I’m one of those people who loves a “to-do” list. I love them so much I have three of them! One for my personal life, one for my business, and one for my role as President of the Board of the Big Sky Retreat. Having three separate lists helps me keep track of what I need to do for each role without getting overwhelmed by all of it at once. But if I’m being honest, it’s more accurate to say I love crossing things off those lists than the lists themselves. It gives me a sense of satisfaction to know that I’ve accomplished something as I draw a line through the item. However, there’s always another item waiting to take its place, so am I truly satisfied? It’s not like those “to-do” lists will ever be done.
There is a section in Chapter 18 of A Course in Miracles titled, “I Need Do Nothing.” Among other things, this section emphasizes the importance of rest. “To do nothing is to rest, and make a place within you where the activity of the body ceases to demand attention.” In the next paragraph it says, “This quiet center, in which you do nothing, will remain with you, giving you rest in the midst of every busy doing on which you are sent.” Said another way, when we make time for stillness, we can remain peaceful and grounded even during busy times with lots of activity.
Sadly, most of us place a much higher value on doing than being. You might have noticed when someone asks you how you’ve been if you answer “busy” they almost always say “that’s good!” But is that good? What if you’re so busy that you neglect self-care or the people that matter to you most? Sure, being busy might get lots of things crossed off of your “to-do” list, but will it bring you satisfaction?
This week I read a great article in The Holy Encounter (a free bi-monthly ACIM publication put out by the Miracle Distribution Center) called “Happy New Year… Happy Timelessness.” The author, Gerald Jampolsky, casually mentioned something he and his wife share with each other called a “to-be” list. That stopped me in my tracks. What a wonderful idea! The ego loves my “to-do” lists because they will always keep me striving to do more. But what if I focus on what I want to be rather than what I want to do? Wouldn’t I feel more content if I set the intention to be more loving, joyful, kind, compassionate, and peaceful? What things would you put on your “to-be” list? This week, I encourage you to think about what qualities of being you value most. Compile a list on your phone or somewhere you can see it every day. Set your intention to be those things everywhere you go no matter who you are with or what you are doing. I believe the results will be very satisfying.
If your doing and being feel out of balance, I would be honored to assist you with a 4, 8, or 12-week Life Coaching package. All of my sessions are based on the strong principles found in A Course in Miracles, Family Constellations, and other New Thought teachings. Please look around my website or send me an email for more information. You will also find free coaching videos on my website to help you live a more peaceful life.
Until next time, remember we call ourselves human beings, not human doings!
Now you need but to remember you need do nothing. It would be far more profitable now merely to concentrate on this than to consider what you should do.
A Course in Miracles – T-18.VII.5:5-6