Calm Before the Storm

We often talk about the calm before the storm. Not only is it a condition we can observe, but it’s also good advice. I’m writing these words the night before a major hurricane is supposed to make landfall very close to my home on the west coast of Florida. Having lived in different areas of Florida since 1992, I’m no stranger to this experience. Over the last 30 years, I’ve learned a few things about living in places vulnerable to hurricanes. 

One, it’s best to get extra water and other necessary supplies as soon as hurricane season begins. You don’t want to be rushing around trying to gather supplies at the last minute when shelves are bare and people are panicked. It can be very stressful.

Two, although meteorologists and computer models do their best to predict a storm’s path, we never truly know where they are going until they actually arrive. Hurricanes can change direction suddenly and without warning, just like life!

The most important thing I have learned is applicable to any of life’s storms, whether they are weather-related or not. We make the best decisions when we are calm and centered. If my head is crammed with fearful chaotic thoughts, there’s no way I can hear the voice for love guiding me to the highest and best solution. In my experience, making choices from fear rarely leads to a pleasant outcome. 

Tuesday, when I woke up, I was very tempted to open my laptop right away and check the storm’s location. Instead, I decided to sit quietly on my meditation chair. In the stillness, I asked Spirit, my higher self, the voice for love, my guardian angels, whatever you want to call that presence, what action would be the highest choice. Was it best to stay home and weather the storm or pack my car and drive to the other side of the state? I was open to either answer, but surprisingly, the one that felt most peaceful was to stay. So that’s what I’m doing.

In addition to having supplies, I’ve done all the things I can think of to prepare. I brought patio chairs, doormats, and wind chimes inside. My electronic devices and backup batteries are fully charged. I placed candles and a flashlight on my countertop where they are easy to find. I made extra ice by filling food storage containers with water and placing them in the freezer. I’ve downloaded two new books to my kindle and a few movies to my iPad. My car has gas in the tank. And I’m getting this story written in advance, knowing a power outage is more than a good possibility. 

Many of the preparations I’ve made have only occurred to me because I am staying as calm as possible. If I had been running around in fear or glued to the Weather Channel, I don’t think I would be as prepared or as peaceful. Am I a little apprehensive about the strength of the storm approaching? Of course! But our weekly online A Course in Miracles study group helped bring me back to center on Tuesday night. 

I am also grateful to the many friends who have reached out to check on me and to let me know they are holding the high watch with me and all those in the storm’s path. What will happen? I don’t know for sure. But I do know staying calm before the storm has been incredibly helpful. 

Are you experiencing rough weather in one or more areas of your life? Relationships, Health, Finances, Career, or Family? It would be my great honor to give you tools to stay calm in the storm and help you release those chaotic, fearful thoughts so you can tap into your own guidance system. Consider giving yourself the gift of a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a Private Family Constellations Session. You can learn more about both or schedule a session by exploring my website

Until next time, may you remember to ask for guidance to release fear and stay calm no matter how big the storm. 

A tranquil mind is not a little gift.

A Course in Miracles ~ M-20.4:8

Creating New Pathways

Recently, I watched a video of a conversation between an author and A Course in Miracles teacher. They were discussing ways to experience the feeling of inner peace, gratitude, and joy more often using a very simple technique. Whenever you notice that you are feeling peaceful, grateful, or joyful, however briefly, take a few moments to savor it. Look around and absorb all the details of your surroundings. Take three or more deep breaths to anchor in this feeling before your mind moves on to the next thought, which it inevitably will.

By doing this, you have just created a new pathway to peace based on the science of neuroplasticity. That’s a fancy word for our brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections. Our lives are often filled with worry and stress, so the neural pathways to those feelings are well worn. It takes a little effort and a strong intention, but it is possible to create new pathways with this simple technique. I have been practicing it this week with great results. 

In fact, just before sitting down to write this email, I decided to take a little break on our balcony to get some fresh air after a full day of meetings and coaching sessions. As I pondered this topic, I realized I was feeling a sense of peace and gratitude right then! Before doing anything else, I took three deep breaths and then intentionally scanned my surroundings. The first thing I noticed was how blue the sky appeared to be behind the brilliant pink flowers bursting out of my neighbor’s crepe myrtle tree. The air was warm, but comfortable with an occasional soft breeze moving past me. For this time of day, the neighborhood was unusually quiet. Only the sound of a chirping bird broke the silence. That magical moment is now etched in my mind.

This practice may be instinctive for some of you. For those who keep a gratitude journal, this technique works in a similar way. Both practices redirect our thoughts into a more beneficial place. From there, we will be much more open to receive inspiration on what’s ours to do and what steps to take to create more moments of peace, gratitude, and joy. With a little practice, you can turn a vicious cycle into a victorious cycle! Why not give it a try?

Family Constellations is another practice that uses the science of neuroplasticity. In a safe and sacred space, we create a new experience of a situation or story that has been living in your mind for years, possibly decades. Once you have a new experience, you can create a new pathway leading past the block or out of the pain. The results are nothing short of miraculous. I invite you to join me online for my next Virtual Family Constellations Workshop or to schedule a private session. Please visit the Constellations page on my website or send me an email for more information.

Until next time, may you experience more moments of peace, gratitude, and joy than you can count!

If your miracle working inclinations are not functioning properly, it is always because fear has intruded on your right-mindedness and has turned it upside down.

A Course in Miracles – T-2.V.4:3

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