No Regrets

Several years ago, I listened to a podcast where Oprah Winfrey interviewed Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon.com. In that interview, he talked about his decision to leave a very lucrative career on Wall Street to start his own company. He told Oprah his boss at the time asked why in the world he would give up a well-paying, secure job and take a risk selling books online out of his garage. That’s when he shared this phrase that has stuck with me ever since…“regret minimization.” He didn’t want to be on his deathbed and regret not trying that crazy business idea. I’d say that decision worked out pretty well for him!

As many of you know, I just returned from a magical four-week road trip visiting friends and family all along the East Coast. My journey was filled with more miracles than I can count! I was able to reconnect with my godchildren whom I had not seen in many years, go boating with all four of my siblings on a lake in Pennsylvania, hike in Upstate NY with my sister to celebrate her milestone birthday, and share many more joyful moments of laughter with people I love. Some of those moments are captured in photos on my Instagram and Facebook pages. 

You may recall I wrote that some fear came up before I left because coronavirus cases were still rising in some areas. I could have let fear stop me from taking this trip, but my inner voice kept saying it was important for me to trust and get on the road anyway. Regret minimization also played a part in my decision. I did not want to look back and regret not taking advantage of that opening in my work schedule. I know I made the right decision because my heart is still overflowing with gratitude for the many gifts I received last month.

What about you? Is there something you want to do or try, but fear is holding you back? Have you been receiving messages that it’s time to change something in your life? I invite you to consider how you will feel 20 years from now if you don’t take action. Will you regret it and wonder what would have happened? I have yet to hear anyone on their deathbed say, “I sure wish I had spent less time with my loved ones and more time at work.” If there is a longing in your heart, maybe now is the time to follow your joy and give it a try. I would be honored to assist you in moving through fear with a series of weekly Life Coaching sessions. Please visit my website or send me an email for more information and to schedule a session.

Until next time, may trust and regret minimization give you the courage to follow your joy.

Until you realize you give up nothing, until you understand there is no loss, you will have some regrets about the way that you have chosen. And you will not see the many gains your choice has offered you. Yet though you do not see them, they are there. 

A Course in Miracles ~ T-29.II.1:5-7

222 Angels or Alligators?

With so much discussion of climate change on our planet, political unrest in the world, and divisiveness in the U.S., I felt inspired to share this miracle story from a few years ago. When I say miracle, I’m talking about the kind A Course in Miracles describes as a shift in perception from fear to love. It happened while I was driving back to Ft. Lauderdale from Ft. Meyers after a fun afternoon and dinner with my beautiful friend, Carrie Stiers. The needle on my gas gauge was hovering near E, which meant I needed to get gas before the long haul across the Everglades on Interstate 75. This 80-mile stretch of highway is also known as Alligator Alley for good reason. There’s no shortage of alligators on either side of the road, but not much else. There certainly are no gas stations. As I traveled closer to the entrance ramp, the only buildings I passed were condominiums and townhouses. With no gas stations in sight, I began to get nervous.

Thankfully, I remembered that I am the dreamer of my dream and my thoughts create my reality. Right then and there I decided not only would I find a gas station before getting on I-75, but it would be on my side of the road and not outrageously priced. Just a few minutes later, I passed a gas station on the other side of the road. I was tempted to make a U-turn but decided to stick with my original intention. If nothing else materialized I could always go back. Sure enough, less than a mile before the entrance to I-75, there was a RaceTrac gas station on my side of the street advertising regular gasoline for $2.22 per gallon. Score! 

I pulled into the station, placed the nozzle in my fuel tank, and clicked the lock on the trigger so it would shut off automatically when my tank was full. Imagine my surprise when the pump shut off at exactly $22! I pay attention to repeating number sequences like this. I believe it’s one way Spirit uses to get my attention. I did not know the meaning of repeating 2s, so I made a mental note to look it up when I got home. I was amazed when I googled “Angel Numbers” and found out that 222 means, “Trust everything is working out exactly as it’s supposed to, with Divine blessings for everyone involved. Let go and have faith.” That message felt like the perfect confirmation for my decision to let go of my worries around finding a gas station. Not only did one magically appear, but it must have been brand new because the restrooms were sparkling clean. Now that is a miracle! 

Given the amount of anxiety and fear in the world today, I believe this 222 message is more important than ever. I invite you to use the power of your thoughts to create the experiences you want and stop giving energy to outcomes you do not want. Once I decided that everything was going to work out fine with my trip home, I was able to calm down and enjoy the ride. Had I stayed in fear, not only would I have missed the beauty of the scenery around me, I probably would have unnecessarily turned around and backtracked for miles to a gas station. Experience has taught me that when I am stuck in fear, I almost always make bad decisions. When I have faith that everything is going to work out, my mind returns to peace where I can receive guidance to make good decisions. I don’t know about you, but I would much prefer to be on the lookout for 222 angels rather than 222 alligators! 

If you could use some assistance shifting from fear to love, the principles found in A Course in Miracles will help you tremendously. I offer four, eight, and twelve-week Life Coaching programs based on these teachings. I love sharing these practical, powerful tools with my clients. Visit my website for more information about Life Coaching and Family Constellations, which is another great tool to help you shift from fear to love.

Until next time, no matter what appears to be happening in the world:

Trust that everything is working out exactly as it’s supposed to, with Divine blessings for everyone involved. Let go and have faith.

Highest and Best for All

To say that I was reluctant to leave my home in Fort Lauderdale last April might be a bit of an understatement. Florida had been my home for 25 years, and my love of the ocean is no secret to anyone who knows me. Saying “goodbye for now” was difficult. As hard as it was, it felt like moving to Houston was the highest and best choice for many reasons, some personal and some professional. I will admit starting fresh in a new, much larger city has been challenging at times. During the past three months I have done my best to remember the many reasons for the move. I am so grateful for the miracle I experienced this weekend that let me know I am on the right path.

On my way to Unity of Houston last Sunday, it occurred to me that this day was one of those reasons I felt guided to make the move. Last spring, Rev. Jeanmarie Eck asked if I would be interested in presenting “An Afternoon with A Course in Miracles” as part of the Summer Education Series. I immediately said “yes!” One of my greatest joys is sharing the Course and making it less intimidating and more approachable. Here was an opportunity to do that with a whole new audience. I was expecting maybe 30 people to attend, but on Thursday I found out that almost 60 tickets had already been sold.

As I sat at a traffic light pondering how many people would be at the workshop, what passages from the Course I would share, and how challenging it’s been adjusting to a new city, I decided to practice what I preach and surrender all of it to a Higher Power. That’s when I felt the presence of grace descend upon me. That presence reminded me that love is not about sacrifice. A Course in Miracles is very clear that the only real win is one where no one loses and everyone benefits. This would have to include my decision to leave Mother Ocean and my comfort zone in Fort Lauderdale. In that moment, I understood on a deeper level that my “yes” to doing this workshop and moving to Houston was part of a bigger picture that would not only serve others but also bring me countless blessings in the process. I instantly felt less nervous about the workshop and more centered and confident that this was where I was supposed to be. That was a miracle, a shift in perception from fear to love.

Well, I didn’t have to wait long to see evidence of that shift in perception. Imagine my surprise when I found out minutes before the workshop started that the volunteers gave away all 120 of the handouts and more had to be printed! I am grateful to every single person who made the choice to spend “An Afternoon with A Course in Miracles” (and me) on Sunday. I loved every minute of our time together and feel richly blessed by the experience.

Are you ready for a miracle? I would be honored to help you shift your perception from fear to love around any situation that is trying to take away your peace. I offer four, six, and eight week Life Coaching packages based on the strong principles found in A Course in Miracles and other New Thought teachings. You will also experience miracles during the life-changing process known as Family Constellations. Sessions can be done in person, by telephone, or video conferencing from anywhere in the world! Please look around my website for more information or to book a session.

Until next time, may you remember to make choices for the highest and best for all, and that includes YOU!

“No one loses; nothing is taken away from anyone; everyone gains through your holy vision. It signifies the end of sacrifice because it offers everyone his full due.”

A Course in Miracles – Lesson 37

Fatih, Trust, and Moving Dust

I arrived in Houston last Thursday evening after weeks of preparations and two and a half days of driving. Honestly, I can’t believe everything that needed doing before my move got done. Since I was moving into a furnished home, I decided to donate most of my belongings to an organization that helps people in recovery get back on their feet. A lot of my furniture was given to me when I started over five years ago, so it felt like the right thing to do. The pickup was scheduled for Monday morning, but around 11 AM I got a call from Stacey, the woman I had made arrangements with, telling me some challenges had come up on her end. She wasn’t able to make it that morning but was going to try to make arrangements to come later in the day.

In the meantime, I was trying to sell the few things this organization wouldn’t or couldn’t take on the LetGo and OfferUp apps. My phone was making all kinds of dinging and pinging noises while I was finishing up laundry and packing. People were making inquiries about my old iMac computer and my bedroom furniture but no one was following through with a commitment to buy them. One woman really wanted my iMac for her kids so we made arrangements for her to drop by my apartment later that evening to pick it up. While at a goodbye dinner with my brother later that evening I received two disappointing text messages. One was from the computer lady saying something came up and she couldn’t make it. The other was from Stacey saying she was going to try again for a furniture pickup the next day. Try? That didn’t sound hopeful. Sadly, by the end of the day Monday, the only two things I had let go was my floor lamp and my faith that everything else would find a home in twenty-four hours. I was very frustrated with the whole process.

On Tuesday morning, my partner and I took a moment to pray that everything in my apartment that wasn’t going to Texas would find the perfect home. In that prayer we also surrendered to the possibility that we might have to delay our departure knowing that whenever we left would be perfect. Looking around my still very full apartment with not a lot of faith, I decided to call Faith Farm to see if they would be able to come pick up my furniture. Friday was the earliest day available. That wasn’t great news, but at least it was an option. I told the nice woman on the phone that I would have to call her back when I knew exactly what I had for them to pick up. Moments after I hung up the phone it chimed again. It was a text message from Stacey telling me she was on her way with a minivan. Seriously? There was no way all of that furniture would fit in a minivan!

But then a miracle arrived, and her name was Odalys. She was part of the crew Stacey brought to pick up the furniture. Odalys was a no-nonsense kind of gal with a leather cap, a heart of gold, and a determination of steel. Once she saw the quality of what I was donating, she insisted they take everything we were letting go no matter how many trips it took. She was definitely the answer to a prayer. Within two hours most everything that wasn’t nailed down or going to Houston was gone. She literally would have taken my welcome mat too if I didn’t insist she leave it because it belonged to the apartment complex! By 6 PM my apartment was empty and clean and we were on the road.

The final act of grace came when I received a message from the woman who wanted to buy my iMac. She was still interested but had no way to get it. That’s when it dawned on me. According to the app, she lived in the same town as one of my best friends who we were going to stop and say goodbye to on our way out of town. I told her if she was still interested we could bring it to her. She was thrilled! After a tearful goodbye with my friend, we delivered the computer to a very appreciative mom. Thus, the final object found a home just as we had envisioned in our prayer.

I reminded myself that the real miracle was not that everything found a home. The miracle was the shift from fear to love that happened when I remembered the Truth during that prayer. Everything would work out well despite all the evidence that it wasn’t. I just needed “faith, trust, and a little pixie dust” as Peter Pan told Wendy, John, and Michael when he was teaching them to fly.

Is there something going on in your life where you could use a little faith and trust? I would be honored to help you through this situation and help you see the miracle with a Life Coaching or Family Constellations session. Both can be done in person, over the phone, or via Skype. Please look around my website or send me an email for more information or to schedule a session.

Until next time, no matter how heavy the situation feels, remember with a little faith, trust, and perhaps some pixie dust you too can fly!

Leave Your Phone at Home Day!

Most of us have heard of “bring your child to work day.” I would like to start a similar tradition called “leave your phone at home day.” I inadvertently did this last Sunday and it was so incredibly freeing! I was up at 5 AM on Sunday so I could drive across the state to support my fellow Big Sky Retreat Board member and friend, Rev. Michael Gott, who was speaking at Unity of Naples. Those who know me know that this is not my preferred time of day. My mind was a little foggy when I left at 6:45, and I did not realize my phone was sitting on my dresser until I was halfway across Alligator Alley. Oops!
 
Surprisingly, I was not upset by this realization. My biggest concern was that I would not be able to communicate with my sister if she needed to reach me. She and her husband are vacationing near St. Petersburg, and we planned to meet at church and then have lunch together. It was about a two and a half hour drive for them, and they are not familiar with the area, but I decided to choose peace and trust that their GPS or the map apps on their smart phones would get them there just fine. They did.

Smart phones are wonderful helpers. Mine helps me to do my job in a number of ways. However, I admit it can also be a huge distraction. Text messaging, picture taking, Facebook surfing, and Instagram posting all have the ability to divert my attention from what is taking place around me. Not having my phone on Sunday forced me to be totally present to the experience, and what an experience it was. Let me just say that if you have never been to Unity of Naples, do yourself a favor and go!

Rev. Diane Scribner Clevenger is a delight. I loved her welcoming energy and powerful opening prayer. The grounds of this spiritual center are simply breathtaking. There is lush, tropical vegetation everywhere including colorful orchids nesting in some of the trees. The large sanctuary has floor to ceiling windows so you can see all of it from inside. Butterflies and dragonflies float around the campus, and a few joined me on the meditation path before the service. As I walked through the thicket of tall trees, it felt like I was in a mystical realm. The wind was strong that day. It made a wonderful sound through the leaves and trees as well as helped the wind chimes clink and clunk their happy wooden tunes. When I emerged from the trees, I casually made my way to a little white gazebo overlooking the lake behind the sanctuary. As I walked, I could hear the heavenly voice of Michael Gott as he rehearsed the songs he was going to sing that morning. As I stood in the gazebo, I was filled with gratitude for that moment, soaking in all the sights, sounds, and sensations around me. What a gift to be fully present for that.

Yes, part of me was wishing I had my phone to snap a few pictures or record a video of this magical place. There were a few more times during the service that I wished I had my phone to record a snippet of Rev. Michael singing or speaking. I wanted to post them on social media to bring awareness to this wonderful spiritual community. I considered asking my sister if I could borrow her phone, but instead allowed myself the gift of simply being present. If you would like to hear Rev. Michael’s inspiring message on Faith, you can click HERE. I had Faith that my phone was not lost but indeed sitting on my dresser waiting for me to get home later that day. It was. And I had a magical day without it!

Would you like to experience more magic and miracles in your life? Join me for an upcoming Family Constellations Workshop, or give yourself the gift of a four, six, or eight week Life Coaching Program. It would be my great honor to give you some tools to help you let go of whatever is preventing you from being in the present moment where magic and miracles live. Please look around my website for more information about both.

Until next time, try giving your phone the day off, or at least a few hours. Yes, I know we all like to be connected, but the truth is, you always are…

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