The Let It Go Chair

It is no secret that I am not a fan of cold weather. I often joke when the temperature plummets below 60 degrees, I am quite unhappy. Late Sunday afternoon, the temperature was already in the 50s and dropping quickly when my friends asked me to join them for the drumming circle on Siesta Key Beach. Of course, I was hesitant. When they texted, I had just heated my bean bag in the microwave and was lying on it to warm my tight back muscles as I watched a TV show on my iPad. I have to be honest. The idea of leaving the comfort of my warm apartment and bean bag to brave the cold was not so tempting. 

What was tempting was spending more time with my friends, one of whom was only in town for the weekend. Plus, the chance to be near Mother Ocean is always tempting. Several people had told me about this drumming circle which happens on the beach at sunset every Sunday. After five months of living here, I had yet to make it there. Here was an opportunity to do so with fun friends, so I put down my iPad and promised my bean bag I would return soon. I donned a long-sleeved shirt, a sweatshirt, a hoody, grabbed my down jacket from the coat closet, and headed to the beach. (I realize those of you who live in much colder climates are either laughing or shaking your head at me as you read this, but what can I say? I’m a Floridian!)

As soon as I got out of my car, the lively sound of drum beats echoing across the parking lot from a nearby pavilion greeted me. I found my Floridian friends (who were also well-layered) just in time to see the last rays of sun sink below the waves. We decided to walk closer to the water to enjoy its beauty while some light remained. The spot where the sun had just disappeared was glowing pink, as you can see in the center of the accompanying photo. Mother Nature created quite a masterpiece with that little splash of pink among the silvery-gray clouds and waves. It was spectacular.

As we got closer to the water’s edge, we soon discovered that there was another masterpiece to behold. This one was manmade. Someone had built a semi-circular bench out of sand with a pyramid-like sand sculpture opposite it. Carved in the sand below the pyramid was the name “Let It Go” Chair with instructions to sit, take 3 deep breaths, then let go of what’s on your mind. This was followed by the words “Thank you for being you.” Nestled in the seating area was a Bluetooth speaker playing soft harp music. What a lovely sacred space this talented artist had created for anyone who strolled the beach that night. None of us wanted to miss an opportunity to “let it go,” so after snapping a few photos, we sat down to enjoy a peaceful moment inside that masterpiece. 

Even with the chilly temperatures, I felt so blessed to be outside in that space with two dear friends feeling the sea breeze on my face as the sound of the harp and the waves carried away anything that was unlike love. The angle of the bench was ideal for leaning back and allowing the sand to completely support us. Others chose to sit upright in lotus position while letting it go. Some marveled from the outside that this seemingly delicate sand structure could support the weight of a human! The artist carved a hole in the back of the bench, creating a window that offered a view of the pyramid and waves in the distance. It truly was a magnificent design.

The artist was standing nearby, observing people experience his creation. Someone asked him how long it took to create, and he replied that he had been working on it since 9:30 that morning. I’m not sure when he finished, but I’m grateful we were there around 6 PM to enjoy the fruits of his labor. When we finally opened our eyes and exited the sand structure, I spotted the artist several yards away. Without words, I stood to face him and gave him a deep namaste bow which he received and returned with his own. I trust he felt my immense gratitude for the space he created.

We eventually made our way to the pavilion to enjoy the rhythmic beat of the drums while a handful of people danced and twirled in the middle of the circle. Several minutes later, we noticed our artist friend had joined the circle and began adding cool beats with his own drum. A musician too? Was there no limit to this man’s creativity?

I am beyond grateful that I ventured out of my warm apartment that night. Had I let the cold stop me, I would have missed that fun and grace-filled experience with my friends. What a great reminder that joy and miracles are often waiting for us outside of our comfort zone. 

This week, perhaps you will be inspired to create your own “Let It Go” chair. It doesn’t have to be made of sand. It could be a cushion placed on the floor in a quiet corner of your home or in front of a window. It’s best to choose a chair or space where you don’t usually sit. That way, your unconscious mind will know something is different about this time of stillness. Then sit down. Play some soothing music. Take 3 deep breaths. And let it go!

If you could use some assistance with letting a particularly challenging thought or situation go, I would be honored to help with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations session. Both will allow you to see it from a different perspective, making it easier to release. Please look around my website or send me an email for more information and to book a session. 

This week, may you find the perfect place to let it go…

In quietness are all things answered, and is every problem quietly resolved. In conflict there can be no answer and no resolution, for its purpose is to make no resolution possible, and to ensure no answer will be plain.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-27.IV.1:1-2 

Is it Time to Let That Leaf Go?

The other day I sat under a huge tree in the park far away from the pedestrian pathways. My back was pressed against the jagged bark on her wide trunk as a soft spring breeze caressed my face. A single brown leaf floated to the ground in front of me. I looked up to see most of the tree’s canopy was bright green with just a few brown leaves still hanging on to their branches. I wondered what made this the perfect moment for the tree to let go of that particular leaf. Hadn’t it been dead since autumn? Why now?

I doubt the tree was asking such a silly question. Nor was it feeling ashamed that it waited so long to let go of that leaf. It made me wonder why can’t I be more like that tree. Why am I often so hard on myself for not being able to let things go? Like the little brown leaf that hung on for months, maybe it simply wasn’t time yet? If it were, wouldn’t I have let go already? Maybe there is more for me to learn from that job, person, habit, or situation? I have learned that once I get the lesson, the teacher can go away, but not until then. 

I’m going to do my best to remember that tree and be gentle with myself. That doesn’t mean I won’t ever let things go in a timely manner. It just means I won’t judge myself if they stick around a little longer than is peaceful. Eventually, I will let go. Perhaps I need a little bit more of the experience to truly get the lesson. Maybe all I need is a soft breeze from the winds of change to help gravity do its part. When it’s time, I’ll let go.

This week I encourage you to be like that tree and be gentle with yourself. Many of us have more time for self-reflection these days. Maybe you’ve noticed something in your home, your behavior, your life, or your thoughts that is no longer a match for who you are. That’s a great thing to notice! Maybe it’s time to let it go. If it sticks, maybe it has more to teach you. Either way, you can trust that, just like that leaf, one day it will float to the ground and a  new green leaf will grow in its place.

It would be my great honor to help you release with grace and gratitude whatever is trying to take away your peace. I am still doing Life Coaching and Family Constellations by phone, Zoom, and Skype. Because many of you have experienced a slow down or stoppage in your financial flow, I am offering 45-minute Life Coaching calls on a love offering basis. Please send me an email for more information or to schedule a session. 

Until next time, may you release with ease and grace whatever is no longer serving your highest good like a leaf floating to the ground.

You cannot really not let go what has already gone. It must be, therefore, that you are maintaining the illusion that it has not gone because you think it serves some purpose that you want fulfilled.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-16.VII.2:10-11

How Do I Let It Go?

One of the great things about being a Life Coach is the fact that I am constantly immersed in the teachings I share. When I pay attention, I can usually apply whatever I am talking about with my clients to something that is going on in my own life. You have probably heard it said that we teach what we need to learn. I believe that’s true. This week several of my clients asked for tips on how to let things go. After I finished singing the song from Disney’s Frozen, I suggested to each of them that they create a “God Box.” (I’m kidding, of course. I didn’t actually sing “Let it Go,” but I will admit the chorus ran through my head.)

A “God Box” is simply any container or box that you designate to be the place where you give the things that have been concerning you to God (or Spirit, or the Universe.) I have a beautiful wooden box with an OM symbol carved on it that my dear friend, Kristi, gifted me years ago. Whenever something is consistently trying to take away my peace, I write the situation down on a little slip of paper and place it in that wooden box. If a loved one is going through a challenging time, I write their name surrounded by hearts and angels and place it in the box. Any decision that I have been churning over and over in my mind goes in the box. If there is an expensive item I need but don’t know where the extra money will come from, I write it down and put it in the box. If a friend needs a new place to live or a wonderful job opportunity is on the horizon, I write it down as if it has already happened and place it in the box.

It might seem silly to some, but I believe rituals are a great way to give the unconscious mind the message that something is different now. The ritual of placing something in a God Box is a powerful way to connect the idea of letting go with a tangible, physical action. In short, it’s something “to do.” Whatever you were worried about is literally out of your hands and in the Hands of God.

After talking about it with so many of my clients, I realized I hadn’t visited my own God Box in quite a while. Today, I opened it up to see what was in there. It was wonderful to discover that many of the things that were in there have been resolved or have manifested, including the computer I am using to write this! That’s one of the fun benefits of this practice in addition to freeing up your mental energy. Some of the things in my God Box were no longer relevant as circumstances had changed for my loved ones. Those slips of paper needed to come out, and a few new ones needed to go in. My God Box got a breath of fresh air today, and I was able to say a prayer of gratitude over those slips of paper that came out.

By the way, you don’t have to call it a God Box. You can call it your prayer chest or wish box. The name is not important. What’s important is your intention to let those things go and stop thinking about them. Of course, you can always sing the song too!

If you could use some more personal assistance in letting things go, I would be honored to help you with Life Coaching or a private Family Constellations session. These sessions can be done in person, over the telephone, or via Skype. Please look around my website for more information or contact me with any questions you may have.

I leave you with this message that arrived on my iPhone as I was typing this week’s message. It’s from the Archangel Uriel app from Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine:

“Be at peace for everything is in God’s hands.”

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