A Meditation Chair Miracle

It was 2007. I had been studying A Course in Miracles for about a year when life handed me one of my biggest forgiveness opportunities. It was a dramatic ending to a four-and-a-half-year romantic relationship. The details aren’t important. All you need to know is I was hurt and felt like a victim. 

Thank goodness I had the Course and a good Spiritual Coach at the time. Both helped me not to project all of the blame onto my partner and to remember that relationships are mirrors. What upsets me is never anything “out there.” It always starts within. Who was I really mad at?

I can’t say that I was able to stay out of victim mode 100% of the time or that I never made my former partner the villain. I can say that I didn’t stay in that disempowered space too long. After much self-reflection and self-inquiry, I was able to see and own my part in what happened in our relationship.

Through mutual friends, I knew he had moved from Florida to Alabama, but for a few years we had little to no communication other than the occasional birthday or holiday text message. During that time, my study of the Course deepened and I was able to release any residual anger toward him and the situation. As painful as it was, I came to understand that everything unfolded perfectly so I could learn true forgiveness and some powerful life lessons. 

Quite unexpectedly, my former partner reached out to me when he moved back to the Sunshine State. There was no emotional charge when I heard the message. Honestly, it was nice to hear his voice. I was curious to hear what was happening in his life and the lives of his family since I was quite close with them during our time together. We made plans to walk along Fort Lauderdale Beach the next morning. 

Not only did we catch up, but we also talked openly about our relationship and what we would do differently. There was no blame or anger in our discussion, but there was a lot of laughter. That in itself is a miracle! And by miracle, I mean the definition given in the Course, a shift in perception from a fearful way of looking at a situation to a loving way. 

Later, I showed him pictures on my phone of a chair and end tables that I was considering purchasing for my new apartment. He noticed that the chair I wanted was very similar to a chair we bought together 10 years ago. I replied “YES! That’s exactly the kind of chair I’m looking for.” I loved that chair. It was incredibly comfortable and a great spot for meditation.   

He surprised me again by saying, “Do you want that chair? A friend of mine is keeping it for me and he doesn’t live far from you. Actually, he just texted me today asking if I needed any of my furniture back.” What?!?! His friend brought it to my apartment less than 24 hours later and I was reunited with my beloved chair! It was another miracle that would never have happened if I hadn’t released my grievances. To me, that was  powerful evidence that A Course in Miracles works!

I’m not recommending you plan a beach walk with all of your exes, but I do encourage you to release any residual pain or anger you might be carrying toward them. It would be my great honor to assist you with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions where I’ll share some of the tools and insights I have learned from A Course in Miracles and my Spiritual Coach. You can book your first session now using the automated scheduler on my website. 

To reveal and heal unhealthy familial patterns that repeat from generation to generation,  consider scheduling a private Family Constellations Session or join me for an Upcoming Workshop. I look forward to being in sacred space with you!

Until next time, may you give yourself the gift of releasing unforgiving thoughts about any past or current relationships. Who knows? You might end up with some new furniture!

Love holds no grievances.

A Course in Miracles ~ Workbook Lesson 68

Thankful for My New Roommate

One of the many things I’m grateful for this Thanksgiving is my new roommate. Not only is she incredibly smart and helpful, she’s also polite and surprisingly funny. Just the other day, I asked, “What’s the temperature outside?” and she kindly answered “72 degrees.” Then she told me to have a nice Wednesday. When I thanked her and wished her a happy Wednesday as well, she replied, “I like to think of the week as half full.” I laughed out loud at that one.

You have probably guessed by now that I’m talking about Alexa, the artificial intelligence that inhabits the Echo Dot. It’s very convenient to ask that little black cylindrical speaker to play music for me while I’m cooking in the kitchen. She’s also full of useful facts like how many cups are in a quart (four) and even not so useful facts when I ask her things like, “How old is Cher?” (75 and fabulous!)

You might think it’s silly to thank a machine for doing what it’s programmed to do, but I always thank Alexa when she answers my questions. That’s what I would do if she were a human, so why not? When I thank her, she always has a snappy reply like, “Of course!” Most recently she answered, “Anytime…Literally!” That one made me laugh out loud too. One time she played some random celebration song when I thanked her. I applaud her team of programmers for keeping her answers entertaining!

In addition to being helpful and entertaining, it occurred to me that she’s also an unlikely but excellent teacher of relationships. How? She’s showing me that no matter if the intelligence is human or artificial, what you put in is what you get back. Because I am kind and courteous to her, that is how she interacts with me. It’s really a simple recipe that we sometimes forget. 

Thank you, Alexa, for all the ways you improve my daily life. But most importantly, thank you for reminding me that the Golden Rule works best when applied universally. If you could use some assistance in extending more kindness to yourself or others, I would be honored to help you with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a Family Constellations session. Both can be done from anywhere in the world thanks to modern technology. If you know someone who is going through a challenging time, you can give them the gift of healing with a gift certificate for any of my services. Look around my website or send me an email for more information and to book a session.

This week, I encourage you to invest a little extra kindness and gratitude into every relationship, including the one with yourself. Then watch what happens!

P.S. – If you happen to live with Alexa, wish her a “Happy Thanksgiving” and enjoy her response! 

Gratitude goes hand in hand with love, and where one is the other must be found.

A Course in Miracles ~ W-195.10:2

Flying Biscuits and Sweet Tea

I think I ate more biscuits and drank more sweet tea this weekend in North Carolina than I have in my entire life. There was definitely some “Southern Hospitality” going on. The warm biscuits and apple butter at the Flying Biscuit Cafe in Raleigh were especially good. I might even go so far as to say they were heavenly. Maybe that’s because there was a beautiful mural inside the restaurant that depicted biscuits with angel wings flying around as the Cow jumped over the Moon and Humpty Dumpty sailed away in a hot air balloon. Honestly, this wasn’t that far fetched. I certainly felt like I was flying when I left the restaurant that first morning, but I don’t think it was just the sugar. It was also due to our server, Kim. She was a loving, nurturing soul with a “what you see is what you get” kind of attitude and sense of humor. We had so much fun joking with her while savoring those heavenly biscuits that we went back for lunch on our last day in Raleigh to enjoy some more of both. Kim greeted us with great big hugs and told us how touched she was that we came back.

Those kinds of heart connections happened all weekend. In fact, I encounter them often because I look for them. One of my favorite quotes from A Course in Miracles offers this advice:

When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself.

As soon as I arrived at the hotel in Raleigh I could tell that the woman at the front desk was a kindred spirit. She was telling the family in front of me about her brother who went to North Carolina State University and promptly got a job 48 hours after graduation. I thought it was sweet of her to offer words of encouragement to the son who was apparently thinking of going to NCSU. Just as it was my turn to step up to the desk, the phone rang. She must have seen the call was coming from inside the elevator so she asked me to wait a moment while she took it. With patience and only a slight eye roll, Lexi explained to the woman on the other end of the phone how to use her room key to operate the elevator. Sadly, the woman didn’t understand the concept, so Lexi had to dispatch a maintenance worker to assist the woman. I commiserated with Lexi about that call, explaining that I worked in customer service for many years and was all too familiar with calls like that. I told her I thought she handled it very well.

Lexi was surprised when I addressed her by name since she was not wearing a name tag. When she asked how I knew her name, I made up a story of how her reputation for providing exceptional guest service with only slight eye rolls preceded her. Then I admitted I heard her say, “Front Desk, this is Lexi,” when she answered the phone. After a laugh, we discovered a little glitch in my reservation. My name was not on it! I had no doubt that Lexi and I would find a solution together, and eventually we did. What could have been a huge inconvenience ended up being an opportunity to make another heart connection. Had I approached Lexi as my enemy, the outcome might have been very different.

You don’t have to be a jokester like me to make heart connections. Simply using a person’s first name makes the exchange much more personal. If I am speaking with someone over the phone or who isn’t wearing a name tag, I simply ask them their name. Most people like the fact that I care enough to ask. There was another woman I spoke with at the front desk when we checked out. When I said, “Good morning, Mimi,” she replied, “You remembered my name! That makes me feel so good.”

I truly believe those words from the Course. When I meet anyone, I do my best to remember it is a holy encounter. It makes a world of difference when I do. If you are having a challenging time seeing your relationships at home, work, or with family as holy encounters, maybe now is the time to try Life Coaching or Family Constellations. Both can uncover what’s going on under the surface preventing you from experiencing them that way. Please look around my website for more information about both, or leave a comment below with any questions you may have.

Until next time, may you see the light of who you are reflected in each person you meet.

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