After my magical birthday celebration with friends planting rose quartz crystals all over New York City, I spent the next few days with my family at a rental house on Lake Wallenpaupack in Pennsylvania. What a nice surprise to discover that they were all there when I arrived on Friday! My older brother, my three older sisters, their spouses, their kids, and grandkids all heard the call to come together this year. I can’t remember the last time this happened. Sure, we have our rough patches, but we are one of those weird families that actually enjoys spending time together. The weekend was full of love and laughter. On our last day together, my siblings and I planned a road trip to see my Aunt Ruth in New Jersey. It had been at least 20 years since I had seen my dad’s sister. When he died in 1975, our connection to that side of the family was not as strong. Since they live in the Northeast, my siblings have been to recent weddings and parties with them. I moved to Florida in 1992, so I have been a little bit more “out of the loop” (in more ways than one!)
Having been immersed in the therapeutic philosophy of Family Constellations for the past 3 years, I understand how important it is to connect to the energy of both sides of my lineage. Like it or not, we are each “half dad” and “half mom.” Regardless of our relationship with them, we have to acknowledge this simple fact. If I reject a parent, then I am literally rejecting half of me. As a facilitator of Family Constellations, I see the effects of this disconnect all the time. A child who rejects or has a break in the bond with mom often has money troubles, or difficulty feeling safe in the world. A disconnect with dad can create challenges with direction or finding one’s ideal career path. Some lucky people like myself experienced a disconnect with both, for one reason or another, so we get a double strength growing opportunity! The good news is, with Family Constellations, you can repair the connection and allow the energy of love to flow again.
I had a feeling it would be a powerful moment when I saw my aunt for the first time that day, and it was. I can’t deny how much I look like my father as I grow older. That was the first thing she said to me when I arrived at her door. “Oh, you look so much like my brother!” She hugged me three times before we sat down in her living room. Those hugs were some of the best hugs I’ve ever had. It was wonderful to hear stories about her and my dad growing up. I learned a little bit more about their mother, who was ostracized from the family at a young age. I did my best not to ask too many questions, as I didn’t want it to feel like a Family Constellations intake interview. I told her about the work I was doing, and also gifted her a sun catcher made with purple amethyst and pink rose quartz crystals. I guess I picked the right stones because my aunt was wearing a purple and pink outfit that day.
My cousin, Sharon, outdid herself ordering several plates of sandwiches, assorted salads, and preparing 4 different flavors of homemade zucchini bread for dessert. It was delicious! Both of her brothers, various spouses, children, and grandchildren were there as well. It was a delightful reunion. Before we left, we all convened around the Mother Mary statue in my aunt’s backyard for a group picture. It certainly was a unique photo opportunity. As we waited for a neighbor to arrive to snap the photo, I took the opportunity to sprinkle a few rose quartz crystals in the foliage around Mother Mary. After the photo shoot, while walking back to the front of the house, I discovered a beautiful light blue and white feather in my aunt’s yard. It sure looked like the traditional colors of Mother Mary, and I was grateful for this gift of grace. As we said our goodbyes and shared more hugs, I had the feeling that my dad must be very happy to see this reunion. I know I certainly was. Before I got in in the car with my brother to head to the Newark Airport, my Aunt Ruth looked me directly in the eyes and said, “Thank you for the work you are doing.” It gives me God bumps just thinking about that moment. It sure felt like she was delivering a message from my dad and all of our ancestors. I am honored to be doing this work, healing hearts and helping individuals and families return to love, one constellation at a time.
If that sounds good to you, please visit the Family Constellations page on my website for more information. There you will find out when and where the next group sessions are being held. You can also set up an appointment for a private one-on-one session in person or over the phone. I look forward to sharing this revolutionary healing experience with you! Until next time, I invite you to take a few moments to find something about each of your parents to be grateful for, even if the only thing you can come up with is gratitude for the gift of life. It will be enough to get the love and your life flowing again.
P.S. If you feel inspired to start planting rose quartz to add to the Web of Love and Peace around the planet, you can share the experience by taking pictures and posting them on FaceBook and Instagram with #rosequartzgrid. Thanks to my creative friend, Caroline, you can also add the locations on this Google Map! Let’s watch the Love spread all over the planet!