A Miracle Mom Story

Sunday was Mother’s Day, and as some of you know, I had quite a challenging journey of healing with mine. This photo of us was taken at her 80th birthday party in front of an old Olan Mills photo taken when I was ten years old. I see our soul contract in the knowing look we gave each other as if we are saying, “Here we go again! Let’s get it right this time and choose unconditional love.” I’m happy to say I think we did it!.

Rather than write about it, I thought it might be more helpful to hear me talk about it with the hosts of the Miracle Voices podcast. In February, I was a guest on this podcast which features stories of forgiveness from the perspective of A Course in Miracles. If you’d like to hear how we came to a place of understanding and peace before she passed in 2011, check out Miracle Voices Episode 43 – “Seeing All Relationships as Perfect.” 

You can listen on Apple Podcasts, YouTube, Spotify, or at MiracleVoices.org. Let me know if you can relate to the stories I shared. After almost 9 years of facilitating Family Constellations, I have learned that our stories are much more similar than they are different. If you’d like some assistance healing the relationship with your mom, I’d be honored to assist you with a Private Family Constellations session or a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions. Look around my website for more information or click here to book a session.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms reading this and to all those who have taken on the role of mom in some capacity. I honor and bless you for all the ways you extend love.

With love in you, you have no need except to extend it.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-15.V.11:3

A Humbling Miracle

As some of you know, I have been facilitating A Course in Miracles study groups on Mondays for many years now. “Miracle Monday” started on Monday afternoons at Bridges of Wellness in Fort Lauderdale in 2015 and then moved to Monday evenings at Unity of Houston in 2018. When COVID-19 shut everything down in 2020, we shifted our group online and have been gathering virtually on Monday evenings ever since. 

During those rapidly changing and unprecedented times, our virtual meetings were a safe harbor in the storm for me and many of the weekly attendees. That’s why I felt inspired to start a second weekly study group on Friday evenings shortly after our Monday group began meeting on Zoom. I am so grateful for Miracle Mondays and Forgiveness Fridays. They have been a soul-anchoring way to begin and end my week for the past 2 years.

As things began to open up again this year and people started to venture out more, it became clear that our meeting times were no longer ideal. Rather than discontinue one, I felt a nudge to combine the two groups into one and begin a new tradition on Tuesdays. “Transformational Tuesdays” will start on May 10. That meant this Monday was the last “Miracle Monday” after hosting them for 7 years. Imagine my frustration when I discovered that my internet service cut out around 4 PM on Monday with no information as to when it would be restored!

After two hours and several failed attempts to get in touch with Comcast, I still was unable to access the internet. With just an hour until our start time, I realized I needed a backup plan. I sent a text message to my friend Marina in Houston who has facilitated for me many times in the past. I explained the situation and asked if there was any chance she could cover for me if my internet did not come back online. To my surprise, she replied almost immediately that she could do it! What a relief!

I stayed hopeful that Comcast would resolve the issue by 7 PM and I would be able to get on Zoom to facilitate. No such luck. At 6:45, I surrendered and texted Marina that I still had no internet service. As much as I wanted to be there for the last meeting, I had to trust that it was not meant to be. It occurred to me later that I could have asked my friend who lives only 10 minutes away if I could have used her office for a few hours that night. I have since found out the Xfinity outage also affected her neighborhood and reached as far as Venice, FL which is 20 miles south of me. Whatever happened was big!

You might be asking, where was the miracle in all this, John? You missed the last meeting. You could say the miracle was the fact that Marina was available at such short notice. And that was a miracle. But A Course in Miracles defines a miracle simply as a shift in perception from fear to love. That does not mean things always happen how we think they should. The miracle happens when we are able to remain peaceful even when they don’t. I was not able to be online for the last Miracle Monday, but I was able to relax knowing the group was in good hands with Marina. Despite my absence, there was still a space for people to gather, connect, and share miracles. This is why I created these groups, so there was nothing to be upset about. Although I wasn’t able to change the situation, I was able to change my thoughts about the situation. That’s the real miracle.

Speaking of miracles, if you are having a difficult time as a mom or with a mom and would like to experience a shift from fear to love, please join me on Saturday, May 7, (the day before Mother’s Day) for “Examining the Role of Mom with Family Constellations.” Something truly magical happens when we meet in the Knowing Field to help each other heal from inherited family trauma. Click this link for more information and to purchase a ticket.

This week, may you experience many miraculous shifts from fear to love no matter what appears to  happen.

Miracles are expressions of love, but they may not always have observable effects.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-1.I.35:1

Showers of Peace

I know many of us are feeling helpless and fearful as innocent people in Ukraine are suffering from the Russian invasion. The ego wants us to react with anger and judgment, but the only way to create peace in the world is to cultivate inner peace. Once we feel peace in our minds, we can extend peaceful energy to Ukraine and anywhere there is conflict. When we remain angry and fearful, we send that energy to situations that are already filled with fear and anger. That’s like pouring gasoline on a raging fire and expecting it to go out. It only fuels the fire.

Understandably, if you consume the images and video footage coming out of Ukraine, the temptation to send angry, fearful energy to the aggressors is very strong. I encourage you to limit your intake of those images and find healthy ways to diffuse that energy and come back to a place of peace. Turn off the news and go outside and get some fresh air. Take ten intentional, deep, cleansing breaths. If it’s too cold outside, observe nature from your window. Meditate. Spend time with a good friend, your spouse, your children, or a beloved pet. Play soothing music and paint, write, or engage in another creative endeavor. Watch something that makes you laugh. Play uplifting music and dance around or clean your space. Do whatever works for you to come back to center.

Then, imagine blessings of peace and love falling down on Ukraine like gentle rain on a dry, scorched patch of earth. Let’s use the power of our minds and hearts to drench any situation where there is fear and conflict with showers of love and harmony. That includes situations closer to home. I’m doing my best to extend peace to my neighbors on the other side of the wall when they have occasional “heated discussions” at 3 AM. As A Course in Miracles teaches, everything is either an “expression of love” or a “call for love,” and the appropriate response is always love in some form. It’s simple, but not always easy. 

Let me be clear. This is not an invitation to ignore what is happening in Ukraine, or anywhere there is conflict and injustice. This also does not mean we condone the choices or behaviors of individuals causing harm to others. It does mean we want to be part of the solution, not the problem. Once we create the experience of peace internally, we will be more open to receive clear guidance as to what, if anything, we can do in the world of form. We might feel inspired to attend or organize a candlelight vigil or prayer circle. We might donate money to one of the organizations helping Ukrainian refugees fleeing cities under attack. Combined with our peaceful prayers, these actions will be much more beneficial than yelling at our screens or letting fearful thoughts paralyze us.

I trust something I shared here will help empower you to return to peace. If you would like more opportunities to experience peace, please join us on Monday or Friday evenings for our weekly online A Course in Miracles study groups. For one-on-one assistance, please consider giving yourself the gift of a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a Private Family Constellations Session. Information about both can be found on my website

Until next time, please be gentle with yourself and find ways to return to peace so you can extend blessings of love and harmony wherever they are needed.

Miracles fall like drops of healing rain from Heaven on a dry and dusty world…

A Course in Miracles ~ W-pII.13.5:1

A Dream of Forgiveness

Have you ever had one of those dreams that is undeniably your unconscious mind working out some stuff while you sleep? I had one of those last weekend. In the dream, my mom was still alive and she was quite inebriated. If you know my story, you know this would not be unusual for my mother. However, I seemed to be reliving the moment when I discovered she had fallen off the wagon after a long stretch of sobriety shortly after moving to Florida. Both then and in the dream, I was devastated. In the dream, I could feel my frustration and anger building as I shared the upsetting news with my brother.

As happens in dreams, time was not linear. Suddenly, I was watching various moments throughout the last years of my mother’s life. Specifically, times when I lost my patience and said or did things that were not kind were on display. Reliving these events all at once caused an overwhelming wave of guilt and remorse to wash over me. In the dream, I began to sob profusely. My pillow wasn’t soaked when I woke up, but it would not have surprised me if it had been. Those emotions felt very real.

My mother has been gone for almost 11 years now. I’ve done a lot of inner work since then, but I know that dream helped me release yet another layer of sadness and guilt that had been lurking in my unconscious mind. There are always more layers of that onion to peel. I’m grateful to A Course in Miracles and Family Constellations for helping me understand that I did the best I could with what I knew back then. If I want to experience more peace, love, and joy in my life, I need to let go of the guilt and forgive myself for the past, knowing I would do things differently today.

Is there something you are having a hard time forgiving yourself for? Maybe it’s too painful to process in your waking hours. It might be helpful to ask your higher self, guardian angels, or loved ones in Spirit to watch over you at night and help you release anything that no longer serves while you sleep. When you’re ready to try it during waking hours, please reach out for assistance. I would be honored to walk with you on your healing journey with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a Private Family Constellations Session. Both are excellent ways to give the forgiveness process a boost. Look around my website for more information and to book a session

May a host of heavenly angels lift any heavy thoughts up to the clouds tonight while you sleep peacefully. 

All your time is spent in dreaming. Your sleeping and your waking dreams have different forms, and that is all. 

A Course in Miracles ~ T-18.II.5:12-13

Have You Thanked that 10-Year-Old?

You’ve probably heard the question, “What advice would you give your younger self?” It’s an interesting question to ponder. Recently, I heard an empowering twist on that question in Brené Brown’s Unlocking Us podcast. Her guest was Jason Reynolds, a #1 New York Times best-selling author of more than a dozen books for young people. During their conversation, Jason asked, “What would you thank your ten-year-old self for?” Ten was a particularly tough age for Jason, but you can choose any age that feels significant. (You can listen to the entire inspiring podcast by clicking this link.)

When I think about a challenging age for my younger self, 11 comes to mind. That was the year I lost a consistent source of safety and unconditional love when my grandmother died. By then, my older siblings were out of the house, so it was just my mother and me at home. (My father had passed four years earlier.) Since it was now just the two of us, her alcoholism drastically affected my daily life. Despite being surrounded by sadness and chaos, I’m grateful that my eleven-year-old self found a way to keep going and keep his heart open.

One technique he used was to get lost in other people’s stories. He loved superhero comic books and television shows like Laverne & ShirleyThe Bionic Woman, and Bewitched. That little guy wanted to laugh, save the world, help people, and practice magic. I thank him for planting those seeds because I am blessed to do many of those things today. Although I don’t have aspirations to save the world per se, I still love to laugh and help people. My work allows me to assist those who have experienced many different kinds of trauma in childhood. As for magic, I may not be able to twitch my nose and make an object fly across the room, but in my Spiritual Coaching and Family Constellations sessions, I see magic and miracles happen all the time.

The life I live today is truly a testament to that eleven-year-old boy’s ability to keep his heart open and maintain a sense of childlike wonder. During the second half of my life, I have experienced more love and joy than I would have thought possible in the first half. So now I ask you the same questions. When you look back on your life, what was a challenging age? What was happening? What did you learn during that time? And for what would you like to thank your younger self? This simple act of gratitude might be the key to unlocking a whole new way of looking at your past, empowering your present, and creating a magical future.

If you could use some assistance in this area, I would be honored to be your guide with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. Miracles and magic happen during both! Please look around my website or send me an email to book a session or ask questions. 

This week, may you find a plethora of reasons to thank your younger self. 

It takes great learning to understand that all things, events, encounters, and circumstances are helpful. 

A Course in Miracles ~ M-4.I.A.4:5

Oasis in a Warehouse

Last week, there was an empty spot on the shelf at Target where the “Beyond Sausage” should be. In the past when this happened, I have asked a friendly Target employee to check to see if there were any more packages of my favorite plant-based sausage in the stock room. On this particular night, I was a bit tired, and there was no employee in sight. Although it is less expensive to buy this product at Target, I decided it was not worth the energy to search for an employee, so I went home. The next day, while doing my regular grocery shopping, I was pleasantly surprised to discover a plethora of “Beyond Sausage” in the frozen case at Publix, and it was “buy one, get one free.” Score!

Later that day, I planned to visit the IKEA store in Tampa to purchase a second white cubicle shelving unit to match the one I had already purchased in December. Two of these units would fill my workspace nicely and give me more room to store things. When I checked the inventory on the website, it said the item was “low stock” but not “out of stock.” When I arrived about an hour later, I went directly to the area in the customer warehouse where I picked up the first one. I found stacks of boxes containing grey and black versions of the shelving unit, but no white ones. I scoured the piles of boxes for about 15-20 minutes determined to find a white one hiding amongst the others. Sadly, there were none to be found. 

I finally surrendered and continued browsing the warehouse to see if anything else caught my eye. I found two end tables that might work with my decor, so I put them on a cart and made my way to the checkout area. As I approached the self-checkout area, I couldn’t believe my eyes. A display of white cubicle shelving units appeared in the distance like an oasis in the desert to a thirsty traveler. No, it wasn’t a mirage. The same elusive item I had been searching for minutes ago was there on display. To my delight, this one had two boxes left on the pallet next to it. I scooped one up and put it on my cart as if I had just unearthed buried treasure. With current supply chain issues, I was extremely grateful to find another one without having to wait months for another shipment.

These two incidents occurring on the same day felt like Life making sure I didn’t miss two powerful lessons. Like the sausage, it was “buy one lesson, get one free!” The first lesson I have learned many times, but apparently, I needed to learn it again. When I stop putting so much effort into finding something I desire and simply live my life, that’s when it usually shows up. I’m not suggesting sitting on your couch and waiting for things to come to you. (Although Amazon and DoorDash make that easier these days.) We still have to do our part. Since I wanted an item that only IKEA sells, obviously I had to drive 60 miles north to the closest IKEA store. But my obsessive search of the original stacks of boxes did not yield the result I wanted. However, as soon as I surrendered, the shelving unit magically appeared right in front of me!

The second lesson goes hand in hand with the first. Release the need to make it difficult. If there is an easy way to accomplish a goal and a hard way, many of us choose the hard way without ever considering there might be an alternative. And we suffer greatly because of it. I’m not saying life will never be challenging, but so many of our challenges are self-inflicted. We set unrealistic goals or make choices based on what we think we “should” do instead of what makes the most sense. (See last week’s story about The Should Shed.) If we take a moment to examine the path ahead of us or consult someone who is skilled in this area, we may discover another way that is more efficient and feels much more peaceful. When I stopped thinking I “should” find a Target employee and honored the fact that I really just wanted to go home, the rewards were better than I could have anticipated.  

This week, I encourage you to examine some of your tasks that feel heavy and ask if there might be an easier way to accomplish the same goals. I also invite you to ease up on your search for that elusive desire and allow some space for it to be revealed in a miraculous way. If you could use some assistance, please consider giving yourself the gift of a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. Both can help you stop spinning your wheels and get your life moving again on a peaceful path. For more information or to book a session, please visit my website or send me an email.

Until next time, may you release the need to make it difficult, go with the flow of Life, and enjoy how much easier it can be.

Nothing you undertake with certain purpose and high resolve and happy confidence, holding your brother’s hand and keeping step to Heaven’s song, is difficult to do.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-26.V.2:5

The Should Shed

Are you trapped in the “Should Shed?” It’s that headspace where we tell ourselves all the things we should be doing instead of what we really want to be doing. Yes, we all have responsibilities and commitments that require our attention, but how often do we examine which of those things are truly necessary and which ones can wait or be released?

Just the other day, I escaped from the Should Shed. I was telling myself that I should sit at my desk for a few hours and create a new online Family Constellations event for February. There are quite a few steps involved in creating an event, so I should at least start the process. I also should answer a few emails before going to visit my sister, Gail.

Then I asked what love wanted to do that afternoon. Love wanted me to take advantage of the fact that, for a limited time, Gail is just 60 miles north of where I live. For the past several years, she and her husband have spent the month of January in Florida to get a break from the cold upstate New York winters. My plan was to drive up after lunch to see them. Unfortunately, my morning activities took longer than I anticipated, so no work happened before lunch.

It really was not a difficult decision. I did not want to sacrifice a few hours of quality time with Gail to do something that was not absolutely necessary in that moment. The workshop and emails could wait another day, so I hopped in my car and drove north. I got there in time to join her and her husband for a peaceful late afternoon walk along the beach. We walked and talked up the coast to a little shopping district and returned just in time to enjoy the gorgeous sunset from the back deck of their building. It never ceases to amaze me how the pinks, purples, oranges, and blues dance between the sky and sea as the bright yellow orb dips below the horizon. This one was no exception, as you can see by the photo above.

When Mother Nature finished showing off, we went up to their condo to prepare and eat a delicious pasta dinner followed by two sweet treats. I brought brownies, not knowing Gail had made blueberry angel food cake for dessert. By this time I had been out of the Should Shed for a few hours, so there was no question whether or not I should have some of each. 

We ended our visit watching one of our favorite TV shows: This is Us. Gail and I have been fans of the show for years but never had the opportunity to watch it together. In the past, we would text each other during or after the show when something unexpected happened or when the writers did an exceptionally good job at tugging our heartstrings. If you watch the show, you know it’s best to have a box of tissues nearby. I rarely get through an episode without my eyes leaking at least a little bit. Sometimes, when we knew the other hadn’t seen the latest episode yet, we would threaten to share what happened or make up something that didn’t happen just to throw each other off the trail. That’s just one of many silly games that we have created over the years.

Much like the siblings on the show, Gail and I have been through a lot together. I truly don’t know what I would have done without her during some of those dark periods of my childhood. What a gift to watch the stories of 3 siblings who love each other deeply while sitting next to one of my siblings who I love deeply. I don’t regret my decision to postpone work one bit. It was a great reminder that sometimes the things I think I should be doing are not really the things I should be doing if I want to live a joyful, peaceful life.

Are you trapped in the Should Shed? It would be my great honor to help you reevaluate your options and make choices that bring you joy. Please look around my website for more information about my Spiritual Coaching Sessions and private Family Constellations Sessions. Both can help you break free from the Should Shed. Give yourself the gift of freedom and send me an email to book an appointment

Until next time, I encourage you to examine your “shoulds” and see if they might unnecessarily  be keeping you from joy.

Be not content with future happiness. It has no meaning, and is not your just reward. For you have cause for freedom now

A Course in Miracles ~ T-26.VIII.9:1-3

Setting Goals and Falling in Holes

It was a beautiful morning here in Florida on the last day of 2021. The sun was out, and the temperature was in the 70s. I was so grateful to be outside, burning calories on my morning walk. Since it was a holiday week, there were a lot more people at the beach than usual. I didn’t mind. I could navigate around them and still keep up a pretty good pace. A few minutes into my walk, I noticed a brightly colored kite flying high in the sky. The string was practically invisible, making it difficult to see who was flying it. While searching for this elusive person, I suddenly found myself face down in the sand.

It took me a moment to realize what had happened. While looking at the kite and scanning the beach for the person at the other end of the string, I walked right into a rather deep hole. I fell hard and fast! I’m sure it was quite amusing for anyone looking in my direction at that moment. My right knee stung a bit where the sand scraped off some skin, but other than that, it was just my pride that was injured. I shook my head and laughed at myself as I stood up, brushed off the sand, and continued on my walk. I’m still laughing about it as I type these words. I might be going viral on someone’s Tik Tok feed right now without even knowing it!

Longtime readers of these weekly stories know I am always looking for lessons that life is trying to teach me. This one came to me pretty quickly. It was such a clear example of what can happen when my head is in the clouds and not in the present moment. Bam!

One calendar year has come to an end and a new one has begun. Many of us are preoccupied with setting goals for the future with very little focus on where we are now. Not that there is anything wrong with setting intentions and charting a course for where you’d like to go. However, as I learned the hard way (again!), it is also very important to pay attention to where you are right now.

As we begin this new year, I encourage you to learn from my comical mistake. Set goals and envision the life you would love to live. Yes. Admire the beautiful kite flying high in the sky. But don’t forget to keep your eye on the ground and notice all the gifts and blessings that are right where you are. These are very challenging times with so much uncertainty around COVID, polarizing politics, and systemic social injustice. But even now, if we look for them, there are many things for which to be grateful. I know I’m thankful for the ability to laugh at myself even when I fall on my face in front of hundreds of people. 

If you are having a hard time finding a way forward through these quickly changing times or finding appreciation for the present moment, please consider a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions. All of my sessions are based on the strong principles found in A Course in Miracles and Family Constellations to help you experience more peace, love, and joy no matter what is happening in your life. For more information on the services I offer, look around my website or send me an email to book a session.

As we begin 2022 with cheerful expectancy, enjoy those beautiful kites and sights, set those goals, but watch out for the holes!

It is enough to heal the past and make the future free. It is enough to let the present be accepted as it is. 

A Course in Miracles ~ W-110.2:2-3

Gentle Joyful Lessons

The other day during my morning walk, I snapped the photo above of the black bird perched on a rock with its wings outstretched. It didn’t occur to me how appropriate this photo was to accompany the A Course in Miracles quote about “gentle lessons” until after I created the meme. The bird is an anhinga, and I will never forget its name or unusual behavior.

Whenever I see one of these birds, it takes me back to the 3 months I worked in the Education Department at Sea World in 1992. ( Obviously, I was only ten years old at the time.) In addition to answering questions at the animal exhibits, I also gave backstage tours. To be approved as a tour guide, I had to take a Department Supervisor on a mock tour and answer questions. I was grateful to learn I was giving Candace a tour for my final exam. During training, she seemed easy-going and fun. It felt like the tour was going well. Toward the end, Candace pointed to a bird with its wings extended (like the one in the photo) and asked, “Why is that bird doing that? Is it injured?”

I answered, “Possibly,” and immediately went into a monologue about Sea World’s extensive Animal Rescue and Rehabilitation Program. I explained how a trained team from Sea World responds to calls from people who discover injured animals. The team brings injured animals to Sea World, where they nurse them back to health and release them into the wild whenever possible. She nodded and listened intently to my description of the program and then we continued the tour.

When we returned to the office for my review, Candace told me I did a great job with the animal information but with one exception. The bird she pointed to is called an anhinga, and it was not injured. Unlike other water birds that swim or fish above the surface, the anhinga completely submerges itself and swims with only its neck and head above water. Once it emerges, it has to dry its wings before it can fly again. That’s why the bird she pointed to (and the bird in the photo) extended its wings.

Candace did not berate me for not knowing that about the anhinga. She smiled and said, “If someone asks you a question you don’t know, tell them you’ll find out the answer, and don’t make stuff up!” It was a good lesson for life as well as that job. Because I learned it with joy, I have not forgotten it.

This is not to minimize the value of lessons learned from challenging times like the ones we’ve experienced over the last few years. We can and do learn through painful situations, but we also learn and learn well from gentle lessons acquired joyously. It’s about time we pull the plug on the popular saying “no pain no gain.” It’s simply not true!

Think back to the school teachers of your youth. My guess is you remember the teachers you loved more quickly than the ones you did not like. I would also wager that you learned more from the teachers that made learning fun than the ones that made it seem like drudgery. I could not solve a calculus equation now if my life depended on it. Thankfully, I don’t think it does!  

However, Miss Wilke, my third-grade reading and vocabulary teacher comes to mind immediately when I recall teachers who made learning fun. To entice us to practice our vocabulary and spelling, Miss Wilke created a weekly game show with prizes for the teams who scored the most points. She had candy and stickers and a joke for every occasion. I could not wait for competition days!

Miss Wilke is also a big part of why I love to write these weekly emails. After an initial assignment to write a short story, I continued writing stories about the sad little character I created who slowly turned his life around by taking chances and making new friends. It thrilled me to get the stories back and see Miss Wilke’s encouraging comments and signature smiley faces in red ink. I must have written at least a half dozen stories for extra credit. Thank you, Miss Wilke, for teaching me that putting words together to inspire and entertain can be fun!

As we wrap up the current year and set intentions for the next one, let’s imagine our teachers to be more like Miss Wilke and less like the coronavirus. You can start next Saturday, January 8, with a joyful online experience as we “Release the Old & Welcome the New with Family Constellations.” Each participant will have the opportunity to reflect on the lessons of 2021 and create a powerful container for blessings in 2022. Space is limited to 15 participants, so click this link now to purchase your ticket. Visit my website for more information on this workshop or to schedule a private session.

Many thanks to all of you who read these weekly stories, attend my Family Constellations Workshops, allow me to assist you through Spiritual Coaching Sessions, and share miracles in my weekly online A Course in Miracles Study Groups. May our teachers and lessons be gentle and joyful in the New Year. 

There is no need to learn through pain. And gentle lessons are acquired joyously, and are remembered gladly. What gives you happiness you want to learn and not forget.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-21.I.3:1-3

An Early Christmas Miracle

I had an early Christmas miracle this week on my way to the Honda dealership in Sarasota. There was nothing wrong with my car. It was just a routine 25K maintenance appointment to get the oil changed, tires rotated, and fluids topped off. Halfway there, fearful questions started creeping into my mind:

What if they tell me I need new tires? Am I ready to make that investment right now? Will they find anything else that needs fixing? What if I have another shady experience like the one in January at the Honda dealership in Houston? What if the service advisor tries to sell me things I don’t need? What if they are rude? The voice of fear was on a roll!

Luckily, I remembered one of my favorite teachings from A Course in Miracles. The Course recommends using the power of the mind to decide what you want to experience before an event happens. Thus, you will be looking for evidence of that intention and more able to dismiss anything unlike that intention. Most of us use our mind to ask why something happened the way it did after the fact. If you’d like to learn more, this process is explained beautifully in Chapter 17, Section VI titled “Setting the Goal.” In this section, the Course advises: 

In any situation in which you are uncertain, the first thing to consider, very simply, is “What do I want to come of this?”

My answer was simple. I want the entire experience to feel peaceful, harmonious, and easy. Once I got clear on what I wanted, I envisioned a stream of pink hearts flowing from my heart to my destination. That way a loving field of energy would be waiting for me when I arrived. In that moment, I had experienced the miracle, a shift from fear to love. What happened next reflected that shift.

My service advisor, Beverly, was incredibly friendly and helpful. After gathering some basic information, she scanned the VIN on my vehicle to check on her computer what services the last dealership had performed. Her exact words were, “Let me see what they did so I don’t charge you for something you don’t need.” What a refreshing sentence! It took me a few seconds to absorb what she said before I could thank her. I signed the necessary form and then found a seat outside to do a little work and make some phone calls.  

While the mechanics were working on my car, I asked Beverly if they had a carwash, and if so, could they run my car through it before returning it to me. She said they do, but it’s a hand carwash. She’d be happy to have them wash my car if I didn’t mind waiting an extra 30 minutes. Since I had blocked off the whole afternoon for this appointment, I said, “Sure!” That’s how long it would take me to go to a carwash later, so why not? 

It turns out, the only thing my car needed was the oil change and tire rotation. The inspection revealed everything else was fine. Not only did I leave in less than 2 hours with a bill under $50, but my car was squeaky clean too! The whole experience was exactly as I had asked for…peaceful, harmonious, and easy. I am incredibly grateful for that teaching from the Course that helped me shift from fear to love on the way there. 

So, before you head out to that holiday gathering or even just to the grocery store, take a moment to ask what you’d like to experience. Then send a little love on ahead of you. You just might experience an early Christmas miracle.

There’s still time to give a miracle to yourself or someone you love this holiday season. You can purchase Gift Certificates for Spiritual Coaching or Family Constellations sessions by clicking this link. Gift Certificates can be sent electronically or by mail. Now is a great time to purchase them before some of my prices increase in 2022. Please look around my website or send me an email for more information.

Extending waves of love from my heart to yours for a peaceful, harmonious, and grace-filled holiday season…

The value of deciding in advance what you want to happen is simply that you will perceive the situation as a means to make it happen.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-17.VI.4:1

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