We Remember

As we honor the anniversary of the tragic events that happened on September 11 twenty years ago, I invite you to take a moment to remember and hold in your heart all those who lost their lives that day as well as those who lost loved ones or were impacted in any way. Of course, that’s all of us since we are one human family. The way we live was forever changed that day. I also invite you to join me in sending heart energy to that geographic location and let the ripples of love extend outward to comfort everyone on the planet and help clear any residual fear.

Many of you know one of the rituals I practice to assist in shifting fear to love is planting rose quartz crystals at such locations. Rose quartz is said to hold the frequency of unconditional love and compassion, so this practice is a symbolic way to add love wherever I go. It helps my mind connect to something tangible to let me know that something is different. If this ritual speaks to you, please feel free to adopt or adapt it as your own. 

In 2008, I was in New York City around the time of the 7th anniversary of 9/11. On that day, I felt compelled to walk the perimeter of the construction site where the towers fell to scatter tiny rose quartz crystals. Thankfully, a new friend asked if she could join me on this sacred walk. It was both sacred and somber. As we walked, we both felt the energy of fear and grief lingering in the air. Our intention was to add love by placing the little pink stones around the site. When we completed the circle, we decided to find the source of the two commemorative spotlights shining up into the sky representing each of the fallen towers. When we arrived, we discovered that we each had just one stone left. It felt right to place one under each spotlight to send that loving energy out into the Universe.

A Course in Miracles describes a miracle as a shift in our minds from fear to love. A miracle is not dependent on changing anything in the outer world. True, we cannot change what happened on that day, but we can use those devastating events as a catalyst to remember the importance of extending love to one another and to remember we are not separate. What affects one of us affects all of us. May we reawaken to this truth so acts of violence become a distant memory.

Love extends outward simply because it cannot be contained. Being limitless it does not stop.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-7.I.3:4-5

Kitesurfing Through Life

During a Spiritual Coaching session last week, a metaphor that occurred to me years ago about kitesurfing popped into my head. It seemed to be helpful to my client so I thought I would share it here. 

When I lived in Fort Lauderdale, I loved watching brightly colored kites flying over the ocean pulling surfers behind them at incredible speeds. The experienced surfers know just how to navigate the wind and waves allowing them to soar into the air for several seconds before plunking them back down into the sea. Those airborne moments look so liberating! Since the wind and the kite take care of propelling the surfers forward, it appears their only job is to maintain balance, remain above water, and allow the wind and waves to do the rest.

Isn’t life like that? It is always pulling us forward. Our job is to maintain a sense of balance and keep our thoughts positive (above water.) True, we all experience times when it feels like life has dropped us into an ocean of despair, but like the kitesurfers, we eventually get back on our boards and keep going. To further this metaphor, sometimes we have to let go of the bar and go with the flow, letting life take us in a new direction. In trying times, we start by accepting “what is.” It would do a kitesurfer no good to scream at the wind for blowing in the opposite direction or shout at the waves for being too close together. They simply adjust their stance, grip, and reposition their kite. Once they make the necessary adjustments, the wind and water will carry them quickly in a new direction allowing them to soar above the waves, once again!

Are you having a difficult time keeping your thoughts above water? Does the wind seem to be taking you in a direction you don’t want to go? It would be my great honor to assist you in making the necessary adjustments with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations Session so you too can soar above the waves. Please look around my website for more information about both of these opportunities or send me an email to schedule a session.

Until next time, may you allow life to take you to exhilarating heights as you navigate the wind and the waves.

The necessary condition for the holy instant does not require that you have no thoughts that are not pure. But it does require that you have none that you would keep.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-15.IV.9:1-2

Why Did I Say That?

My birthday was this week, but those who have known me for a while know that I often joke about celebrating the entire month of August. (I know that is such a Leo thing to do.) I have been reflecting on my birthday celebrations from the past few years. One particular “birthday month” that stands out is August of 2014. It started at Disney World with the 3 amazing friends in the picture above. It’s hard to believe 4 adult men (and I use the term “adult” loosely) could have that much fun at a theme park. There were so many magical moments and miracles we lost count. Receiving a gift of free ice cream from my mother on the other side was one, but that’s a story for another blog. 

The month ended just as magically as it began at my first Big Sky Retreat in Big Sky, Montana. Originally, I was only attending the event, but due to some last-minute scheduling changes two weeks before the event, I was asked to present a workshop on August 31. This opportunity was a gift of grace. I remember how surreal it was to see my name printed on the sign outside the conference room on the day of the event. I was nervous because it was the first time I had given a presentation to a group that large. I wanted to do a good job and offer something of value to everyone who attended.

As I do before every group or private session, I invited Spirit to be in charge of everything I say and do with a beautiful prayer from A Course in Miracles. This prayer helps get the ego and its relentless critic out of the way so the voice for Love can come through clearly. I wasn’t planning to talk about my “birthday month,” but I started the presentation by sharing how grateful I was to be a presenter at the retreat. What a fantastic ending to a fantastic month that started with friends and magical miracles at Disney World. I went on to talk about “Forgiveness & Miracles,” ending the workshop with a short demonstration of Family Constellations. My prayer seemed to have worked because I received wonderful feedback from many of the attendees.

Later that day, one woman asked if she could share something profound that happened during the workshop. I expected her to reference teachings from A Course in Miracles or Family Constellations. No. It was me talking about celebrating my “birthday month.” You see, she was born on September 11, and her brother was a First Responder at the Twin Towers on that fateful day in 2001. Due to complications from smoke inhalation, he passed a few days later. Understandably, she hadn’t felt like celebrating her birthday for the past 13 years. Hearing me talk about celebrating my birthday on a day other than the actual day of my birth was a lightbulb moment. Until then, it had never occurred to her that she could celebrate on a different day. She must have thanked me a hundred times for the opportunity to feel joy around her birthday again. 

The next day was September 1. I purchased a blank greeting card in the gift shop and wrote inside, “Happy first day of your Birthday Month!” I also felt guided to write that I believed her brother would be happy to see her celebrate her birthday again this year. I couldn’t wait to give her that card and I think she was pretty happy to receive it. Seven years later, her story still touches me deeply. What a great reminder that our words can be more impactful than we might imagine. Experience has shown me that when I put Spirit in charge, I can trust that what I say will be exactly what needs to be said, even if I don’t know why I’m saying it!

Could you use some assistance getting the inner critic out of the way and letting the voice of Love speak through you? It would be my great honor to help you with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations session. Both can help you see a bigger picture allowing you to drop back into your heart center where love and kindness reside. Please look around my website or send me an email for more information and to book a session

Until next time, may all of your words be kind and impactful.

As you step back, the light in you steps forward and encompasses the world.

A Course in Miracles ~ W.p1.156.6:2

Dive Right In!

Now that I’m back in Florida, I love being able to jump into the Atlantic Ocean when I finish my morning cardio walk along the beach. After sweating for an hour, the cool water feels fantastic! The surf was exceptionally rough this past Monday. I had barely entered the water when a tall wave came barreling toward me. There was no time to avoid it or to prepare myself for total immersion. Ready or not, I had to dive through the wave or be knocked over. It happened so fast I couldn’t help but laugh when I emerged on the other side.

It occurred to me that life is like navigating waves in the ocean. There is an endless procession of experiences, some big, some small, some exciting, some painful that come toward us. Like the waves, it would be a lesson in futility to try to stop them. We can try to avoid them or run from them, but they eventually catch up with us. If we aren’t careful, the really big ones could knock us over. The best way to avoid getting knocked over by a big wave is to dive right into it. Yes, it may be scary for a moment, but by facing it head-on, we pass through it and it’s done. There is calm on the other side, at least until the next wave arrives!

This has been my experience with painful situations and life experiences. If I try to avoid them with a plethora of distractions, they eventually catch up with me. There really is no way around them. Only through them. Granted, it can be extremely uncomfortable to walk through these times, and we can only do it when we’re ready. However, it is important to remember that we don’t have to go through them alone. During these challenging times, it is such a blessing to be part of a spiritual community or to have trusted friends and family members to lean on for support. In some cases, we may need to seek the assistance of a professional counselor, therapist, or spiritual advisor to guide us. There’s no shame in asking for help when we need it. In fact, it’s a very courageous choice. 

Like diving into those big waves, when we face those challenging situations head-on rather than avoid them, we eventually come out on the other side where there is calm. Who knows? Perhaps when you emerge on the other side you will see things from a fresh perspective and be able to laugh about them.

Does it feel like there are a lot of big waves coming at you right now? It would be my great honor to help you dive into the experience and come out the other side with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations session. Please look around my website or send me an email for more information and to schedule a session

Until next time, may you find the courage to dive into those big waves and let the water wash away anything that no longer serves.

Nothing you undertake with certain purpose and high resolve and happy confidence, holding your brother’s hand and keeping step to Heaven’s song, is difficult to do.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-26.V.2:5

Addicted to Joy!

Last week I had the unexpected joy of staying with two friends who also happen to be yoga instructors. In addition to the many fun adventures we had, one morning, while one friend was at the gym, the other offered to guide me through a private yoga class. Having done the same sequence of yoga poses at home for the past ten years, I welcomed the opportunity to try something new with a teacher I trust. The pandemic prevented my friend from teaching classes over the past year, so he was happy to have someone to guide. I love that it was a mutually beneficial situation. 

They practice Kriya Yoga, which I learned incorporates a lot of intentional breathing techniques (called pranayama) with intentional movements. Some of the breathing techniques I had done in past yoga classes. Some were brand new. There was one I found particularly challenging. After a minute or two of inhaling through one nostril and exhaling through the other using my thumb and index finger to hold the opposite nostril closed, I started to feel a slight burning sensation in my nasal passages. It was very uncomfortable to have that much air passing through my nose. I was surprised by how resistant I was to keep breathing that way. I knew I had to keep going if I wanted to reap the benefits of this ancient practice.

I reminded myself that I would not have to breathe this way forever. Many times throughout the practice, my friend offered encouraging words that helped me to push past my discomfort. Eventually, we moved on to other breathing techniques that were not as uncomfortable and quite fun. One required some left to right hand coordination as the time between inhales and exhales got shorter. When the tempo reached its fastest, I’ll admit I got a little discombobulated, but I did my best to keep up and not get frustrated. After the pranayama, we moved on to some poses that were exactly what my body was craving.

I’m so glad I took advantage of this opportunity and didn’t just do the same routine I always do. Although I had only gotten 4-5 hours of sleep the night before, I felt fantastic when we finished. I usually don’t function well with less than 7 hours of sleep, so I was sure I would need a nap at some point later that day. To my surprise, that was not the case. I had plenty of energy to do all the things I needed to do including my Friday evening online A Course in Miracles study group.

What a powerful lesson! How often do we resist the very thing that we know will help us feel better or move forward? I’ve noticed the same thing in my practice of the principles found in A Course in Miracles. Even though I have been studying the Course since 2006, I still find myself resistant to applying it in certain situations. If I release my resentment towards someone who appears to have wronged me I know I will feel better. If I stop focusing on an upsetting situation, I will inevitably return to peace. So why is it so hard to do? It’s like a popcorn kernel stuck between your teeth that your tongue simply can’t stop wrestling with. Try as we may, we keep going back there!

This subject came up during the “Afternoon of Miracles” workshop I facilitated in Dallas last month. We were speaking about addiction to substances when one participant pointed out there are many other types of addiction. In addition to substances and behaviors, we can be addicted to limiting beliefs, suffering, struggle, and drama. I believe these all fall under the domain of the ego because they keep us from experiencing what we truly want: peace, love, and joy. I heard Marianne Williamson once compare following the ego’s thought system to being addicted to heroin. You can only do it for so long. Eventually you either quit or you don’t survive. Throughout A Course in Miracles, we are reminded of the importance of choosing joy over pain. It seems so obvious, yet we don’t always do it. Why?

Brené Brown spoke about our resistance to fully experiencing joy in a recent episode of her podcast Unlocking Us. The conversation with her sisters was around being fearful of joy. We know it won’t last forever so we don’t fully welcome it. Many of us sabotage the expansive feeling of joy by imagining what bad thing is going to happen to take it away. Fear immediately obliterates joy. While researching her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené theorized that people who were able to throw their hands up and let joy completely wash over them were people that had a strong spiritual connection. The research did not prove that to be true. Instead, the common denominator was gratitude. People that expressed gratitude while they were experiencing joy were more likely to experience more joy more often. Those who were cautious of joy waiting for “the other shoe to drop” were not as successful at experiencing joy fully. 

This is really good news because the solution is quite simple, though not always easy. Can I find something (no matter how small) for which to be grateful about the person who appears to have wronged me? Is there another way of looking at the situation that upset me to discover a blessing in disguise? And when I am experiencing joy, can I take a moment to express my deep gratitude for it? In that same podcast, Brené apologized to her fellow 12-steppers who use the slogan “the attitude of gratitude.” She believes gratitude is not an attitude, it’s a practice. Why not share one thing you are grateful for as you sit down to every meal, not just on Thanksgiving? Perhaps you can start (or recommit to) a gratitude journal in which you write down 5 things you are grateful for every day. Whatever you do to express more gratitude, I believe Brené’s research that it will lead to more joy. I am so grateful for my family, my friends, A Course in Miracles, my yoga practice, and all of you who read these weekly stories! 

If you find it difficult to fully experience joy or suspect that some of those pesky ego addictions are lurking in your unconscious mind, maybe A Course in Miracles is calling you? The Course is a psychological mind training that teaches us how to choose joy over pain and love over fear. To learn more about this practice, please join us for one or both of my weekly ACIM online study groups. For one-on-one assistance, I would be honored to help you with a series of Life Coaching sessions. You can also join me for a very special online workshop on Saturday, July 17 from 2-5PM Eastern where we will be “Exploring Independence from Addiction with Family Constellations.” Last month’s workshop sold out, so if this topic is of interest, purchase your ticket soon! Please look around my website for more information about all of these joyful opportunities.

Until next time, may rain showers of joy and gratitude completely drench your soul…

Tolerance for pain may be high, but it is not without limit. Eventually everyone begins to recognize, however dimly, that there must be a better way. As this recognition becomes more firmly established, it becomes a turning point.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-2.III.3:5-7

A Day of Miracles

Last Sunday was a day of miracles that almost didn’t happen. I accepted an invitation to speak and facilitate an afternoon workshop at the Church of One Love in Dallas long before I had absolute clarity that it was time for me to leave Houston and move back to Florida. At the time, that only required getting in my car and driving four hours north on I-45. Now that I live in the Sunshine State, the trip became a little more complicated and costly with air travel, car rental, hotel room, extra meals, and various other expenses. I had the opportunity to reschedule my visit, but when I got quiet and asked Spirit if it was the highest choice for me to go to Dallas now, the answer I received was an emphatic “YES!” I have learned to trust that guidance even when it doesn’t appear to be practical, so I made all the necessary arrangements and flew across the Gulf of Mexico.

I will admit, I began to question that decision when my flight to Dallas was delayed over an hour on Saturday evening due to severe thunderstorms across the country. I questioned my decision again when I encountered some frustrating obstacles with the rental car company. However, both of those unpleasant experiences gave me the opportunity to practice the kind of forgiveness A Course in Miracles teaches, and thus current examples to share in my workshop. When I finally arrived at my hotel, I had to laugh at the artwork hanging next to the desk in my room. It was none other than Big Tex, the creepy 55’ mascot of the State Fair of Texas! Ever since my first experience at the Fair, I often joked that Big Tex must be the cause of many children’s nightmare. I was back in Texas for just one night and Big Tex would be staring at me while I slept! Because I was a little nervous about speaking the next day, it felt like a cosmic wink from the Universe reminding me to lighten up and not take any of it too seriously.  

The next day started with a visit to a beautiful rose garden located just down the street from the church. A friend who lives in Dallas has been taking gorgeous photos in that garden for years and I have always wanted to go there myself. I hadn’t seen that friend since before the pandemic, so it felt like the perfect place to meet and catch up. During our stroll through the multi-colored blossoms, we were blessed by a visit from a hummingbird who appeared to be enjoying the beautiful flowers as much as we were. Hummingbirds represent “joy” in Native American teachings, so I took it as a sign that there would be plenty of joy around me that day. 

It didn’t take long to confirm that theory. The wonderful people at the Church of One Love greeted me with open hearts and open arms. Some I had met before and others I met for the first time. I was delighted to see a few of my friends who live in Dallas and deeply touched by one who drove all the way up from Houston to attend both events. I felt very loved and supported.

Before the service, the kind leader of the A Course in Miracles group introduced herself to me and let me know most of her group would be attending both events. I was so honored when she told me that this would be the first time some of them would be meeting each other face to face! How could I decline when she invited me to join them at a well-known Mexican restaurant for lunch? I’m so glad I didn’t let fear of not having enough time stop me from accepting her gracious invitation. I loved hearing their miracle stories and getting to know them better. I believe it made the experience at the workshop much more powerful and intimate. That became apparent when people started sharing the miraculous shifts and “aha” moments they had during the final group exercise. I couldn’t be more pleased with how it all came together or more grateful to have made some new friends. 

After the workshop, I had time to get a chai tea at a nearby Starbucks with the friend who drove up from Houston. We shared plenty of laughs and caught up with each other’s lives before I had to head back to the airport to return my rental car and catch my flight back to Florida. Unfortunately, there were more delays due to weather, so I did not get back to my friend’s house in Tampa until 2 AM! It was a long day but a good day filled with many miracles. 

Perhaps the miracle that touched me the most was the young woman who approached me after the Sunday service. This was her first time at the Church of One Love. She told me that she very recently began a journey of healing where she was introduced to the concept of Generational Trauma. It was something she had never heard of before, so when the guest speaker at a church she had never attended spoke about that very topic, she was blown away! She felt like my message was just for her, and she thanked me profusely. That’s when I knew for sure why Spirit guided me to make the trip to Dallas. Even if all the other miraculous things hadn’t happened, that brief interaction with a woman I will most likely never see again was enough to convince me it was absolutely the right choice!

Are you struggling with a big decision or having trouble listening to your own inner guidance? I would be honored to assist you in getting some clarity with a series of Life Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations session. Both can be done from anywhere in the world thanks to the miracle of technology. Please look around my website for more information or send me an email if you have any questions.

Until next time, may all your days be filled with miracles!

Your passage through time and space is not at random. You cannot but be in the right place at the right time.

A Course in Miracles ~ W-42.2:4-5

Miracle in a Laundry Basket

When I moved to Houston three years ago I was “all in.” Before departing Fort Lauderdale, I sold a few things and donated all of my furniture and household items to an organization that helps women in recovery get back on their feet. A miracle named “Odalys” appeared at the eleventh hour to facilitate the bulk of my belongings finding a new home. I don’t know what I would have done if it weren’t for her! You can read all about that experience in my blog titled “Faith, Trust, and Moving Dust.”

Last month, as I prepared to leave Houston and head back to Florida, I made the executive decision that I would only bring what would fit in my car. Since I gave most everything away three years ago, I don’t own enough to make it cost-effective to rent a truck or hire a moving company. It felt like a clear and efficient boundary since I will most likely be moving again to a more permanent location later this summer.

As I packed up my car last week, I soon discovered there wouldn’t be room for a few things I was hoping to bring. I couldn’t find space for three of my large plants without crushing them, so I decided to leave them behind where they were growing happily. The other item was my laundry basket. While driving the first leg, it occurred to me that I could have put my hanging clothes inside the laundry basket, thus allowing it to come with me, but by then I was already in Louisiana. It was disappointing, but I knew these items could be easily replaced. I was amazed by how much did fit in my car. Had one of my favorite paintings been one inch wider it would not have slid into my hatchback like it was made for that space. With those few exceptions, everything else fit perfectly and I was incredibly grateful!

After a joyful two days of driving listening to dance music and A Course in Miracles podcasts, I arrived safely at my sister’s house in Florida. With her help, it took less than an hour to unload my car. I brought in my clothes from the passenger seat first. I couldn’t believe my eyes when I hung them. On the floor of my new closet was a bright blue laundry basket! My sister had placed it there without knowing that was one of the items I had to leave behind. What a beautiful reminder that the Universe has my back. When I don’t try to force things to fit and surrender to what wants to happen, my needs are met without having to speak them.

Could you use some assistance in surrendering and releasing the need to force things to happen in a specific way? I would be honored to help you see things from an expanded perspective with a series of Life Coaching Sessions or with Family Constellations. Both create space for miracles to happen in your life. Please look around my website for more information and to learn about upcoming events. If you’d like to book a session, simply send me an email.

Until next time, may you surrender to the many miracles that want to happen in your life. 

Miracles are natural. When they do not occur something has gone wrong.

Miracle Principle #6A Course in Miracles

Love at the Dentist’s Office

You might be thinking I meant to write “Fear at the Dentist’s Office.” For many people that might be more accurate, but I meant to write “Love.” That’s what washed over me quite unexpectedly this week while I was at my dentist’s office. I’ve been going to the same dentist for more than ten years. As you might expect, I have gotten to know my dentist and the people who work in his office quite well and they have gotten to know me. During that time, there has been very little turnaround in the staff which I think says a lot about the people. The office manager has been there as long as I have been going. She is both extremely sweet and efficient, often going above and beyond to work with my schedule and my insurance plan.

Because of the COVID-19 pandemic, it had been 15 months since my last visit. I was way overdue for a cleaning and three replacement fillings. Once again, the office manager worked her magic and moved things around so I could get everything taken care of in the same visit. I told the hygienist (who has been cleaning my teeth for the last several years) how glad I was to see her. We always make each other laugh while she’s scraping the gunk under my gums, although I’m very diligent about flossing so her job isn’t that hard. She admitted that she was happy to see my name on the schedule this week. This may sound strange, but as I lay there in the chair with the suction tube dangling from my open mouth as she started cleaning, it occurred to me that this was an expression of love. 

Unlike the suction tube, the love flows in both directions. My love expressed as gratitude for the work she does to keep my teeth and gums healthy. Her love expressed as making me laugh and putting me at ease while she did the not-so-pleasant job of deep cleaning my teeth. I didn’t share this thought with her. One, because my mouth was full of dental instruments, and two, because it might sound weird or mildly inappropriate. Instead, I simply  imagined gratitude radiating from my heart to hers and out into the rest of the office.

Later, as my dentist and his assistant worked together to fix my fillings, I felt that same wave of love and gratitude wash over me. Those two have been working together for as long as I’ve been going to that office, so they have developed quite the rapport. In addition to being very skilled at what they do, they also like to make me and each other laugh. During this visit, we talked about Dr. Brian Weiss’s first book, Many Lives Many Masters, past-life regressions, and some other books on spirituality they had recently read and shared with each other. And when I say “we talked” I mean they talked. Knowing what I do for a living, my dentist joked, “I bet you have a lot to say on this topic. Too bad your mouth is numb and full of cotton and dental instruments.” 

During a break in the action after my first filling, I mentioned that I felt like I was on the dance floor at a disco with all the flashing colored lights they were using. There was a green light above my face, and whatever device the assistant used after the dentist packed the filling flashed bright blue and made a beeping sound. Without missing a beat, the assistant said, “Those colored lights don’t do anything special. We just like the way they look.” The dentist added that the beeping sound was just one of them making the noise under their mask. That really amused me, and I couldn’t help laughing every time I heard the beep. Suddenly, I felt like I was in a Saturday Night Live skit. When I mentioned that to the dentist, he requested I not write that in a review on Yelp. 

When they were done fixing my teeth and making me laugh, I answered their questions about the work I do and shared with them my first mind-blowing experience of Family Constellations. Not only do I feel extremely well cared for when I’m there, but I also feel safe to be authentically me with my unusual profession and silly sense of humor. Would I want to be in the dentist’s chair more than twice per year? Not really. But when I’m there, I definitely feel Love, not fear, in the dentist’s office. That sure sounds like a miracle to me.

Is there a situation or circumstance in your life that brings up anxiety, anger, or fear? I would be honored to help you experience a miracle with a series of Life Coaching Sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. Both are powerful ways to expand your capacity to see things differently, thus shifting your experience from fear to love. For more information or to make an appointment please look around my website or simply send me an email.

Until next time, may love and gratitude wash over you in unexpected situations…

With love in you, you have no need except to extend it.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-15.V.11:3

Who’s Teaching Who?

Last month, I had the honor of being asked to mentor a bright young man on his journey of faith. Having weekly discussions with a mentor is one of the requirements to be confirmed in his spiritual community. I’m very close with his mother, but I have only met Barrett in person twice. When he reached out to ask if I’d be willing to take on this role, I was quite surprised and incredibly flattered. Knowing that the principles found in A Course in Miracles are often quite different than those taught in other spiritual traditions, I asked his parents if they were sure I’d be a good fit for this role. Neither had an issue with that, so I said yes. 

Barrett and I had our first mentoring session on Zoom this week. It turns out we share more than just a love of french fries. We also share a desire to deepen our relationship with the Divine. After asking Barrett why this journey was important to him, I shared my own winding journey of faith from Methodist, to atheist, to being a student and teacher of A Course in Miracles. Throughout our conversation, Barrett dropped wisdom bombs that reflected a depth of understanding beyond his 13 years on the planet. What an unexpected gift this is turning out to be!

The moment that touched my heart most profoundly occurred during our prayer at the end of our session. As I do with most of my prayer partners since learning this lingo from Rev. Michael Gott, I asked Barrett if he’d like to “dial” (begin the prayer) or “hang up” (complete the prayer.) He chose “hang up,” so I began by using some colorful imagery to invite Divine Light to guide us, bless our time together, and bless Barrett on his spiritual journey. When I passed the prayer to him, he added the intention that we both learn from each other. Let’s just say that prayer was answered in the asking. I may have walked this planet and this path a lot longer than Barrett, but I have no doubt I’ll be learning just as much if not more from him. Thanks for choosing me as your mentor and for giving me permission to share this story, Barrett!

As a matter of fact, I believe we can learn something from every relationship if we are willing. We are all teachers and students in every moment. This truth is one of the many benefits of being a Life Coach, Spiritual Counselor, and Family Constellations Facilitator. By listening and being present, I learn something during every session, workshop, and study group. When we allow the Voice of Love to speak through us, everyone receives a blessing.

Are you feeling stuck, sad, or lost in your current circumstance? It would be my great honor to support and guide you through this difficult time by sharing insights and tools I’ve learned on my spiritual journey. To book a session or learn more about Life Coaching, group and private Family Constellations, or my weekly ACIM Study Groups, please look around my website. I look forward to sharing a blessing with you. 

Until next time, may you be open to wisdom and blessings in all your relationships.

The course, on the other hand, emphasizes that to teach is to learn, so that teacher and learner are the same. It also emphasizes that teaching is a constant process; it goes on every moment of the day…

A Course in Miracles ~ M-In.1:5-6

An Ironic Miracle

As you probably already know, a severe winter storm passed through the southern part of the country last week causing extensive damage to the power grid here in Texas. Since these low temperatures are rare in Houston, many uninsulated pipes burst in homes across the city. We did our best to prevent that from happening in our home, but alas a pipe along the exterior wall of our garage eventually succumbed to the pressure. (I know a lot of you can relate both literally and figuratively.) When water service returned a few days after the storm, my partner Michael noticed a large puddle of water forming in front of our garage.

What made the situation even more troubling is that despite many searches, we could not find the main water shut-off valve to our house. Michael found the shut-off valves for the other two homes in our development, but not the one for ours. Water continued to leak into our driveway, not like a fire hydrant, but as if someone left the water running slowly in a faucet. It wasn’t critical, but it was enough to take away our peace. Even if we could get a plumber to our house, (the odds at this point were similar to picking the winning Power Ball numbers given the demand across the city) we would need the water turned off before the pipe could be fixed. Ironically, the most famous plumber in Houston happens to be named John Moore. Anyone who watches television in Houston can probably sing the catchy jingle, “Call John. Get Moore.” We called, and the first available appointment was the second week of March!

I remembered seeing on the local news that the city of Houston set up a helpline for customers in our situation. They were utilizing meter readers to help homeowners like us shut off their water. After thirty minutes on hold, I finally spoke to a kind customer service agent who added our name and address to “the list.” As I type this a week later, we have yet to see someone from the city. Houston is the fourth-most populous city in the United States, so I’m guessing it was a really long list!

I consider myself to be a reasonably intelligent human being, but my search in the garage, the attic near the water heater, and the perimeter of the house turned up nothing that looked like the main water shut-off valve. I started to berate myself, but then remembered to ask Spirit for help to see this situation differently. As always happens, a new thought occurred to me in that moment. Despite sharing his name, this John Moore is most definitely not a plumbing expert. Therefore, I do not have years of experience finding water shut-off valves. 

What I do have years of experience in is finding repeating patterns in family systems while listening to people’s stories during Family Constellations. In fact, over the past eight years, I’d say I’ve become quite good at it. Can the other John Moore say that? Probably not! So there was no need to berate myself for my lack of plumbing knowledge. Everyone has unique skills and talents. When I let go of the thought that I should know how to find a main water shut-off valve, peace returned. That shift in perception from fear to love is all I needed to experience a miracle.

Meanwhile, Michael, who I also consider to be a reasonably intelligent human being, (an extremely intelligent human being if he’s reading this) was not able to find the valve either. He also tried several other avenues to secure a plumber with no luck. Feeling helpless and frustrated, Michael made a series of bold choices. After a daring operation to remove the soaked drywall, he assessed the situation before taking a desperate trip to Home Depot for coveted plumbing supplies. Upon his return, he made a valiant but unsuccessful attempt to stop the leak with a ridiculous amount of duct tape while cutting up his hands pretty badly. Once he also surrendered to the fact that he wasn’t a plumber, he had an inspired idea.

Earlier in the year, we hired a handyman named Walter to repair a leak in our roof. Due to the elusive nature of the leak, the project spanned for several weeks. This allowed us to develop an amicable relationship with Walter and Megan, the woman at the company who dispatched him. A misdirected text message to Megan added to the fun. Since Walter did a great job, Michael thought maybe he could help us with this leak too. He contacted Megan, and Walter generously agreed to stop by our house around 4 PM before going home for the day. After resigning ourselves to the fact that it may take weeks to get a plumber, to say we were grateful doesn’t begin to cover it. 

We were a bit concerned when Walter didn’t arrive until after 6 PM, but he kept his promise and didn’t abandon us. Not only did he find the main shut-off valve hiding in some bushes, but he was able to put a temporary fix on our leaking pipe restoring water pressure to our home! That was definitely above and beyond the call of duty after what I’m sure was an extremely long day and week for him. Once again, we experienced a shift from fear to love, a miracle born out of gratitude and nurturing a relationship. Bless you, Walter and Megan!

I may not be able to help you find the main water shut-off valve at your house, but I would be honored to help you see the hidden dynamics and repeating patterns in your family that are keeping you from the happy, healthy, prosperous life you were meant to live. Please join me on Zoom for an upcoming Virtual Family Constellations Workshop, or visit my website to book a private session. You will be amazed by what happens during these transformational sessions. I look forward to sharing the experience with you.

Until next time, may love and water continue to flow freely into your life. 

Miracles represent freedom from fear. 

A miracle is a correction introduced into false thinking by me.

Miracle Principle 26 & 37 from A Course in Miracles