It seems my teachers have been showing up a lot at the beach lately. A few weeks ago, I learned a powerful lesson from a huge wave that almost knocked me over. This week my teacher was a feisty little sandpiper. While doing Donna Eden’s 5-minute Daily Energy Routine, I watched a small group of sandpipers dodging waves while digging for whatever it is they eat in the sand. I noticed one sandpiper got very irate any time another bird got too close to him. He puffed himself up and charged at the intruders to scare them away. He was relentless!
Although his strategy was effective, it occurred to me that he was investing a whole lot of time chasing away other sandpipers when he could be using that time to find food. It’s a big beach with enough critters to feed all of the sandpipers. Why was he so concerned about other birds getting close to him? None of the other sandpipers seemed to have an issue with sharing the beach.
As I continued to watch the show, it occurred to me how many times I have acted similarly to that sandpiper. Instead of focusing on what I need to do, I’ve let myself be distracted by what others are doing. When I hold onto resentments toward someone for what they did or did not do, I’m just like that sandpiper. If I simply stop thinking about the person or situation that is upsetting, I return to peace. Anytime I judge someone for making a choice that I would not make, I’m that sandpiper. When I compare myself to others on social media or anywhere, I’m that sandpiper.
What a magnificent teacher (and unpleasant reflection) that feisty little sandpiper turned out to be. Whenever I catch myself being more concerned with what someone else is doing rather than focusing on what I need to do, I will picture that puffed-up little guy charging at his “enemies.” Hopefully, this image will make me laugh and help me bring the focus back where it belongs. As my wise friend, Dr. Charles Geddes, often says, “MYOB. Mind Your Own Becoming!” (He recently started a new organization with that name. If you’d like to learn more, click this link.)
Do you often find yourself being like that little sandpiper? It would be my great honor to help you put the focus back on you and return to peace with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. For more information about both, please look around my website. To schedule a session, simply click this link.
Until next time, I encourage you to be a peaceful little sandpiper minding your own becoming.
He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive.
A Course in Miracles ~ W.pII.1.4:4