A Rocky Start

My sister’s dog, Rocky, is appropriately named because we believe he had a “rocky” start. Rocky’s owners dropped him off at the animal shelter where my nephew works one day saying they couldn’t keep him anymore because he was too mean. We don’t know what happened to Rocky during his first 5 years of life, but something did. He couldn’t stay at the shelter because whenever he was around other dogs or people he barked constantly and sometimes attacked and bit them. Obviously, these behaviors were not ideal for finding a forever home. 

My nephew often brings home dogs that have behavioral challenges so they can get loved up in a safe environment while getting used to people. Rocky was one of many dogs that ended up at my sister’s home, but one of the few who never left! Sadly, he did not get much better around other dogs or people, but he started to trust my sister. This didn’t come as a surprise because my sister has a huge heart and can find a place in that huge heart for even the most challenging dogs. (And people, but especially dogs.)   

It took a lot of patience and perseverance, but over time Rocky became more and more comfortable with her. Over the past 3 years, they have developed a deep affection for one another. He still growls or nips at her once in a while when he feels threatened, but she ignores it and keeps loving him anyway. Now that the two of them have bonded so deeply, you’d better not get too close to my sister. Rocky will defend his human no matter how much bigger you are than he is. The last time my brother visited he learned the hard way not to hug my sister in Rocky’s presence. You can understand why I was a bit trepidatious before my visit to see my sister last week. 

Before arriving in Florida, I decided I wanted to experience a miracle with Rocky, a shift in perception from fear to love. My goal was to win him over by the time I left. As expected, he barked at me when I first arrived. Even though my sister and I have been vaccinated, I refrained from hugging her and started talking to Rocky in a soft voice. I set my bag down and moved slowly to the couch across from my sister. She handed me a few tiny dog treats to give to Rocky to help the situation. He had no problem accepting the treats from me. It didn’t take long for him to stop barking and start sniffing my hand. After a minute or two, he gave my hand a quick lick before jumping on the other couch with my sister. We were off to a good start!

Over the next few days, I continued to speak calmly with Rocky, once in a while using my secret weapon…the “puppy massage.” Having been a massage therapist for over 15 years, I learned that most dogs really enjoy having their hips and shoulders rubbed. Let’s just say Rocky warmed up to me even more quickly after a few puppy massages. There were very few occasions where he barked at me the rest of my visit. 

One exception was the evening my sister and I returned from a shopping excursion. Among other things, she purchased a beautiful light gray upholstered chest for the foot of her bed. While loading it into her car, I cut my thumb on an exposed staple protruding from the bottom. I applied pressure to it with a tissue on the drive home, but I must not have stopped the bleeding completely. When I moved the chest from the car to her bedroom, I noticed a small drop of blood on the brand new fabric. I was so mad at myself for dripping blood on her brand new furniture I screamed, “OH NO!” at least three times!

Rocky began to bark at me furiously as soon as I shouted those words. It shocked me how quickly and deeply he tapped into my angry, upset energy. I did my best to calm him down while simultaneously calming myself down as I grabbed a wet paper towel to blot up the blood before it left a stain. Once the catastrophe was averted, I sat with Rocky to reassure him that everything was okay. It took several minutes but we both eventually returned to peace.

After that incident, it became crystal clear to me that Rocky is extra sensitive to the energy of humans. He probably had to be in his first home to know if he was safe or not. I’m convinced that he warmed up to me because I did my best to remain peaceful and calm around him. The whole experience was a powerful lesson. Once I decided to see him not as an aggressive dog, but one who needed a little extra love and kindness, everything shifted. 

I received confirmation that this is what I should write about this week while listening to Brené Brown’s latest “Unlocking Us” podcast. Brené was talking with Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry about their new book, What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. This book invites us to ask a better question when dealing with difficult people (and as I learned this week, difficult pets.) Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with you?” a better question might be, “What happened to you?” 

Is there a difficult person in your life who may have had a “rocky start?” Perhaps they would benefit from a little extra love and kindness. I’m not suggesting that you put yourself in harm’s way. I certainly didn’t with Rocky. I maintained a safe distance while changing my mind and finding a place for him in my heart. It truly was a miracle! For the record, it’s possible to do this without ever speaking a word or being near that difficult person.

I would be honored to help you shift your energy around that person or situation so that you too can experience more love and kindness. Please look around my website for more information about my Life Coaching programs based on the strong principles found in A Course in Miracles. I offer 4, 8, and 12-week packages to suit your needs and budget. You can also shift your perception and deepen your understanding with a group or private Family Constellations session. I have several online events coming up in the next two months to help you heal relationships with your parents, your children, and to help you release whatever no longer serves on the next full moon. Visit the Events page on my website or send me an email for more information.

Until next time, I encourage you to find a place in your heart for those difficult people, but most importantly find a place in your heart for yourself!

The only judgement involved is the Holy Spirit’s one division into two categories; one of love, and the other the call for love. 

A Course in Miracles ~ T-14.X.7:1

Ospreys and Eagles and Owls! Oh My!

There were many unexpected blessings during my recent trip to Florida, but one truly stands out. This was my first time visiting my dear friend Carrie Stiers at her home in Tampa, and my first time meeting her parents who live about 45 minutes away on an island called Honeymoon Island. I had heard a lot about Carrie’s mother and Zoomed with her once, so I felt like we were already friends. However, I hadn’t heard as much about her father, so I wasn’t sure what to expect when I met him. I soon discovered her dad is an open-hearted, peace-loving man with whom I share many common interests, including a love of nature and wildlife.

Not long after I arrived, Carrie and I drove over the causeway to meet her parents and walk on the beach before going to dinner. (Don’t worry. We were vaccinated and took precautions.) During that walk, her dad and I talked about many things: his time in Africa in the Peace Corps, animals, spirituality, and family. I loved hearing about the herd of elephants that lived near their village in Africa and he was happy to learn about the magnificent Disneynature film released last year simply titled Elephant. We’d known each other less than an hour, but it struck me how quickly I felt comfortable and completely accepted by this man. Later, Carrie’s husband joined us for dinner and the five of us had a wonderful time. The joy of watching the sunset over the Gulf of Mexico was a close second to the joy of laughing and sharing a meal with this loving family.

Having discovered our shared love of nature, Carrie’s father suggested the five of us take a walk later in the week along a birdwatching trail he frequented in Honeymoon Island State Park. He recommended we go right before dark when there’s a good chance to see owls! That sounded too cool to miss so we made plans to have an early dinner at their home followed by a twilight nature walk. At dinner, Carrie’s mom shared a hilarious story involving a homemade apple pie, so she offered to bake one for the occasion. I looked forward to that walk and that pie all week.

Well, both the pie and the walk surpassed my expectations. After just a few minutes on the trail, we spotted an owl sitting high in a tree. We took turns getting a closer look with a pair of binoculars before continuing our journey. Along the way we saw several osprey and osprey nests, a gopher tortoise munching on grass, a woodpecker banging on a palm tree, and an armadillo searching for food in the brush. The grand finale happened when a bald eagle flew directly over us, eventually landing in the tree at the end of the trail. She was protecting her young from a flock of vultures flying suspiciously close to the tree where her nest was built. It was a breathtaking moment.

Just when we thought it couldn’t get any better, while making our way back to the parking lot, we spotted another owl sitting on a branch just a few yards away. This owl was such a showoff! For several minutes she demonstrated her uncanny ability to rotate her head over 180 degrees in each direction as she searched for dinner. She must have spotted something because suddenly she spread her wings and flew off silently into the woods. 

Mother Nature put on quite a show for us that night. Carrie’s dad commented that he normally sees some of those animals and birds, but never all of them on the same walk. The wildlife sightings set against the kaleidoscope of changing colors and clouds at sunset made for an absolutely magical evening. What made it even more magical was seeing how much Carrie’s dad enjoyed sharing the experience with people who appreciate Mother Nature’s wonder as much as he does. The delicious post-walk apple pie that Carrie’s mother baked made the evening even sweeter. 

We only saw Carrie’s parents on those two occasions, but once or twice during our visits, her dad briefly put his hand on my shoulder as a proud father might do with a grown son. Having lost my dad at age 7, I never had the experience of physical support and acceptance from a father as an adult. It caught me by surprise how deeply healing it was to have this connection with Carrie’s father. It went beyond words. It was a visceral sensation like some forgotten part of me was awakened and supported. 

I truly believe if my father had lived longer, we would have developed a mutual respect and admiration for each other like the connection I had with Carrie’s dad. In fact, even though my father is no longer in physical form, I believe we do have that connection. Perhaps he communicated this truth through Carrie’s dad. It was an unexpected gift I will always treasure. Thank you, Chuck Stiers, for all the kindness you shared and for giving me permission to share this story. I look forward to more time with this remarkable man in the future.

If you’ve been missing a connection with one or both of your biological parents for whatever reason, here’s something I recommend to my Family Constellations clients. If it feels right for you, think of them before you go to bed at night. Perhaps look at a photograph if you have one. Then speak the words below to the highest version of them whether they are still here in physical form or have made their transition to the non-physical:

“Dear mom or dad. Please come to me when I’m sleeping when I’m easier to reach and give me the love you would have if you could have when I was young.” 

Try it for a week or a month and see how you feel.  If I can assist you with a private Family Constellations session or a series of Life Coaching sessions, please reply to this email or look around my website for more information. I would be honored to help you reconnect with that forgotten part of you that longs to be seen and supported. You might also be interested in the special Family Constellations online workshops coming up in May and June exploring the Role of Mom and the Role of Dad. Visit the Upcoming Workshops page on my newly refurbished website for details and to purchase your ticket!

Until next time, may you experience unexpected blessings wherever you travel. 

As you perceive the holy companions who travel with you, you will realize that there is no journey, but only an awakening.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-13.1.7.1

When a Wrong Turn is a Right Turn

An interesting thing happened during a conversation with a friend this week. We were catching up and having a milkshake outside Becks Prime Restaurant on Kirby Drive when a white plastic bag floated down from the sky and landed on the table right between us. I believe I had just finished saying something like, “I’m waiting for a sign or guidance on what my next steps should be.” Seconds later the bag arrived. I laughed and said, “This must be my sign!” Printed on the bag was the name of a restaurant two blocks away called Grace’s. It felt like Spirit reminding me that grace is everywhere and given freely including the situation we were discussing. I don’t have to beg or plead with the Universe. My job is to make it welcome, not make it happen. What a magical and timely message!

What makes this event even more interesting is the back story. You see, we picked the place and time for this milkshake rendezvous weeks ago, but then I had to postpone it by a day which my friend graciously accommodated. Here’s the embarrassing part. Becks Prime has three locations in Houston. Even though I’m the one that suggested we meet at the one on Kirby, I drove to the wrong location! As soon as I pulled into the parking lot and didn’t see my friend’s car I realized my mistake. Sheepishly, I called to tell him what happened and asked if he still had time to meet. I knew it would take a while for me to get to the correct location in rush hour traffic. He said he had time, so I hopped back in my car and headed that way.

During the drive, I grumbled to myself for not being more mindful. My error meant that much of our time together would be lost while I sat in traffic. My inner critic (aka the ego) was having a field day with this situation. Luckily, the friend I was meeting is also a student of A Course in Miracles, so I knew he would forgive me. More importantly, I knew I had to forgive myself. I did my best to surrender to the situation and listen to the voice of love which reminded me that all was well despite outward appearances. When I arrived 45 minutes later we had a good laugh at my silly mistake and then left it behind to enjoy a delightful conversation and a delicious milkshake.

Later, when I reflected on the situation, the perfection of it all became crystal clear. Had we met at the other location, we would not have been near Grace’s Restaurant. Had I driven to the correct location in the first place, we probably would not have been sitting there when the bag landed on the table. Either way, I would have missed that important message from Spirit. As frustrating as it was, it turned out to be a wonderful opportunity to release self-judgment and forgive myself. And isn’t that grace?

Are you having a difficult time forgiving yourself or someone else? I would be honored to offer you the gift of grace with a series of Life Coaching Sessions. In our weekly 60-minute telephone or Zoom sessions, we will discuss ways to see things from a different perspective. I will also provide tools to help you release anxiety, judgment, and fear. If you are ready to experience more peace in your life, please visit my website or send me an email for more information and to book a session.

Until next time, may the gift of grace arrive in unexpected and magical ways…

Spirit is in a state of grace forever. Your reality is only spirit. Therefore you are in a state of grace forever.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-1.III.5:4

Waves of Grief

I’ve learned a few things about grief on my journey so far. One, there is no statute of limitations on grief. It can show up for a surprise visit years after we think we’ve cried our last tears about whatever we lost. Waves of grief can sneak up on us during the holidays, an anniversary, a birthday, or just a Tuesday. We can’t always predict when they will come, but it is as futile to try and stop them as it would be to try and stop ocean waves from reaching the beach. And like ocean waves, we can be still and let the small ones roll past our ankles. But for the really big ones, it might be best to dive right in and go through them so they don’t knock us over. 

Speaking of waves and grief, this month marks three years since I left Fort Lauderdale. I’ve made some wonderful friends and met some amazing people here in Houston, many of whom read my weekly stories. (I love you, Houstonians!) I know the move was the right choice and I’m grateful for so much that has happened here. Yet, I wouldn’t be completely honest if I didn’t admit that I’m still grieving the loss of many things about my old life in Florida. 

I miss beloved friends, magical burritos, year-round tropical temperatures, and the proximity to Mother Ocean. I used to get my “cardio on” while walking along her beaches at least three times per week, often cooling off in her waves when I finished. Many times while floating in the sea, my heart would fill with gratitude knowing: “I’m not on vacation. I live here!” Whenever I had a hard day, I could jump in my car and be at the beach within ten minutes. The sound of the surf and seagulls. The feel of the steady ocean breeze on my face. The smell of the salt air. The changing colors of the rolling waves and the sky as the sun sank behind me. All of it was like balm for my soul. I’m taking a deep breath just thinking about it. 

The ten-year anniversary of my mother’s passing is also coming up in a few days. I’ve noticed some waves of sadness around that too. She told me that she was ready to go well before she actually did, so I was happy for her when she finally laid her body aside in April of 2011. The sadness comes when I think about not seeing her twinkling, mischievous eyes or hearing her laugh again, or the hilarious things that came out of her mouth. She had a sharp wit and could make a joke about anything. Once in a while, she would say something that was not meant to be funny, like this gem she spoke while I was waiting to pay the check at a restaurant: “Honey, I’m going outside to get some fresh air and have a cigarette.” When I remembered that comment earlier today I laughed out loud, and then I cried a little bit.

That’s another thing I’ve learned about grief. It’s actually an aspect of love. If we hadn’t loved deeply, we wouldn’t feel pain when that something or someone is gone. Somehow thinking of it that way comforts me. Whether it’s a person, a place, a pet, or a time in your life that you are missing, know that your grief is a sign of how much you allowed yourself to love and be loved. It’s a beautiful thing. If you can, allow yourself to feel it. Most of us live our lives trying to avoid anything uncomfortable. But when we shut off our feelings, we shut off the good ones too. It’s not comfortable to feel the sadness, but if we don’t block it, it can move through us. Today, the people walking by me in Hermann Park might have wondered why that man was laughing one second and crying the next. The crying only lasted a minute because I let the wave of emotion (energy in motion) move through me.

There’s one last thing that deserves mentioning. Happiness is indeed a choice and also an inside job, meaning it does not depend on outside circumstances. However, we often use this spiritual truth as a weapon to make ourselves feel worse when we aren’t effervescing with joy 24/7. It’s not only okay but necessary to acknowledge when you’re sad or experiencing grief. You have to feel it to heal it. We can try to think of something else or partake in our favorite distraction, but that will only work for so long. It’s like throwing a glittery blanket over a dusty old box of photos in the basement. We may not be able to see the box anymore, but it’s still there taking up space. Some days that’s the best we can do. If that’s the case, toss on that glittery blanket so you can get through the day. 

At some point, you’ll know when it’s time to take that old dusty box out of the basement (your subconscious mind) and bring it outside into the light. Open it up and take a look at what’s inside. Allow yourself to cry so the sadness isn’t stuck inside you. Here’s the best news. You don’t have to do this alone. Share your grief with a friend, family member, God, guardian angel, therapist, grief counselor, or spiritual coach. They can sit right by your side as you unpack that box and let those emotions flow. You might also try a grief support group. There’s a 5-week online “Journey Through Grief” Workshop starting on Sunday, May 2 led by Rev. Mindy Lawrence Curtiss of Unity of Houston. For more information and to join CLICK HERE

If you are feeling grief, large or small, please let someone know so you don’t have to carry it all by yourself. I would be honored to unpack that box with you if you’re ready. Family Constellations is an amazing unpacking tool. Please look around my website or reply to this email for more information about Life Coaching, a Private Constellation, or my next Online Group Session.

Until next time, may you find the courage to let the waves of grief roll in knowing that it’s a form of love, you’re not alone, and this too shall pass.

On this day is grief laid by, for sights and sounds that come from nearer than the world are clear to you…There is a silence into which the world can not intrude. There is an ancient peace you carry in your heart and have not lost. There is a sense of holiness in you the thought of sin has never touched.

Lesson 164 from A Course in Miracles

A Trustworthy Dragon

Disney’s latest animated feature, Raya and the Last Dragon, is another beautifully crafted movie with a powerful and timely message. Not only does it illustrate the importance of unity, but it also celebrates diversity within the Asian community. The creators of this film could not have known it would be released at a time when so many of our sisters and brothers of Asian descent are experiencing hate and prejudice. I choose to believe the Universe (and maybe a dragon or two) had a hand in the timing of its release to bring some joy, hope, and light to a dark and challenging time. 

The story follows a young girl named Raya who witnesses the chaos and destruction that happens when five different lands stop trusting each other and separate. She is accompanied on her journey by the “last dragon” (voiced by the hilarious Awkwafina) who tries to teach her that the only way to achieve her goals and unite the lands is to open her heart and start trusting again. Having suffered a great loss because of a betrayal, Raya has a difficult time doing this. I’m guessing most of us can relate to that, especially in these uncertain and divisive times. I won’t give away the ending, but it is definitely a testament to the magical power of trust and unity. 

I am not proud to admit I did a poor job of opening my heart the day after I watched that movie with our out-of-town guests. While waiting in line to purchase tickets to the train that travels through Hermann Park, we were “serenaded” by a small group of women and men singing a less than inspiring version of Amazing Grace. They were not quite in tune or in harmony. After the song, two of the men stood on a large rock preaching their ideas about Jesus, sin, and salvation to the captive audience waiting in line for tickets. Their language and message felt infused with fear, making it out of tune with my heart, just like the off-key version of Amazing Grace. It was very uncomfortable and I found myself wishing they would just stop talking. I wasn’t standing on a rock trying to convince everyone to study A Course in Miracles, so why was it okay for them to spout their beliefs? 

I don’t know why I allowed them to ruin my experience of an otherwise enjoyable day. Perhaps I was just tired, but in that moment, I simply was not able to shift my perception. I found the whole experience to be very irritating. About twenty minutes later, they finally stopped preaching, we got our tickets, had a lovely train ride, and went about our day. 

The next morning I was still thinking about that situation and what I could have done differently. What would Love do? I imagined myself approaching the men and sharing how their actions were probably repelling people more than attracting them. I could have suggested they sit on the rock and pray silently while extending love to everyone at the park. Perhaps instead of handing out their printed propaganda to everyone that walked by they could give it only to those that approached them for more information. Then Love showed me a bigger truth. 

Instead of closing my heart with judgment and wishing they acted differently, I could have silently extended love to them. Thank goodness I have learned that it’s never too late to make a different choice, so I imagined love surrounding all of the people that irritated me that day in the park. As I result, I felt better. Had I been with a dragon voiced by Awkwafina, I think she would have been pleased.

Are there people in your life with a special knack for irritating you? Perhaps they share some of your DNA or live or work with you. I would be honored to be your trustworthy dragon and help you experience more peace in your life with a series of Life Coaching sessions or with a one-on-one Family Constellations Session. For more information or to book a session, please look around my website or send me an email

Until next time, may you find a trustworthy companion that helps you keep your heart open and love flowing.

Only what you have not given can be lacking in any situation.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-17.VII.4:1 

What if Curiosity SAVED the Cat?

I’m sure you have heard the phrase “curiosity killed the cat,” but this week I have been hearing a different message. During an episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, Bob Iger, the former CEO of the Walt Disney Company, included curiosity in his list of most important qualities of a good leader. He told Oprah that he had to stay curious about new projects and new ways of doing things or the company would not survive. In the prologue of his book, Ride of a Lifetime, Mr. Iger writes about the importance of “fueling a deep and abiding curiosity in oneself and inspiring that in the people around you. The path of innovation begins with curiosity.” Curiosity seems to be working for him. Under his leadership, Disney has had unprecedented growth and creative success. By the way, if you haven’t read his book I highly recommend it. The stories he shares are fascinating, even if you’re not a huge Disney geek like me! 

Last week, I listened to an episode of Brené Brown’s podcast “Unlocking Us” featuring author, psychologist, and holocaust survivor, Dr. Edith Eger. During the conversation, Dr. Eger told Brené that curiosity helped her survive the unspeakable cruelty at Auschwitz. She was sixteen years old when she was loaded onto a truck with her sister and mother not knowing where it would take them. Through the slats of the overcrowded truck, her boyfriend told her that he would never forget her eyes. He would never forget her hands. During the horrors of Auschwitz, she told herself, “If I survive today, then tomorrow I will be free and I will show my boyfriend my beautiful eyes and beautiful hands.” Despite being told daily that she would never get out alive, somehow she knew she had to remain curious about tomorrow. In her second book, The Gift, Dr. Eger writes:

“Freedom is a lifetime practice – a choice we get to make again and again each day. Ultimately, freedom requires hope, which I define in two ways: the awareness that suffering, however terrible, is temporary; and the curiosity to discover what happens next. Hope allows us to live in the present instead of the past, and to unlock the doors of our mental prisons.”

Dr. Eger tells her incredibly inspiring story in her first book, The Choice, which I’m reading now. She also shared it with Oprah in 2019 on an episode of Super Soul Sunday. This weekend I ended up watching both Dr. Eger’s interview and Bob Iger’s interview with Oprah on the same night. Apparently, Spirit wanted to make sure I got the message from Eger and Iger to stay curious!

If you are going through a challenging time, it would be my honor to help you stay curious and discover what miracles want to happen next. Family Constellations is an extraordinary way to reveal unconscious blocks that are preventing you from living your best life. My Life Coaching programs are also designed to help you navigate whatever rough waters you find yourself in so you can return to peace. For more information about both of these opportunities, please look around my website or send me an email

Until next time, stay curious!

Yet even the little spark in your mind is enough to lighten it. Bring this light fearlessly with you, and bravely hold it up to the foundation of the ego’s thought system.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-11.In.3:6-7

Who’s Teaching Who?

Last month, I had the honor of being asked to mentor a bright young man on his journey of faith. Having weekly discussions with a mentor is one of the requirements to be confirmed in his spiritual community. I’m very close with his mother, but I have only met Barrett in person twice. When he reached out to ask if I’d be willing to take on this role, I was quite surprised and incredibly flattered. Knowing that the principles found in A Course in Miracles are often quite different than those taught in other spiritual traditions, I asked his parents if they were sure I’d be a good fit for this role. Neither had an issue with that, so I said yes. 

Barrett and I had our first mentoring session on Zoom this week. It turns out we share more than just a love of french fries. We also share a desire to deepen our relationship with the Divine. After asking Barrett why this journey was important to him, I shared my own winding journey of faith from Methodist, to atheist, to being a student and teacher of A Course in Miracles. Throughout our conversation, Barrett dropped wisdom bombs that reflected a depth of understanding beyond his 13 years on the planet. What an unexpected gift this is turning out to be!

The moment that touched my heart most profoundly occurred during our prayer at the end of our session. As I do with most of my prayer partners since learning this lingo from Rev. Michael Gott, I asked Barrett if he’d like to “dial” (begin the prayer) or “hang up” (complete the prayer.) He chose “hang up,” so I began by using some colorful imagery to invite Divine Light to guide us, bless our time together, and bless Barrett on his spiritual journey. When I passed the prayer to him, he added the intention that we both learn from each other. Let’s just say that prayer was answered in the asking. I may have walked this planet and this path a lot longer than Barrett, but I have no doubt I’ll be learning just as much if not more from him. Thanks for choosing me as your mentor and for giving me permission to share this story, Barrett!

As a matter of fact, I believe we can learn something from every relationship if we are willing. We are all teachers and students in every moment. This truth is one of the many benefits of being a Life Coach, Spiritual Counselor, and Family Constellations Facilitator. By listening and being present, I learn something during every session, workshop, and study group. When we allow the Voice of Love to speak through us, everyone receives a blessing.

Are you feeling stuck, sad, or lost in your current circumstance? It would be my great honor to support and guide you through this difficult time by sharing insights and tools I’ve learned on my spiritual journey. To book a session or learn more about Life Coaching, group and private Family Constellations, or my weekly ACIM Study Groups, please look around my website. I look forward to sharing a blessing with you. 

Until next time, may you be open to wisdom and blessings in all your relationships.

The course, on the other hand, emphasizes that to teach is to learn, so that teacher and learner are the same. It also emphasizes that teaching is a constant process; it goes on every moment of the day…

A Course in Miracles ~ M-In.1:5-6

An Ironic Miracle

As you probably already know, a severe winter storm passed through the southern part of the country last week causing extensive damage to the power grid here in Texas. Since these low temperatures are rare in Houston, many uninsulated pipes burst in homes across the city. We did our best to prevent that from happening in our home, but alas a pipe along the exterior wall of our garage eventually succumbed to the pressure. (I know a lot of you can relate both literally and figuratively.) When water service returned a few days after the storm, my partner Michael noticed a large puddle of water forming in front of our garage.

What made the situation even more troubling is that despite many searches, we could not find the main water shut-off valve to our house. Michael found the shut-off valves for the other two homes in our development, but not the one for ours. Water continued to leak into our driveway, not like a fire hydrant, but as if someone left the water running slowly in a faucet. It wasn’t critical, but it was enough to take away our peace. Even if we could get a plumber to our house, (the odds at this point were similar to picking the winning Power Ball numbers given the demand across the city) we would need the water turned off before the pipe could be fixed. Ironically, the most famous plumber in Houston happens to be named John Moore. Anyone who watches television in Houston can probably sing the catchy jingle, “Call John. Get Moore.” We called, and the first available appointment was the second week of March!

I remembered seeing on the local news that the city of Houston set up a helpline for customers in our situation. They were utilizing meter readers to help homeowners like us shut off their water. After thirty minutes on hold, I finally spoke to a kind customer service agent who added our name and address to “the list.” As I type this a week later, we have yet to see someone from the city. Houston is the fourth-most populous city in the United States, so I’m guessing it was a really long list!

I consider myself to be a reasonably intelligent human being, but my search in the garage, the attic near the water heater, and the perimeter of the house turned up nothing that looked like the main water shut-off valve. I started to berate myself, but then remembered to ask Spirit for help to see this situation differently. As always happens, a new thought occurred to me in that moment. Despite sharing his name, this John Moore is most definitely not a plumbing expert. Therefore, I do not have years of experience finding water shut-off valves. 

What I do have years of experience in is finding repeating patterns in family systems while listening to people’s stories during Family Constellations. In fact, over the past eight years, I’d say I’ve become quite good at it. Can the other John Moore say that? Probably not! So there was no need to berate myself for my lack of plumbing knowledge. Everyone has unique skills and talents. When I let go of the thought that I should know how to find a main water shut-off valve, peace returned. That shift in perception from fear to love is all I needed to experience a miracle.

Meanwhile, Michael, who I also consider to be a reasonably intelligent human being, (an extremely intelligent human being if he’s reading this) was not able to find the valve either. He also tried several other avenues to secure a plumber with no luck. Feeling helpless and frustrated, Michael made a series of bold choices. After a daring operation to remove the soaked drywall, he assessed the situation before taking a desperate trip to Home Depot for coveted plumbing supplies. Upon his return, he made a valiant but unsuccessful attempt to stop the leak with a ridiculous amount of duct tape while cutting up his hands pretty badly. Once he also surrendered to the fact that he wasn’t a plumber, he had an inspired idea.

Earlier in the year, we hired a handyman named Walter to repair a leak in our roof. Due to the elusive nature of the leak, the project spanned for several weeks. This allowed us to develop an amicable relationship with Walter and Megan, the woman at the company who dispatched him. A misdirected text message to Megan added to the fun. Since Walter did a great job, Michael thought maybe he could help us with this leak too. He contacted Megan, and Walter generously agreed to stop by our house around 4 PM before going home for the day. After resigning ourselves to the fact that it may take weeks to get a plumber, to say we were grateful doesn’t begin to cover it. 

We were a bit concerned when Walter didn’t arrive until after 6 PM, but he kept his promise and didn’t abandon us. Not only did he find the main shut-off valve hiding in some bushes, but he was able to put a temporary fix on our leaking pipe restoring water pressure to our home! That was definitely above and beyond the call of duty after what I’m sure was an extremely long day and week for him. Once again, we experienced a shift from fear to love, a miracle born out of gratitude and nurturing a relationship. Bless you, Walter and Megan!

I may not be able to help you find the main water shut-off valve at your house, but I would be honored to help you see the hidden dynamics and repeating patterns in your family that are keeping you from the happy, healthy, prosperous life you were meant to live. Please join me on Zoom for an upcoming Virtual Family Constellations Workshop, or visit my website to book a private session. You will be amazed by what happens during these transformational sessions. I look forward to sharing the experience with you.

Until next time, may love and water continue to flow freely into your life. 

Miracles represent freedom from fear. 

A miracle is a correction introduced into false thinking by me.

Miracle Principle 26 & 37 from A Course in Miracles

A Trustworthy Friend

I will be sharing a quick reflection this week because power, water, and internet service are intermittent at best here in Houston. As you may have heard or experienced, severe winter storms moved through Texas knocking out utilities in millions of homes. One of the blessings in disguise of this very unpleasant experience was a visit from the sweet cat pictured in the photo below. She and her owner lost power in their home so they came to stay with us to escape the plummeting temperatures. I had met this cat briefly only once before, so imagine my surprise when she fell asleep on my lap just a few hours after she arrived. I was touched by the level of trust she placed in me so quickly. 

It occurred to me that I often feel a similar gratitude while facilitating Family Constellations Workshops or Life Coaching Sessions. I am honored and humbled every time a participant or client feels safe to share something deeply personal. Their trust, courage, and willingness to be vulnerable is the highest compliment I can imagine. That’s why creating an environment where people feel safe to share whatever is in their hearts is my number one intention. I’d like to take this opportunity to extend a heartfelt thank you to everyone who has placed their trust in me, including my new furry friend who reminded me what a gift it is to be trusted. 

Is there a situation or circumstance weighing heavily on your heart? it would be my great honor to create a safe space for you to lighten your load and assist you in your healing journey. Please join me for an upcoming Virtual Family Constellations Workshops or book a private session. What happens during a Family Constellation is truly miraculous. I also offer Life Coaching programs based on the strong principles found in A Course in Miracles. Information about both of these opportunities can be found on my website. Thanks to technology, sessions can be done from anywhere in the world! 

Until next time, may you find an abundance of opportunities to be courageous and vulnerable… 

Love is your safety… Identify with love, and you are safe. Identify with love, and you are home. Identify with love, and find your Self.”  

A Course in Miracles ~ WB-pII.5.5

Here’s the Story of a Lovely Lady

This week I felt inspired to honor a lovely lady who was born on Valentine’s Day. It was quite a surreal moment that afternoon in January 2004 standing outside a room in an upscale hotel in Fort Lauderdale when Mrs. Brady answered the door in a bathrobe. Yes, it was the one and only Florence Henderson. She was starring in a variety show at the Parker Playhouse and I was there to give her a massage. My friend Kate was a production manager for the company that produced her show, so when Florence asked Kate if she knew a good massage therapist, Kate replied, “I’ve got just the guy for you!” 

I was so nervous the first time I placed my hands on Florence’s back. Even though I had been giving massages my whole life, I had never given one to a celebrity before. At that point, I had my Florida massage license for just over a year. I was still new to the profession and building my confidence. Less than a minute into the massage, Florence suddenly said, “Oh, John. You’re not just a massage therapist. You’re a healer. I can feel the heat coming out of your hands.” That comment meant the world to me coming from someone who must have had many massages during her long career in show business. It instantly put me at ease and I was able to focus on my work. I think she knew exactly what she was doing. 

That massage was the first of many. Getting to know Florence Henderson was such a blessing. She really was a lovely lady. I found her to be kind, caring, funny, and very genuine. She was also very spiritual and open-minded. Her second husband was a hypnotherapist, so we had some interesting conversations about alternative healing modalities and other “off the beaten path” topics. For instance, when I returned from my first spiritual gathering in St. Petersburg, Florida over Valentine’s Day Weekend, I told her all about meeting Max, the ancient crystal skull and the unusual stories surrounding him. I also shared some of my other mystical experiences from that weekend and she shared some of her own. How fun to be swapping “woo woo” stories with Marcia, Jan, and Cindy’s mom! 

That Valentine’s Day was Florence’s 70th birthday. She had been so kind to me, I wanted to give her a birthday gift, but what do you give a 70s TV icon for her birthday? Luckily, that was the same weekend I met my rose quartz family and learned that rose quartz carries the frequency of unconditional love and compassion. I felt inspired to give her some of the tiny pink stones and tell her how my new friends were using them to connect with each other and the planet through unconditional love. Given the conversations we had, it felt like the perfect gift. 

It seems appropriate that Florence was born on the day we celebrate love, and laid her body aside on the day we celebrate gratitude. She died unexpectedly on Thanksgiving Day in 2016. Birthday blessings of love and gratitude to you, Florence, from all of us who were touched by your kindness. You will live on in our hearts and in that top center box of The Brady Bunch opening theme song forever.

Was your family life not quite as ideal as the one seen on The Brady Bunch? Maybe now is the time to try Family Constellations. It is a powerful way to restore harmony and get love flowing again even in the most un-Brady of bunches. Life Coaching is another great way to come back to a place of peace, no matter what is occurring in your life right now. For more information about both these opportunities or to schedule a session, look around my website or send me an email. 

Until next time, I invite you to follow Florence Henderson’s example by practicing kindness wherever you go.

Love waits on welcome, not on time…

A Course in Miracles ~ T-13.VII.9:7