The Rainbow Connection

It’s hard not to feel hopeful when stripes of color magically appear in the sky after the grayness of a rainstorm. Rainbows have a way of connecting us to something intrinsically optimistic in ourselves. I think that’s the “Rainbow Connection” Kermit the Frog famously sang about in The Muppet Movie back in 1979. Rainbows always seem to reveal themselves at the perfect time, reminding me that all is well. 

For instance, when I met up with friends for dinner on my very first night in Sarasota, Florida, a beautiful rainbow appeared in the sky behind the restaurant. My heart swelled with joy when I saw it. It felt like the Universe assuring me that this is where I belong and great things are about to happen. And since then, they certainly have. 

That’s why I shouldn’t be surprised that one appeared last week on 11/11 after an unexpected afternoon rain shower. I spotted a dash of rainbow colors shimmering in the pond outside my living room window. When I went outside to investigate, I discovered a full rainbow brilliantly illuminated from end to end across the sky. It took my breath away! 

Once again, the timing was perfect. I had just finished a powerful and very healing FaceTime conversation that went better than I could have expected. The appearance of that gorgeous rainbow felt like a sign that everything was going to be okay. The fact that this happened on 11/11, a day we set aside to remember we are all one, was not lost on me. Not only was the rainbow telling me all was well, it was also showing me another spiritual truth. When we extend love from heart to heart, we have the experience of being one human family. Now that’s what I call a Rainbow Connection! 

Are you having a difficult time staying hopeful in these challenging times? It would be my great honor to help you find your Rainbow Connection to the part of you that knows all is well no matter what it looks like on the outside. We can do this with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or by reconnecting you with the support of your ancestors in a private or group Family Constellations Session. With today’s technology, you can take advantage of all of these opportunities from anywhere in the world. Please look around my website for more information about upcoming workshops, or send me an email to book a session. Gift certificates are also available for all of my services.

Until next time, may you be blessed with Rainbow Connections and clear signs that all is well…

Love transfers to love without any interference, for the two are one… Gradually you learn to apply it to everyone and everything, for its applicability is universal.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-12.VI.6:4,6

When Angels Nudge You to Phone a Friend

Last month, while scrolling through my Instagram feed on a Wednesday afternoon, I discovered that my friend Radleigh Valentine was going to be a guest on Unity Online Radio. In fact, his appearance on Diane Ray’s show, “Be Present” was happening in less than an hour! That gave me just enough time to run a few errands and be back home in time to listen live. 

Radleigh and I met at a Hay House conference in Orlando in 2015 and soon became fast friends. We hadn’t spoken for a while, so I thought it might be fun to surprise him by calling into the show to ask a question. I immediately started to second guess that idea. Would it be weird for me to call in since we’re friends? I should give other people the opportunity to ask their questions. Plus, I had met Diane Ray once at Unity Village when I was there for a conference. I didn’t want her to think I was some creepy stalker.

Basically, the voice of fear, (the ego) talked me out of calling. I decided to just listen and enjoy the show. Radleigh spoke a little about his recent move and how excited he was to release his new card deck, “Guardian Angel Messages Tarot.” He and Diane talked a little more about the new deck and guardian angels, and then she opened up the phone lines for callers to ask questions.

The first two callers asked about very challenging life situations. Radleigh spoke with them and answered their questions as he always does, with an abundance of compassion and insight. He pulled cards for them to offer additional guidance from their guardian angels. As he was talking with the second caller, I got another nudge to call in. Perhaps surprising them would end the show on a lighter note. Once again, the voice of fear immediately chimed in, telling me that it wasn’t appropriate.

That’s when I looked at the upper right-hand corner of my computer screen to see how much time was left in the show. I had to laugh when I saw it was 4:44 PM. In Radleigh’s work, 444 is the “angel number.” If you see this number sequence on a license plate, billboard, taxicab, or cell phone, it’s a wink from the angels reminding you of their presence. That felt like a clear sign they wanted me to call into the show. So I did.

Apparently, it was meant to be because I got through on my first try. When the producer answered, I gave him my name and he put me on hold. A few moments later, I heard Diane tell Radleigh even though there wasn’t much time left, she thought they should take one more call. My area code must have given me away because she knew who I was! They joked a little bit about my days as a prince at Disney World before I asked Radleigh if he would pull some cards for me. I asked if my guardian angels had anything to say about my recent move back to Florida. 

The cards he pulled were ridiculously spot on. The very first one was the “Renewal” card, which is all about reflection, self-evaluation, and rebirth. I won’t go into detail on each of the four cards he pulled. If you’re curious, you can listen to the show by clicking this link. My call was during the last ten minutes. The overall message was about falling in love with my life again. The way Radleigh described the meaning of each card and how they fit together obviously struck a chord because my eyes well up with tears. I’m so grateful to the angels for giving me that 444 nudge to overcome my fear so I wouldn’t miss this powerful message of confirmation. 

Are you having a difficult time ignoring the voice of fear? It would be my great honor to assist you with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. Both can help you see things from a broader perspective so you can release old patterns and fear. For more information, please look around my website or send me an email to schedule a session.

This week, may you be open to nudges and messages that lead you to an abundance of miracles and blessings. 

Angels light the way, so that all darkness vanishes, and you are standing in a light so bright and clear that you can understand all things you see.

 A Course in Miracles ~ W-131.13.:2

Never Play Cards with a Ghost or a Gorilla

Halloween is not really my thing, but I love to see the little ones dressed up in costumes. My friend Carrie has told me for years that she gets a lot of trick-or-treaters in her neighborhood. Since I now live only an hour and fifteen minutes away from her, I asked if I could help her pass out candy this year. I’m so glad I did! The kids were absolutely adorable, but they weren’t the only reason I had such a spooky good time this year.

Carrie prepared a delicious meal, and she invited her parents to join us for dinner and a game night. In her family, the game of choice is Sequence, a card game that requires luck, strategy, and teamwork. Carrie, her mom, and I were on one team, while her husband and father were on the other. To play Sequence fairly, you need the same number of players on each team. When there is an odd number of players, you deal an extra hand to the team with fewer players. The members of that team play their own hands and take turns playing the extra hand, which Carrie’s family calls “the blind hand.” Since it was Halloween, I suggested we call it the “ghost hand.” 

As I often do, I took it a step further. My mother passed in April of 2011. She loved to play card games and she loved Halloween. I half-jokingly asked the group if we could pretend the “ghost hand” was my mother joining us from the other side. To demonstrate her love for Halloween, I showed them a photo of my mom dressed as a gorilla from Halloween in 2009. That year, at age 79, my mother decided she wanted to be a female gorilla wearing earrings, lipstick, a pink tutu, and a red bra. She thought it would be fun to dress like that and hand out bananas to the men at her assisted living facility because no one would recognize her. How could I argue with that? When I asked if this female gorilla had a name, without missing a beat, my mother replied, “You can call me Bubbles.”

Most people talk about Christmas Miracles. My mother had a Halloween Miracle. We found all the elements to create that costume in just one shopping trip, and all for less than $30! I could not believe it! Her vision of Bubbles came to life as you can see in the picture above. Everyone at the table had a good laugh at that photo and applauded my mom for her spunk and youthful spirit. That was all the incentive they needed to invite Bubbles to be the “ghost hand.”

We clearly didn’t think that one through. Over the next few hours, that “ghost hand” had all the best cards, including three wild cards in one deal! Every time Carrie’s dad or husband played from Bubbles’ hand, she always had the perfect card to block or make a sequence. In short, Bubbles kicked our butts! Of course she did! From where she is, she can see all of our cards and our strategies. It truly was amazing to watch what happened every time it was her turn. Perhaps the best line of the night was when Carrie’s husband told her father, “Don’t worry, Chuck. Let Bubbles guide you.” The table erupted in laughter with that one!

Regardless of your belief system, you can’t deny my mother’s presence was with us at that table on Halloween night, even if it was just in our hearts and minds. If her spirit was there, and I want to believe it was, she loved every minute of it! After losing 4 out of 5 games to Team Bubbles, Carrie’s mother leaned over to me and said, “John. I don’t mean to be rude, but I don’t think we should invite your mother to play with us again…unless she’s on our team.” Even though we lost in a big way, it was still the most fun I’ve had on Halloween in years!  Thanks for joining us, Mom. The way you played, I can’t guarantee you will have a place at the table on game night again, but you will always have a special place in my heart.

Speaking of having a place at the table, as Thanksgiving approaches, many of us may be questioning where exactly we belong. We may have graduated from the kid’s table but still feel not part of the family in many ways. Family Constellations is a powerful tool that uncovers hidden family dynamics to help us sort out where we belong. My next online workshop happening Saturday, November 13 will be “An Exploration on Belonging with Family Constellations.” If you have ever felt like an outsider or wondered where you fit in, this workshop is for you! Visit the Upcoming Workshops page on my website for more information and to purchase your ticket now. Space is limited to 15 participants, so best not to wait. 

This week, may you stay young at heart while finding your place at the table of life, but beware of who you invite to sit with you!

Communication is not limited to the small range of channels the world recognizes.

A Course in Miracles ~ M-25.2:2

Remember Me

Day of the Dead (Dia de Los Muertos) is a holiday that gives us the opportunity to celebrate the lives of our loved ones who have passed. Families honor their ancestors by creating “ofrendas” or offerings. These altars are decorated with candles, bright yellow marigolds, photos of the departed, and the favorite foods and drinks of the one being honored. Since this celebration happens today into tomorrow, November 1 & 2, it felt appropriate to share this expanded definition of ancestors and descendants again. Perhaps it will inspire you to light a candle, look at old photographs, or simply take a moment to remember all those who came before:

One of my most influential Family Constellations Teachers, Suzi Tucker, defines an ancestor as anyone who stands behind the people who stand behind us. Yes, this is our grandparents, great grandparents, and so on, but this definition does not limit an ancestor to those who pass down their DNA. It expands the definition to include teachers, mentors, therapists, counselors, and coaches. Truly anyone who has touched our lives in some significant way is an ancestor. 

By this definition, Michelle Blechner, Suzy Tucker, Mark Wolynn, and the many Constellations Mentors that have shaped my work, including the man who created Family Constellations, Bert Hellinger, are my ancestors. I also honor Helen Schucman, William Thetford, Ken Wapnick, Judy Skutch Whitson, and all those responsible for ushering  A Course in Miracles into the world. I acknowledge and thank Gary Renard and every ACIM Teacher and Facilitator who has helped me understand and apply these radical teachings to my life. I have tremendous respect and gratitude for all of my spiritual teachers along the way: Ministers from both Unity and Science of Mind, my Rose Quartz Family, and the staff at Educating Hands School of Massage in Miami. There are too many to name so I will just say thank you, ancestors!

Suzi also has an expanded definition of descendants. They are anyone whose life we touch that touches the lives of others. Of course, if you have children and grandchildren, they are your descendants. Nieces and nephews fall into this category, but so would any child whose life you have been a part of, regardless of blood relation. If you are a teacher, every student you have ever taught is a descendent. There are so many lives we touch every day whether from a formal mentoring or teaching role or just by the way we show up for them. 

By this definition, my Coaching Clients, Constellation Clients, and all those who have ever attended a Family Constellations Workshop or A Course in Miracles Study Group are my descendants. Take a moment to think about all the lives you have touched. It is extremely humbling to imagine how many people are in front of us. I am thrilled to know that a few members of my ACIM Study Groups have gone on to facilitate their own groups. Some who have attended my Constellations Training have begun to use the concepts and philosophy in their healing work. It brings me such joy to see these teachings being passed down and spreading out into the world.

An experience I had during a Constellations Conference gave me an even deeper appreciation of this concept. During an exercise, the facilitator put us into groups of 3 and instructed us to take turns representing ourselves while one person represented an ancestor and the other represented a descendant. I’ll never forget the feeling of immense gratitude that welled up in me while representing the descendant. As I looked at my teacher and my teacher’s teacher, I wondered how I could ever repay them for such a life-changing gift. And then it dawned on me. The best way to repay them was by sharing what I learned with others, thus allowing the gift to keep on giving.

If you’d like to experience some of the gifts I have been given, consider attending one or both of my weekly online A Course in Miracles Study Groups on Mondays and Fridays. Visit the Miracles page on my website for the times and information on how to join. 

For a one-of-a-kind opportunity to honor your ancestors while releasing unhealthy family patterns, join me for an upcoming Virtual Family Constellations Workshop. There are just two more scheduled in 2021. To prepare you for Thanksgiving, the first is “An Exploration of Belonging with Family Constellations” happening on Saturday, November 13 at 2PM Eastern,  1PM Central. Then, to help you navigate the holiday season, we will be “Balancing Giving and Receiving with Family Constellations” on Saturday, December 11 also at 2PM Eastern, 1PM Central. Visit the Upcoming Workshops page on my website for more information and to purchase your ticket. 

In the meantime, I trust you will find a way that has meaning to you to honor your ancestors, those that came before. Don’t forget to also take a moment to receive gratitude from your descendants, those that follow. I like to watch the Disney/Pixar film Coco at this time of year because it takes place in Mexico during El Dia de Los Muertos. Not only is it visually stunning, but the story will touch your heart. Please enjoy a little sample with the song “Remember Me” by clicking here.

Love must be extended. 

A Course in Miracles ~ T-28.II.2:2

A Simple Recipe for a Batch of Happiness

Several years ago when I lived in Fort Lauderdale, I often enjoyed delicious meals prepared by a dear friend. This friend happened to be a chef and former restaurant owner. I remember one night I asked him how he was able to cook such tasty food. He said there’s no secret to it. Just use high quality ingredients and you will end up with delicious food. I’ve never forgotten his answer because it was so simple and so obvious. It’s not quite that simple for someone like me with extremely limited culinary skills, but I recently discovered the truth in his words. 

Last month, my first attempt at creating a batch of vegetarian quinoa chili from a favorite recipe yielded only mediocre results. Since it was my first time making it solo, I did not want to invest a lot of money in the ingredients. The flavor of the end result reflected that. It didn’t help that during the first 30 seconds of preparation I had a small mishap while dicing an onion. It wasn’t an emergency room mishap, just a little pressure, elevation, and band-aid mishap. However, it felt like I had to prepare the chili with one hand tied behind my back. Have you ever tried to open new bottles of spices and manipulate a set of measuring spoons with one hand? It’s not easy!

Now that I had the experience of making one batch under my belt, last week I decided to heed my friend’s advice and buy organic and brand-name ingredients for my second one. I’m happy to report that this time there were no chopping or dicing incidents and the better ingredients did indeed make a better batch of chili. I was quite pleased with the results and have been enjoying delicious chili all week. Click this link for the recipe.

It occurred to me that my friend’s advice about cooking also applies to life. The recipe is simple. If you want a happy life you need to add happy ingredients. What kinds of things are you putting in your experience every day? Are you surrounded by people who love and support you? Are you eating foods that feel good in your belly? Are you listening to music that makes you want to dance? Are you watching movies and tv shows or reading books that help you feel hopeful?

I believe the most important ingredients to a happy life are our thoughts. Only the most loving, peaceful, creative, and inspired thoughts will produce the results we desire. Thoughts of unworthiness, blame, fear, and judgments will not make us happy. That would be like tossing rotten tomatoes into my chili and expecting it to taste yummy. It just doesn’t work that way. Although it seems simple and obvious, this metaphor has helped me to be more mindful of my thoughts and how I invest my time lately. I trust it will help you pick the best ingredients for your life too. If I can assist you with Spiritual Coaching or a private Family Constellations session, please reach out via my website at

This week and beyond, may you place only the highest quality happy ingredients into your daily life and cook up your own batch of happiness. 

The necessary condition for the holy instant does not require that you have no thoughts that are not pure. But it does require that you have none that you would keep.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-15.IV.9:1-2

Honoring the Ebb and Flow

This week, I have been keeping to myself, so I don’t have a fun story to share but I do have an observation. My inner critic, also known as the ego, wants to chastise me for not being very productive and not reaching out to more people. It would like me to think there is something wrong rather than trust this experience as simply part of the ebb and flow of life. In our culture, we place a high value on achieving and doing. We readily celebrate when things are flowing and we are busy. As soon as things slow down or get quiet, we are quick to think somehow we failed or there is something to fix. 

Imagine if Mother Ocean operated that way. If there was only flow and no ebb, our coasts would be underwater. We need the ebb, the time when the water recedes into the sea, before the flow when the waves roll back to shore. It’s a natural cycle that keeps things in balance.

In the past, you may have heard me use another analogy to describe this cycle. Here in the world of duality, every expansion is followed by some form of contraction. For example, when we breathe, our lungs fill with air, our rib cage expands, and then it contracts as we release the air. It’s a natural rhythm, and gratefully so! In other areas of life, however, we welcome the expansion but curse the contraction.

Most of us have had the feeling of sadness or perhaps depression upon returning home from a fabulous vacation. We are experiencing the contraction after the expansion. Unfortunately, it doesn’t feel good like taking a deep breath. We plan for weeks or months and look forward to special times with friends and family. While the vacation is happening, we are out of our everyday routine. New possibilities and choices are everywhere. We feel expanded and joyful. Then, once the trip is over, going back to our regular life can feel limiting and challenging.

But here’s the good news. Just like the breath, when the contraction is over, the expansion starts again. We simply have to be patient. It’s a cycle, just like the ebb and flow of the tides. There’s no need to panic when the ebb happens. The flow will return. But in the meantime, can we be present with the ebb and fully receive its unique gifts? Can we take some time for self-reflection? Are we making choices aligned with our hearts’ desires or simply doing things out of habit? The ebb is a perfect opportunity to ask these questions. 

This week, I gave myself permission to rest, reflect, and not do much work. And you know what? Despite what the ego says, everything is okay and I feel better! Eventually, I will feel like getting out there again and being more productive. But for now, I’m going to honor the ebb and invest a little more time in being. I hope you will allow yourself to do the same when the ebb visits you…and it will. 

Are you experiencing an ebb or contraction right now? It would be my great honor to walk you through it with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations session. Both can give you a new perspective as well as tools to help navigate the ebb and flow of life. There is also an opportunity to go within and honor the ebb the weekend of October 22-24 from the comfort of your own home. I will be sharing an experience of Family Constellations as part of a 3-day Virtual Wellness Reset Retreat with other Mindfulness, Meditation, and Healing Practitioners. Visit the Upcoming Workshops page on my website for more information and to register.

Until next time, I trust you will find ways to honor both the ebb and flow of life whenever they visit.

…the ego is forced to shift ceaselessly from one goal to another, so that you will continue to hope it can yet offer you something. 

A Course in Miracles ~ T-8.VIII.2:7 

Right on Target

Last week, I had an uncomfortable experience at Target. It started when I noticed a guy in glasses staring at me as I walked in the door. I thought maybe he was an employee and I came in the exit door by mistake. There was an awkward moment of eye contact when I realized he was just another customer. I looked away and continued in the direction of the items I needed to purchase. As I walked away, I distinctly heard him say from across the store,  “Don’t give me that look in your cargo shorts.” 

For a moment, I couldn’t believe what I heard. Did a stranger just make a rude comment about my clothing choice? I’m aware that cargo shorts are no longer in style. My last partner liked to tease me when I wore them. However, all those pockets sure are handy for carrying my phone, keys, wallet, and mask. I didn’t think there was any need to “dress to impress” while buying contact lens solution. Not that I’ve ever been very fashion conscious, as my wardrobe clearly indicates! Still, this judgment from someone who did not know me stung a little bit.

In that moment, I remembered a tool from A Course in Miracles that I often share with my coaching clients. I stopped and asked Spirit to help me see this situation differently. Whenever I remember to do this, something always drops into my mind that I wouldn’t have thought of in that moment. In this case, the thought dropped in that people in pain often unconsciously inflict pain on others in an attempt to make themselves feel better. Perhaps this guy was having a bad day and felt I had somehow offended him by looking away or by wearing unfashionable clothing. The Course is very clear that everything is either an expression of love or a call for love, and the appropriate response is always some form of love.

That doesn’t mean I searched the store to give this guy a hug. No, I simply took a moment to extend love from my heart to his with my mind. It helped me feel a little better so I could continue shopping. I found the items I needed and made my way to the self-checkout area as quickly as possible. Although I had seen the situation differently, I did not want to run into this guy again. Thankfully, I made it out of the store and to my car with no further incidents, but some of the icky energy remained.

Back home, as I was putting away my purchases, a text message from a friend came in. The message had a link to an article about “Dog the Bounty Hunter” in relation to a national news story. I had never heard of this former reality television star. When I clicked the link, I was taken aback by his unique appearance. This guy has long bleached blonde hair that reaches the middle of his back which he brushes back. He often wears clips or earrings (I can’t tell which) with strands of dangling feathers that frame his face. Dog completes his look with dark or mirrored sunglasses and some sort of black shirt or jacket that he leaves open exposing his chest and whatever necklace he’s wearing. “That’s an interesting look,” I thought to myself.

Are you noticing a pattern? Barely 30 minutes had passed since my uncomfortable experience at Target, and there I was judging this guy based on his appearance and clothing. Granted, I wasn’t making comments out loud in his presence, but A Course in Miracles reminds me that all minds are connected. Whether I speak them out loud or not, my thoughts have an impact on others. It was interesting to observe myself exhibiting the same behavior that had hurt my feelings a short while earlier. Instead of beating myself up for my judgment, I decided to take a moment to extend love to everyone involved in this situation…including myself.

It felt important to share this story that night during my weekly online A Course in Miracles study group because it illustrated just how sneaky the ego’s thought system is. One longtime member insightfully pointed out the incident at Target was also a reflection of my own feelings about my cargo shorts since I had been teased about them. It never ceases to amaze me how everything can be traced back to our thoughts. I’m extremely grateful for the teachings of A Course in Miracles that remind me if I want to return to a peaceful state of mind, all I have to do is change my thoughts. Thank you, Target Guy and Dog the Bounty Hunter for being my teachers!

Do you often feel judged by the people in your life? Would you like some assistance in relinquishing the judgments you have toward others that are causing you stress? As I was reminded last week, letting them go is a very freeing experience. Please explore my website to learn more about my Spiritual Coaching sessions as well as private and group Family Constellations sessions. Both can help you see things from an expanded perspective so you can return to peace. To add a plethora of mindfulness tools and practices to your self-care toolbox, please join me for a Virtual Wellness Reset Retreat the weekend of October 22-24. To find out more, click this link. For a limited time, use coupon code JOHNLOVE20 at checkout to receive $20 off the registration price.

This coming week, I invite you to notice how you feel when judgments make their presence known, and then ask to see the situation differently. You just might experience a miracle!

You have no idea of the tremendous release and deep peace that comes from meeting yourself and your brothers totally without judgment. 

A Course in Miracles ~ T-3.VI.3:1

Birthday Blessings to an Old Friend

Today, October 1, the Walt Disney World Resort is celebrating its 50th Birthday. It’s hard to believe the park opened 50 years ago, and even harder for me to believe that 25 years have passed since we celebrated its 25th Birthday with a bright pink castle cake in the center of the Magic Kingdom. I happened to work there then, and that castle cake was the subject of many heated discussions. People loved it or hated it. I’m glad to see the Imagineers decided on a more subtle change to the castle for the 50th Celebration. As I look back on the role Disney World has played in my life, it seems appropriate to share a few stories to honor this magical milestone. I might not be where I am today if Walt Disney had not dreamed it into existence. 

My first visit to Disney World was in December of 1975. My father died on January 1 of that same year, and my mother decided to take the whole family to Disney World for Christmas. She wanted us be able to create new holiday memories without the sad ones hanging over us from my dad’s last Christmas in our house. It was a stroke of genius, and it worked like a charm. We had a great holiday in Florida.

Honestly, I don’t remember much about our actual visit to the park, but I do remember the fun we had driving from Binghamton, NY to Orlando, FL in our orange Chevy station wagon, the “butterscotch car,” as my dad called it. We still tell stories about the hijinx that occurred on that epic road trip. I give my mother a lot of credit for surviving a trip like that with a college senior, 3 teenage girls, and an 8-year old me. 

I do remember riding Space Mountain because it was my first roller coaster ever. Since I was the smallest, they sat me in the very front of the rocket with my siblings behind me. That little boy squealed with a mixture of delight and fear as our rocket twisted, turned, and dipped abruptly in the darkness. When we got off, I thought I was pretty cool braving Space Mountain as my first coaster. My 8-year old self did not know that Space Mountain is relatively mild compared to other coasters around the world.

I also remember my mother saying I could have just one toy from the gift shop, but I desperately wanted a plush Mickey and Minnie. I must have worn her down. That Christmas Eve, I fell asleep in our hotel room with Mickey on one side and Minnie on the other. Some might say I was spoiled, and they would probably be right. However, I certainly appreciated those mice because I still remember how much I loved them over 4 decades later!

In fifth grade, I returned to Disney World with just my mother. Two things stand out from that trip. While riding “Pirates of the Caribbean,” my mother and I both noticed the dirty foot and hairy leg of the animatronic pirate dangling from a bridge as our boat sailed underneath him. We thought those details were pretty cool and made him very lifelike. When I ride “Pirates” today, I still smile and think of my mom when I see that hairy, dirty leg dangling from the bridge. The things that get stuck in our brains!

But what I remember most about that second trip was the Main Street Electrical Parade. Something about the combination of music, lights, and beloved Disney Characters completely captivated me. I wanted to watch that parade again and again. My mother would ask me what I wanted to do next, and I would answer, “I want to see the Light Parade!” She would calmly reply, “Yes, honey. We can watch it again tonight. But it’s 11 AM. What would you like to do now?”

Ten-year old John never could have imagined that he would perform in that parade when Disney brought it back for the Millennium Celebration. I wish my mother could have seen me in it, but sadly, that was during the height of her alcohol addiction, so she never made it to Florida. That’s okay. She saw me dance in other parades. Performing in the Main Street Electrical Parade at the end of my Disney career felt like a full-circle moment. Today, it only takes a few notes of that parade music to send tingles all through my body and goosebumps to appear on my arms. 

Dancing in the Main Street Electrical Parade in 1999

After that visit with my mother in 1977 or 1978, it was 13 years before I returned to Disney World with my best friend from high school. The Disney/MGM Studios had recently opened, and we loved the movie-themed attractions at that park as well as Epcot and the three “mountains” at the Magic Kingdom: Space Mountain, Big Thunder Mountain, and Splash Mountain. Ironically, parades and shows were of no interest. I remember we were annoyed that the 3 o’clock parade prevented us from getting across the park quickly to the next ride! I had no idea just a few years later I would be the source of annoyance for someone trying to get to the other side of the park! It still never crossed my mind that I would work there one day.

In the fall of 1992, I moved to Orlando with 3 good friends. All 3 of us wanted to work in the entertainment industry, but felt LA and New York were too big. At the time, some movies and TV shows were being filmed in Orlando, so we thought we’d start there. Worst-case scenario, we could work at one of the theme parks while we pursued our dreams. Well, of the four of us, I was the only one who stayed in Orlando, and my “backup job” became my dream job for 7 years. Believe it or not, before working in the Entertainment Department at the Magic Kingdom, I was painfully shy! I could never do the work I do now, sometimes in front of large groups, had it not been for my experience at Disney World.

When I look back, I can see how Life was preparing me step by step. My first roles were in character costumes so no one could see my face. I could take chances and act as silly as I wanted because no one knew who I was. It was incredibly liberating and fun! It also gave me a second chance at childhood since I had to be a grownup for much of my first one. Some days I couldn’t believe I was getting paid to play with my friends and get hugs from hundreds of little kids.

After my first year, show directors started casting me in roles where my face was showing. I’ll never forget the first time I stepped out on parade route without being able to hide in a costume. I could see the park guests clearly, and they could see me. It was a bit scary, but I was so grateful to be there that I just kept dancing. After a while, being in front of thousands of park guests as John became comfortable.

Dancing in Cinderella’s Royal Court during the 25th Anniversary Parade

A few weeks ago, I wrote about portraying Captain John Smith at the Pocahontas character breakfast. There was no room for shyness when my job required me to walk up to a table of strangers and start talking to them. Now I can initiate a conversation with just about anyone. During those 7 years, I also performed in a traveling drug prevention puppet show at elementary schools all around Orlando. For obvious reasons, doing that show was extremely rewarding. It was the first time I used my painful childhood experience as a catalyst to help others. Now, I get to do that all the time with Family Constellations. Disney World was the perfect playground to overcome my shyness and gain confidence. That’s why I say I might not be where I am today without that magical place. So Happy 50th Birthday, Disney World! And thank you for all the ways you comforted, enchanted, supported, and grew me.

I would be honored to share some of the magic and miracles I have experienced to support you and help you grow into the fullest version of you. Please visit my website to learn more about my Spiritual Coaching programs and Family Constellations. Both assist you in seeing things from an expanded perspective so you can break free of unhealthy patterns and live the happy, healthy life you were meant to live. To schedule an appointment or to ask a question, simply send me an email

This week, may you find a moment to reflect on a happy place or time in your life that helped you become the person you are today. 

Count, then, the silver miracles and golden dreams of happiness as all the treasures you would keep within the storehouse of the world.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-28.III.7:1 

A Miracle Happened at the DMV

Earlier this year, I had ongoing frustrations dealing with Honda Financial Services. When my lease ended in January, I decided to purchase my car with a lease buyout. The first challenge occurred when a Houston Honda dealer sent them a payment without my authorization. Due to very poor customer service and more than $2,000 of mysterious additional fees that no one could adequately explain, I decided not to pursue a loan with them. Imagine my surprise when I logged into my account the next day to discover that my balance had been paid! 

I called Honda Financial Services and waited on hold for at least 30 minutes to speak to a customer service agent. Little did I know this would be the first of many half hours spent listening to that hold music and Honda’s special offers. I did my best to be patient knowing many businesses were understaffed due to the pandemic. When an agent finally answered, I explained my situation and she assured me that she would get the paperwork straightened out with the dealership. In the meantime, I had secured a loan through other means, so she advised me to mail the payoff check to them along with my odometer disclosure statement. Once they received my check and that document, Honda would send me the title via FedEx. That sounded good to me.

For the next few months, I waited for FedEx to deliver my title, but it never came. I made more calls to Honda to check on the status with more half hours on hold, but nothing expedited the process. I found out that the title had been issued and sent to the Honda dealer in Houston. Once the dealership sent it back, it would be another 8-10 weeks before they could issue another title with my name on it. Again, I waited.

It was during this time that my guidance to leave Texas became crystal clear. With no news about my title, I began to get anxious. For some reason, I had it in my head that I needed to take care of this lingering detail before I moved back to the Sunshine State. Three days before my move, I surrendered to the fact that my title would not arrive before I left. I called Honda (once again waiting the obligatory 30 minutes on hold) to give them my temporary Florida address and ask that they please FedEx the title to me there. The nice woman on the phone assured me that was not a problem.

As you may have already guessed, that’s not what happened. FedEx delivered it to my address in Houston a month later. It had to be mailed to me in a pre-addressed envelope that I created knowing this would probably happen. Glory! Hallelujah! I finally received the title in the mail 7 months after sending my payoff check to Honda. But, alas, there was a lesson that life wanted to teach me…again.

After all that anxious waiting, the title sat in my drawer for another month! I had found a new apartment but it wouldn’t be ready until August 13. Rather than change the address twice, I decided to wait and title my car when I got my new Florida driver’s license and license plates. Oh, what a happy day that was! And to my surprise, I was able to do all 3 of those things at the same office with the same customer service representative. 

Miguel defied every stereotype and joke you’ve ever heard about the DMV. Not only was he super friendly and efficient, but he delivered some happy news. Since my car was originally titled in Florida where I leased it, I saved over $200 in fees. I also noticed Florida sales tax was $100 less than it would have been in Texas. It turns out those frustrating delays were actually working in my favor! They saved me quite a bit of money and a lot of unnecessary paperwork. What a powerful lesson in surrendering what I think should happen, and trusting the divine timing of the Universe. 

Is there something happening or not happening in your life that is trying to take away your peace? I would be honored to assist you in seeing things from another perspective with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations session. Both can help you develop a sense of trust that everything is unfolding for your highest good. For more information about these opportunities and to book a session, please look around my website or send me an email.

This week, may you find ways to experience peace while trusting that everything is unfolding perfectly.

What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good? 

A Course in Miracles ~W.135.18:1 

A Magical Cosmic Wink

I took this photo from Artist Point at Yellowstone National Park.

The dictionary defines a synchronicity as “the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.” I like to think of synchronicities as cosmic winks from the Universe reminding me that everything is connected in Oneness, and I am always right where I need to be. One such convergence of elements happened last week while I was in Montana. 

I had just finished teaching Donna Eden’s 5-minute Daily Energy Medicine Routine to a group of early risers at the Big Sky Retreat during the morning session called “Energize Your Day.” At one point during the routine, we marched in place, touching our knees with our opposite hands to connect the energy on both sides of our bodies. I made a silly reference to marching like a toy soldier in the Christmas Parade at Disney World, which I happened to do in 1993. After hearing this, my friend and co-facilitator, Michael Benjamin, teased me about always playing the “Disney Card” by mentioning my time there as a performer. “How am I supposed to compete with that?” he joked, and we all had a good laugh.

Afterward, I met up with my dear friend, Dr. Charles Geddes, at the only restaurant in the Big Sky Resort that serves breakfast. We soon discovered we weren’t the only large group at the resort. When we walked up to the podium, the hostess asked us if we were with Disney! Her question stumped me for a moment when suddenly I recognized the music playing in the restaurant was from Disney’s animated film Pocahontas. That’s when things got weird as a convergence of seemingly unrelated elements flooded my mind and took me back in time 25 years!

In addition to being a toy soldier, one of the roles I played at Disney World was Captain John Smith from Pocahontas. I portrayed him for a whole year in 1996 at a character breakfast featuring characters from the movie. Pocahontas, John Smith, Meeko, and Governor Ratcliffe went table to table at a restaurant called Artist Point in the Wilderness Lodge. At the time, I did not know Artist Point was the name of a spectacular scenic overlook at the Grand Canyon of the Yellowstone, nor did I know the Wilderness Lodges was themed after the Old Faithful Inn at Yellowstone National Park. My first visit to that hotel in 2014 with Charles was strangely familiar, although I had never been there! This year prior to the retreat, my sister and I visited Yellowstone and our last stop of the day was Artist Point. I specifically asked her to take a photo of me next to the sign so I could send it to my beloved friend who played Pocahontas. 

Here I was a few days later, standing at the entrance to a restaurant for breakfast hearing Pocahontas sing “Just Around the Riverbend” as the hostess asked us if we were “with Disney” moments after my friend teased me about working for Disney. It was almost too much for my brain to process! I reluctantly answered “no,” but I did share with her the synchronistic moment I was experiencing as she showed us to our table. It was a perfect, magical setting to reconnect with my magical friend, Charles, on his birthday. Disney tunes played throughout our meal and I loved every minute of it. What a wonderful cosmic wink from the Universe reminding me that I was right where I was supposed to be. 

Has it been a while since you received a cosmic wink like that? Have you felt out of place or out of sorts with all the changes happening in the world? During these uncertain times, it can be very challenging to feel connected to something greater than ourselves. It would be my great honor to create a space where you can feel that connection again with a series of Life Coaching sessions or during a private or group Family Constellations session. Cosmic winks happen all the time during Family Constellations. Please look around my website for more information about one-on-one sessions and how to join my next online group session where we will take “A Fresh Look at Relationships with Family Constellations.” Feel free to send me an email with any questions you may have or to book a session.

Until next time, may you notice all the ways the Universe is winking at you to remind you that you are right where you are supposed to be and all is well. 

A major contribution of miracles is their strength in releasing you from your false sense of isolation, deprivation and lack.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-1.I.42:1