“I wouldn’t blame your experience of feeling good on your circumstances.” These words spoken in a YouTube video sent to me by a friend arrived at the perfect time. In this video, a woman was sharing about her expanded sense of well being while at a seminar in beautiful Costa Rica. The facilitators cautioned her not to attach her experience of well being to the physical place. They reminded her that she brought that sense of well being with her and allowed it to expand by choosing to attend the event.
To illustrate this point, one of the facilitators shared that he began experiencing severe pain from a dying tooth nerve shortly after landing in Costa Rica. Obviously, this was not what he was hoping to experience in this beautiful setting. He could have chosen to hold on to a story that this shouldn’t be happening and taken no action to alleviate his suffering. Instead, he found a dentist as soon as possible to restore health to his tooth. It turns out he had a great connection with that dentist and the issue was resolved quickly. According to A Course in Miracles, this was a miracle simply because he had a shift in perception from fear to love.
That is the truth about miracles. They don’t necessarily change anything on the outside, but they do change something on the inside, namely our thoughts. This is the kind of shift I needed recently. Due to a very traumatic experience with a dermatologist in Fort Lauderdale two years ago, I had been putting off scheduling another appointment here in Houston. I had two suspicious little bumps under my left eye and this year another one formed on the side of my neck. When my sister saw the one on my neck at the Big Sky Retreat in September, she urged me to get it checked out when I got home. I understood her concern. Our father made his transition forty-five years ago after a long journey with what started as skin cancer. I knew this wasn’t melanoma like his, but it needed to be taken care of.
To honor my word to my sister and myself, when I returned to Houston I made an appointment with a dermatologist recommended by a friend. I’m happy to say it has been a completely different experience from the one I had two years ago. This dermatologist has been extremely kind and gentle. He explained a treatment plan thoroughly and thoughtfully before ever cutting into my skin. When he took the first two biopsies on my second visit, I couldn’t believe it when he said he was done. I barely felt anything! When I went to the front desk to schedule my next appointment, the women behind the desk were so friendly and caring my gratitude overwhelmed me. I let them know what a great job they were doing and how cared for I felt. The shift was beginning.
I wish I could say it was all smooth sailing after that. Unfortunately, fear and anxiety returned the night before the surgery to remove the spots close to my eye. I am not too proud to tell you I accepted the nurse’s offer to take Valium to calm me down on that day. When the doctor returned to ask me if it was working, I told him I couldn’t tell. My partner laughed and assured him that it was. Apparently, my shoulders dropped several inches and my speech slowed way down. I made it to the other side of that procedure and two others. The bumps turned out to be basal cell carcinomas. They are gone now and have been replaced with bright pink scars which I’m told will fade away in a few months.
This may not seem like a miracle to you. No, the spots didn’t magically disappear. I had to take action and face my fear (with a little help from the Valium.) The miracle is the love I felt all through the process. Thank you to all those who prayed with me. I know it’s because of your prayers that the procedures went so well and I’m healing faster than expected. Practicing the principles of A Course in Miracles helped too. I’m also extremely grateful for the love and support from my partner. I don’t remember much about our walk to the car after that intense surgery near my eye. I know he was right next to me holding my arm while I took teeny, tiny steps like the old man character played by Tim Conway in the Carol Burnett Show. With tears rolling down my cheeks I must have been quite a sight for all the passersby on the street.
This Thanksgiving I am thankful for many things: my partner, family, and friends, good health insurance, the exceptional medical practitioners in Houston, Family Constellations that helped me understand where some of my sadness and anxiety was coming from, and A Course in Miracles. Recently at our Miracle Monday Group at Unity of Houston, we went back to the beginning of the Course reading the 50 Miracle Principles in Chapter 1. Talking about them every week has reinforced the truth about miracles. Number 35 especially spoke to me:
Miracles are expressions of love, but they may not always have observable effects.
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Until next time, may you experience love and peace even when things don’t appear to be going your way.