well for me, but they can always be better. Since I resonated deeply with her message at Big Sky, and given what I know about my family history, I decided to invest in myself and my business. Since she was right here in Houston I scheduled a one-on-one session with her and I’m so glad I did!
Karen began our session with a short centering prayer. I closed my eyes and before she could utter a word, I felt the presence of my mother standing behind me on the left and her mother directly behind her. I couldn’t believe how quickly it happened and without the slightest conscious invitation from either of us. A moment later my father took his place behind me on the right, and then the rest of my ancestors filed in accordingly. I was grateful for their presence and understood right away why they were there.
Just like parents want their children to have better lives than they had, the same is true of our ancestors. They don’t want us to have the same challenges and struggles they had. They want us to be happy, healthy, and prosperous. What would be the point for them to overcome those obstacles only to have us repeat the pattern? It seems obvious once you think about it, but if you’re like me, you’ve probably never thought about it.
Over the past seven years, I have participated in and facilitated hundreds of Family Constellations. During that time, one thing has become abundantly clear. Not only do we inherit physical characteristics like hair color and eye color from our ancestors, but we can also inherit family traumas. Because they are buried deep in our unconscious mind, we usually don’t know that they are there. Once we shine a light on them we can connect the dots and recognize the pattern.
As I said, it did not surprise me when my mother and grandmother showed up. In the summer of 1930, almost a year into the Great Depression, my grandmother was eight months pregnant with my mother when my grandfather died unexpectedly in a swimming accident. Suddenly she had no husband, no job, very little money, and only a month before her new baby arrived. I can only imagine what she was feeling during that time. In addition to her pain and grief, financial worries must have been constant.
Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D. is a pioneer in the field of epigenetics and an internationally recognized leader in bridging science and spirit. In his book The Biology of Belief, he says that our egg is present in our mother by the fifth month of our grandmother’s pregnancy. That means the egg that would become little Johnny was present when my grandmother received the devastating news about her husband. My mother, my siblings and I were all marinating in the energy of pain and scarcity both before and after my mother’s birth.
Forty-six years later, my father died after a long journey with cancer. Now my mother was experiencing her own pain and grief while having similar financial worries. How would she provide for five children with only a part-time job and no husband to help pay the bills? And so the pattern repeated. Once again I was immersed in the energy of “there’s not enough.” That’s why I was not surprised when my mother and grandmother showed up during my session with Karen. I know for sure they don’t want me to have the same struggles with money that they had. They want to help me release any lingering beliefs about money that are not serving me.
After the meditation, I couldn’t wait to tell Karen what had happened. It was a wonderful start to a wonderful session. I could feel my ancestors cheering me on as Karen suggested some smart business practices for me to implement. She also gave me several practical tools to work with. I left that session with greater clarity and a strong sense of optimism about my financial future. Thank you, Karen, Mom, Grandma, and all of my ancestors. I will honor you by having a different relationship with money. I will value the work I do and trust that money flows to me and through me easily and abundantly so I may continue to do great work in the world. Thank you for showing up and blessing me to do it differently!
If you could use some spiritual coaching around money, I highly recommend working with Karen Russo. Visit her website, follow her on Facebook, and find her books on amazon.com or wherever books are sold. If my story resonates with you and you recognize a repeating pattern in your family, know that your ancestors are behind you cheering you on to break the cycle. If you would like to experience the magic of Family Constellations to help you in this endeavor, please reach out to me for a private session or join me for an upcoming group session. You can find more information on my website or send me an email to book a session.
Until next time, may you remember the love and support of your ancestors is always behind you.