Peace in the Darkness (Part 2)

Last week, I shared Part 1 of this story. There were so many miracles I had to break it up into two parts! If you missed it, click here. In a nutshell, my laptop went dark on a Saturday night. I decided to let it charge overnight and try to power it up again in the morning. I had a restless sleep, but my furry feline friend, Cleo from my childhood, appeared in a dream to comfort me. It felt like a sign that everything would be okay. 

The next morning, I opened my computer and hit the power key with cheerful expectancy, hoping to hear that famous MacBook chime. No such luck. Still nothing. Oh well. Knowing I’d want to be as centered as possible before a visit to the Apple Store, I decided to roll out my yoga mat and do my practice. 

Focusing my mind was like trying to walk a Doberman in a forest of squirrels. My thoughts ran in multiple directions trying to envision what might happen with my laptop situation. I had to keep bringing my attention back to my breath. It was quite comical to observe, yet I was still remarkably calm.

When I finished my practice, something told me to give the keyboard one more tap before packing up the laptop. To my surprise, the screen lit up right away! I was stunned and grateful! Now, I could complete a time-sensitive task, and then back up my hard drive.

I found the external hard drive in my desk, but the cord that connected it to my laptop was not with it. I consider myself to be a very organized and detail-oriented person, so the cord not being in the same drawer was highly unusual. I found several other cords, but none of them had the correct connectors. It was frustrating, but I had to laugh. The one cord I needed was MIA. There was no reason to panic. I simply needed to go to Best Buy to purchase that cord. 

Since one of my favorite Mexican restaurants is near Best Buy, I decided to go there for lunch before buying the cord. While waiting for my burrito, I did a little more laptop research on my phone and narrowed it down to my top choice. That’s when I remembered Best Buy sells Apple products. I could check out that laptop while I was there. If I liked it, once I had the right cord, I could complete the backup and then go to the Apple Store the following day to make the purchase. This seemed like a great plan! 

It was quite the scavenger hunt searching for the cord I needed among boxes and boxes of different cables and connectors, but perseverance paid off! With my prize in hand, I triumphantly walked over to the Apple computer section. There it was. The 15” MacBook Air that I had been eying online.

I stood in front of it and began tapping the keyboard. I liked how it felt. The screen and the touchpad were much larger and easier to navigate than my current laptop. I tested the built-in camera because I use Zoom a lot. The video was sharp and clear. When I looked at the specs on the tag next to the computer, I couldn’t believe my eyes. It was on sale for $300 off! 

Not having the right cord turned out to be a blessing in disguise. I would never have known about this sale had I not gone to Best Buy. When I went to the front to purchase the cord, I asked the cashier how long the sale was running and he said it ended that day! Well wasn’t that interesting timing?

The cashier put me in a cue to speak with a sales associate, so I had another 15 minutes to play with the laptop. I really liked it! Everything about this felt right…until the sales associate arrived. He was a nice enough young man, but he talked very quickly. I told him what I use my computer for most often, and asked him which one would be best for my business. He quickly steered me away from the MacBook Air over to a MacBook Pro. 

I don’t doubt that the Pro is a better machine, but he was rambling on about screen definition and processing power, all of which are not high priorities for me. I just need a computer to host Zoom calls, answer emails, and write these stories. He went on about how the MacBook Air was less sturdy and might overheat because it didn’t have a fan. 

He also told me that I would need an external camera because the built-in camera was not great on the MacBook Air. It looked fine to me when I was playing around with it earlier. The more he talked, the less peaceful I felt. This young man claimed he didn’t work on commission, and that he was only trying to help me buy the best computer.

That may have been true, but I was still feeling pressured into something that did not feel right. The MacBook Pro had a significantly higher price, and it was not on sale, so there was no advantage to purchasing it right then and there. Thankfully, I have learned to trust my intuition when something feels off. I thanked him for his time and left the store.

I will admit, once I was in my car driving home, I asked Siri if Best Buy employees work on commission. Siri confirmed he was telling the truth, but I still did not resonate with his energy. Even though the sale ended that day and the store closed in an hour, I was not going to rush into a big decision like this from a place of scarcity or fear. 

As I tell my coaching clients all the time, there is no urgency in Spirit. No part of the river rushes past another to get to the ocean. Each droplet of water gets there at the perfect time. 

After that yucky experience, I called a dear friend to share what had happened. She asked if I wanted to talk with her husband because he buys computers for his job quite often. Speaking with him was so helpful. He had not heard of any issues with the MacBook Air overheating. In his opinion, the Air was a better choice for my business needs. 

I did a little more research online and saw only excellent reviews for this machine. The only thing left to do was to take the question into prayer and ask what would be the highest choice. Of all the options, including “wait,” the only answer that felt peaceful was purchasing the MacBook Air on Best Buy’s website before midnight so I could take advantage of the sale. 

Once I had that clarity, everything went smoothly. From the comfort of my own home with no fast-talking salesperson, I purchased the computer for $300 off and was approved for the Best Buy credit card. Like the last one, I will be paying off this computer a little at a time for the next 12 months with no interest. 

Picking up the computer at a different Best Buy location the next morning was so easy. All I had to do was show the cashier my photo ID and the email saying my new laptop was ready for pickup. He stepped away for a moment and returned with a box with my name on it. The whole process took less than 10 minutes.

My heart is filled with gratitude for all of the events that led to me typing this story on a brand-new MacBook Air. Although I love it, the miracle isn’t that I have a new laptop. The real miracle was my ability to remain (mostly) peaceful while navigating the obstacles that popped up. By remaining calm, I was able to receive clear guidance on what to do next. I trusted that everything would be okay, just as Cleo promised when she appeared in my dream.

If you are having a difficult time navigating a stressful situation, it would be my great joy to assist you with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. Both can help you return to peace where miracles are waiting to happen. And I will be able to see you even more clearly on my larger screen! Look around my website for more information and to book a session. I look forward to working with you.

A tranquil mind is not a little gift.

A Course in Miracles ~ M-20.4:8

Things Change

A peaceful view of Sarasota Bay.

It was a gray, drizzly day last Wednesday when I awoke. The weather app on my phone predicted a 100% chance of rain in the next hour. That didn’t leave much hope for a morning walk along Sarasota Bay. I surrendered to the fact that I’d be rolling out my yoga mat instead of lacing up my walking shoes that day.

As much as I love my yoga practice, on this particular day, my body was craving some brisk movement outdoors more than focused breathing and stretching. There were just too many thoughts bouncing around in my head. Lacking sufficient motivation to start my practice, I let myself stay in bed a little longer thinking about life and listening to the rain falling on the roof. 

To my surprise and delight, by the time I got out of bed 30 minutes later, the rain had stopped and the sun was starting to peek through the clouds. When I checked the weather app on my phone, somehow 100% rain had dropped to just 20%. I don’t know how or why this happened. Perhaps strong winds moved the storm out to the Gulf of Mexico more quickly than predicted. 

Whatever the reason, I was grateful for this unexpected shift in the weather. I decided to risk the 20% chance of getting wet for the opportunity to be outside in nature. That risk paid off! The rain clouds dissipated and it turned out to be perfect walking weather. Obviously, the moral of this story is “when you stay in bed longer your life gets better.” I’m kidding! 

But you might be wondering why am I sharing this story. It occurred to me that this minor event was a metaphor for life’s bigger rainstorms. When life is really challenging, part of our mind gets stuck thinking it will always be this way. Despair sets in. The dictionary defines despair as the complete loss or absence of hope. From this mindset, it seems we will always be struggling or stressed out. 

However, that’s just not true. Things do change. In fact, the one thing that is certain about life here on Planet Earth is that everything changes. And typically without any assistance from us! One unexpected opportunity can change the course of your life. 

A family moves into your neighborhood and you make a new best friend. Someone retires or changes careers and an exciting job opportunity opens up. You learn about a new healing modality while attending a book group that becomes a rewarding career. A dear friend gifts you a book that introduces you to a provocative spiritual teaching that brings you more peace than anything you have previously encountered. 

Those familiar with my story know those last 2 examples are how I found Family Constellations and A Course in Miracles. Both have changed my life in unimaginably beautiful ways. But this is my point. I wasn’t looking for either of them. I was just living my life and they found me! I see this as evidence that Life is always conspiring for our good in a multitude of ways. I still forget this all the time, so I’m grateful when an unexpected change in the weather reminds me of this truth.

No matter what you’re going through and growing through, I hope this little story reminds you that things can change quickly and unexpectedly. I encourage you to keep your eyes, ears, and most importantly, your heart open. Eventually, the sun will break through the clouds. Trust that a miracle wants to happen!  

Could you use some assistance in maintaining peace while things are challenging? Would you like some support and guidance as you initiate positive changes in your life? I would be honored to walk the path with you a while with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. Send me an email for more information or book a session on my website. It might be just the change you are waiting for. I look forward to working with you!

Miracles are natural. When they do not occur something has gone wrong.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-1.I.6:1-2

Why Would This Be Any Different?

I recently learned that this “S” is the Kryptonian symbol for Hope!

“Why would this be any different?” That’s the question I finally remembered to ask myself on the day of my move last month. Until that point, everything about my new apartment had fallen into place perfectly. My sister found this community during her visit last spring. I mentioned it felt like it was time to move when my lease was up in August. Being a good Virgo and a good big sister, she started searching for apartment communities online. Of the many we visited, this one just felt right. 

A miracle happened the very first time we came here. I parked my car in a “future resident” space so we could walk around the property to get a feel for it. Barely a minute into our walk, we encountered a woman walking her dog along the sidewalk. When the woman saw us move off the sidewalk to give her and her dog space, she said, “Don’t worry. She’s very friendly. Her name is Hope. We’re on our way to a weekly street festival to celebrate her Gotcha Day!”

Hope was indeed very friendly, so I bent down to pet her while we continued our conversation. This felt like the perfect opportunity to ask this woman if she liked living here. Apparently, she liked it very much because she proceeded to go on a 10-minute rant about the wonderful perks of living in this community. She said the staff in the office is extremely nice. The maintenance team responds quickly to issues. I asked if it was quiet, and she replied yes! She works from home and has never had an issue with noise. My ears perked up when she added that high-speed Internet is included in the rent. Honestly, she could not have been more complimentary or enthusiastic about living here. 

The fact that her dog’s name was Hope was not lost on me. After some unpleasant encounters with neighbors and noise issues over the past 6 months at my old apartment complex, I was hopeful that this might be the perfect sanctuary for my next home. 

That was a Friday evening. On Monday morning we returned to look at a unit and I absolutely loved it. We learned there was such a demand for apartments that they had a waiting list. This felt like another good sign. I still had 3 months before my lease was up so I was confident there would be a vacancy by the beginning of August. I filled out all the necessary paperwork and paid the application fees so I could be put on the waiting list. 

When June 7 arrived, I had to take a leap of faith. My old apartment complex required a 60-day notice if I was not going to renew my lease. I was still number 2 or 3 on the waiting list at the new place. When I checked in with Spirit, the guidance I received was to give my notice and trust that an apartment would become available. It was a little scary, but I have learned to trust that guidance. If an apartment didn’t become available, I knew I could get my application fees and security deposit back and another option would reveal itself. 

About 2 weeks later, I got a call from the new apartment complex telling me a unit had become available. And not just any unit. They call it “the Villa.” It’s the only one of its kind in the entire complex because it is where the property manager used to live. It’s a first-floor unit with no one living above it, and it shares just one wall with the neighboring building. It’s like a little house in the middle of an apartment community. I will admit, this wasn’t what I envisioned for my new living space. I pictured a second-floor unit with a balcony overlooking the pond and fountain like I had grown to love in my old place. However, this uniquely private unit sure was enticing.

I needed time to ponder this decision, so I asked the property manager if I could sleep on it. She agreed, but said I needed to let her know either way the following day. The next morning, I had a seemingly random conversation with a friend about what Superman’s “S” insignia stands for. You might guess it stands for Superman, but I had just learned in The Flash movie that it represents Hope. As we continued to talk about Hope, I suddenly remembered the little dog I met on my first visit to the new apartment community. This synchronicity felt like a wink from the Universe encouraging me to say “yes” to the Villa. So I did! 

As I mentioned, everything fell into place smoothly once I decided to move here. My old apartment complex didn’t have a problem with me staying 5 days past my lease expiration while the Villa was being renovated. They charged me a higher prorated fee for those 5 days, but that was fine. It saved me the hassle of renting a storage unit or pod and having to move my belongings twice. 

Transferring my electricity service was a breeze online. Even my call to Comcast to set up internet service went well. The friendly customer service rep told me there was no need to return my modem. She advised me to bring the modem to my new place and call to verify the new service had been activated. It was all so simple!

The day before my move, I stopped by the leasing office in the new community to drop off my rent check and sign off on their move-in checklist. That’s when I discovered I couldn’t get the keys to the Villa until 10 AM the next day when the office reopened. They couldn’t give them to me a day early because there were a few things left to do in the apartment. 

This could be a problem. The movers I hired were scheduled to arrive at 8:30 AM. However, my old apartment was on the second floor. Surely it would take them an hour and a half to load up the truck since each trip required traversing a flight of stairs. Well, it turns out that estimation was incorrect. 

First, I was not expecting the moving company to send three young men. I assumed it would be just two. Second, my Virgo sister and I had everything boxed and staged in the living room before they arrived. The guys had the entire contents of my apartment packed in their truck before 9:15! My new apartment was less than 10 minutes away. What were we going to do for 45 minutes while I waited to get the keys? I noticed myself slipping a wee bit into fear when I thought about their hourly rate.

That’s when I remembered how well everything had fallen into place so far. Why would this be any different? This thought helped me release the fear and trust that everything was happening as it should. Of course, the movers were fine with it when I explained the situation. They were getting paid either way! Perhaps they didn’t have time for breakfast, and this would allow them to get some food before unloading the truck. 

Whatever will be will be. Peace had returned by the time we set off for the new apartment complex just a mile and a half away. When we arrived, the office was closed, so I continued to the Villa. What a joyful relief to discover someone had left the door unlocked! Since I had paid and signed the lease, I saw no reason why we shouldn’t start unloading right away.

I couldn’t believe the truck was unloaded and all of my belongings were in their new home by 10 AM! It was such a great reminder to not let fear color my experience. When peace returns and I am not in a place of resistance and fear, things have a way of working out better than I could have expected.

Are you having a hard time maintaining a sense of peace with so much swirling around you? It would be my great honor to assist you with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a private Family Constellations Session. Both can be done from anywhere in the world with the help of technology. Please look around my website or send me an email to book a session or for more information. I look forward to working with you! 

All things work together for good. There are no exceptions except in the ego’s judgment.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-4.V.1:1-2

I Can See Clearly Now

This week I took a spontaneous trip to Fort Lauderdale. With only one pair of contact lenses left, I needed to see my eye doctor for a yearly exam and a current prescription so I can order more lenses online. My attempts to find an eye doctor in Sarasota did not reveal an affordable option that compared to the excellent care I have received at Eyes on Sunrise in Fort Lauderdale since 2016. Even during the 3 years I lived in Houston, I continued getting my yearly eye exam there because of their exemplary service and care. I like that they take a photo of my retinas each year to monitor the health of my eyes. For these reasons, it felt like the highest choice to make the 3-hour drive to Fort Lauderdale.

When I made this decision last week, I looked at my calendar to see when it could happen. The following week I had no appointments on Sunday or Monday, but after that, a trip to Fort Lauderdale wouldn’t be possible until the end of August. I called Eyes on Sunrise to see if they had any openings on Monday or possibly Tuesday morning. Unfortunately, they did not. I continued calling every day to check for cancellations but to no avail. 

In the meantime, I reached out to my dear friends whose wedding I officiated last December. They rent beautiful rooms in their home in Fort Lauderdale on Airbnb. At the wedding, they told me I am welcome to stay with them any time they have a vacancy. Lucky for me, they had no guests booked for Sunday night. Despite not having an appointment, I felt strongly guided to take the trip and trust if it was meant to be, I’d be able to see my eye doctor. 

And why wouldn’t I go across the state? I had no plans in Sarasota. Even if I didn’t get my eyes checked, I’d have some quality time with an amazing group of friends. When I lived there, we often gathered in their beautiful home for game nights. Those gatherings were always filled with an abundance of laughter and silliness. I was thrilled when they scheduled one for Sunday night! There was no shortage of fun and laughter this time when we played a new game called “How’s yours?” The night ended with a small group of us going to a local dance club for a few hours to shake our booties to the fabulous sounds of the 70s. There may not have been a disco ball, but the four of us sure had a ball! 

The next morning, my plan was to call Eyes on Sunrise after doing my morning walk along Fort Lauderdale Beach. It was a trip down memory lane…literally! That was my morning routine for years. I loved seeing familiar landmarks like the wooden sculpture of a Native American chief as well as restaurants I used to frequent with my mom. And what a joy to jump into the Atlantic Ocean to cool off after an hour of exercise in the summer heat. My body was reminding me that I had danced for 2 hours the night before. Since I am not quite as resilient as the 25-year-old version of me, it felt glorious to float in that ocean for a while. 

Sadly, when I called the eye doctor, there were still no cancellations. I decided to release the need for anything to be different and let the day unfold as it wanted to. They had my phone number if anything changed. Because I had no specific plans, one thing organically led to the next. Spirit provided me an opportunity to have one-on-one time with many of the friends that attended game night. Since it was a Monday, most of them were working. I had lunch with one friend who is off on Mondays. Chai tea with another after that. A beautiful conversation with one of the grooms when he returned home from work. Pizza with another friend when she finished work. And a breakfast conversation with the other groom the following morning. 

I enjoy a big party with lots of people, but I actually prefer smaller gatherings where it’s easier to focus on one person at a time. Since I usually plan my visits to maximize seeing as many friends as possible, one-on-one time rarely happens. This day was such a gift!

You may be wondering about the eye exam. Well, a miracle happened once I released my attachment to getting that appointment. After checking with my hosts to see if I could stay another night, I called one more time late Monday afternoon to see if they had any openings for Tuesday morning. They did not. But I got a nudge to inquire when they opened the following day. The nice and very patient woman I had been harassing all week for an appointment said they open at 10 AM. Something told me to just show up at that time. Who knows? Maybe the first appointment would be a “no show.” 

So, after my lovely conversation with the other groom, I packed up my car and drove to Eyes on Sunrise. I felt completely at peace no matter what happened. If I had an eye exam…great! If not, I still considered the trip a resounding success given the amount of quality time I had with those friends. I’m guessing by now you know what happened. Although they did not have any cancellations, Dr. Rashid said he could see me right away if I was available. Oh my goodness! I was beyond grateful! 

I’m happy to report my eyes are healthy and my prescription did not change. Dr. Rashid also gave me a set of contact lenses so that removed any urgency to order more right away. And speaking of ordering, as they say in those infomercials, “Don’t order yet!” Miracles kept on coming. When I went to the front desk to pay, it turns out I had a $40 credit on my account! I guess the Universe wanted to make absolutely sure I knew I had made the right decision. As I drove west across Alligator Alley after my appointment, my heart was overflowing with gratitude for all that had transpired in less than 48 hours. 

I would be honored to help you open your heart to more miracles with a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions or a one-on-one Family Constellations Session. Both can uncover blocks to the awareness of Love’s presence and help you tap into your own intuition. For more information or to book a session, please look around my website or send me an email. You can also book a session with my automated scheduler. I look forward to working with you! 

This day I choose to spend in perfect peace.

Lesson 255 ~ A Course in Miracles 

A Walk in the Woods

One of the highlights of my trip to Michigan last weekend was a quiet walk in the woods on Sunday morning. It was a gorgeous sunny day with temperatures in the low 70s. I was eager to get some exercise and fresh air, so I searched on Google for walking paths near me. A nature trail with a boardwalk popped up just over a mile away from my hotel. Perfect! 

When I typed the address into the navigation app, it looked like the directions ended in a residential neighborhood. Since there didn’t appear to be a place to park and it wasn’t too far, I chose to walk instead of drive.

I trotted along a somewhat busy highway for about a half mile before turning left and then right up a winding road into a peaceful little neighborhood in the hills. Sadly, when I arrived where the app directed me, there was no sign of a nature trail. There was only a space between two houses. Rather than traipse through yards in search of the trail, I decided to continue my walk along the streets and enjoy the beautiful morning and the pretty houses. My decision yielded unexpected results. Five minutes later, I stumbled upon the entrance to the nature trail! 

Grateful for my luck, I left the street and began walking along the trail into the woods. Autumn was starting her spectacular yearly show. There was just a smattering of bright red, orange, and yellow leaves among the trees. Purple and yellow wildflowers grew on either side of the trail that led to a boardwalk stretching across a trickling creek. 

I stopped on the bridge to enjoy the soothing sound of water flowing over rocks and underneath me. That’s when I spotted a great blue heron standing motionless just a few feet from me in the creek. As we stood there looking at each other, the wind blew through the leaves and pine needles of the tall trees surrounding us, making a soft, whistling noise. Peace was palpable. 

After a few moments, I said goodbye to the heron and continued on my way. The boardwalk eventually turned into a paved walkway as I strolled out of the woods and in between two residential neighborhoods. Brightly painted birdhouses lined the fence that separated the trail from the backyards. Many of the homes had ideal birdwatching views from decks or sunrooms overlooking the beautifully landscaped path. I hoped the inhabitants enjoyed those views. I sure would!

I don’t recall seeing many birds except the heron and a crimson cardinal who made a brief appearance when he flew out of a bush and into a nearby tree. However, I noticed many squirrels busy gathering acorns for the coming winter. It was comforting to my soul to be immersed in a world of nature similar to where I grew up in Upstate New York. What an unexpected gift! And other than one woman walking her dog, I had the whole scene to myself.

The trail ended at another residential street, so I turned around to enjoy the sights and sounds in the other direction. When I reached the spot where I found the trail, I had to make a decision. Should I turn left and go back the way I came? Or should I cross the street and continue on the trail in the other direction? 

The latter would be a risky proposition. My goal was to walk for about an hour, and I had already been walking for 45 minutes. If I chose the trail, would I be walking toward the hotel or away from it? By the way, I am notorious for being “directionally challenged.” My head said to play it safe and go the way I came along the busy road. My heart wanted to stay on the path a little longer and enjoy more of nature’s beauty.

Despite my history with directions, I decided to follow my heart and continue along the nature trail. I’m so glad I did! There were many more beautiful leaves and flowers to admire. Along the way, I also encountered a wooden sign with a map of the entire nature trail. To my surprise and delight, I discovered that if I kept going in this direction, the trail would end just a half mile up the road from my hotel. 

By taking a chance and following my heart, my walk ended up being the perfect distance taking just over an hour from start to finish. It was a powerful reminder to trust my heart and keep going even when I don’t know where the road may lead. 

Could you use some assistance in following your heart to destinations unknown? It would be my great honor to walk the trail with you during a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions. Together we will discover where your heart wants to go and what might be in the way. With a fresh perspective and new tools to help keep you on track, you can change course and start enjoying a wonderful walk in the woods of life. Please look around my website for more information or to book your first session

Until next time, may you find the courage to trust your heart and just keep walking. 

He walks in peace who travels sinlessly along the way love shows him.

A Course in Miracles ~

Flying Without a Net

“Honey, you’re really flying without a net.” This is one of the best compliments I have ever received about my work with Family Constellations. It meant a lot to me because it came from my dear friend, Maggie Cole, who has been facilitating healing workshops for decades. I understood her comment to mean it requires an extreme amount of trust on my part to allow a constellation to unfold without me knowing where it will go or how it will end up. This aspect of constellation work has been quite beneficial in helping me translate that kind of faith into my everyday life. Some days more than others!

I recently had another opportunity to “fly without a net” when my friend Dorena, the Space Doula, asked me to present a 60-minute experience of Family Constellations on Zoom to her “Love Story” subscription service. We had several conversations about what I would share during that hour since I had been a guest before. Instead of covering similar material or trying to predetermine what theme or exercise to facilitate with the group, we decided to wait and see what people brought to the table. After a brief introduction, I asked the participants to write in the chat things that are trying to take away their peace in this moment. 

Once a few themes emerged, I assigned roles to each one of the participants using numbers to designate their challenges as well as possible solutions. No one knew who or what they were representing. They were simply asked to share what they were feeling and how they felt about the other numbers. The results were mind-blowing! Honestly, after 9 years of facilitating this work, I shouldn’t be surprised, yet I am still in awe every single time.  

After everyone had a chance to share, I revealed who or what each person represented. I gave them a moment to absorb and integrate what they had said and how powerfully accurate and insightful it was. Then, I guided them in some conversations to acknowledge what was troubling them (ie: the lingering COVID-19 Pandemic), release what no longer serves, and then offered steps to move forward with joy and harmony. This process produced many tears and “aha” moments.

I hadn’t done something like that on Zoom before, so I underestimated how long it would take. Thankfully, the participants were able to stay online for an extra 25 minutes. Because we ran over our time, I did not have a chance to check in with everyone before the meeting ended. I closed our time together with the grounding and clearing visualization that I share at the end of every Family Constellations workshop, and advised them to be gentle with themselves for the rest of the evening. We let them know to contact Dorena or me with any questions, and then ended the meeting. 

With no opportunity for feedback, I wasn’t sure how the experience had landed. I hoped and trusted that it was beneficial. Well, I got my answer the following day when Dorena started sharing the positive feedback she received from the participants and those who watched the replay. It seems that being in the moment and flying without a net was exactly what was needed. What a wonderful reminder to do that more often in the rest of my life!

Would you like assistance in trusting the process and flying without a net? I would be honored to assist you with a Private Family Constellations Session or a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions. Now until the Fourth of July, you can purchase a Private Family Constellation Session or a Spiritual Coaching Session for 20% off the regular price. Just use Coupon Code SUMMER20 when purchasing online. If you’d like to buy a Gift Certificate for someone you love or a package of 4 Spiritual Coaching sessions at that 20% discount, use Coupon Code SUMMER2022. This is a Summer Only Special, so you will need to book and use your session before autumn begins on September 22. I hope you will take advantage of savings from $22-$80 before the Fourth of July fireworks burst in the sky. Click here to book a session.

Until next time, may you trust the process and remember that Life itself is supporting you. 

The presence of fear is a sure sign that you are trusting in your own strength.

A Course in Miracles ~ WB-48.3:1

Do You Trust the Tree?

I’m a little embarrassed to share this story, but it was a good reminder to trust, so here it is. If you’ve been reading my weekly stories lately, you know I am enjoying the assortment of birds and other wildlife in the tree and pond right outside my window. Earlier this month, I started to get concerned about the tree. Bright red buds began bursting out the tips of the branches that had been bare all winter. It didn’t take long for word to get out in Squirrel World that a new all-you-can-eat buffet had opened. Soon there was a whole crew of squirrels in that tree daily devouring its buds.

I know it sounds silly, but I was legitimately concerned that the squirrels would eat all the buds and the tree would die. How could it survive if it didn’t have enough leaves to capture the sunlight? All I could do was watch from the other side of the glass as those voracious little varmints stripped branch after branch clean. As you can see in the picture above, I was face to face with one little culprit and managed to get photographic evidence of his crime. I think he was taunting me saying, “Yeah. I’m eating these delicious buds. What are you going to do about it, Mr. Human?”

I did the only thing I could do. I surrendered and trusted. Mother Nature must know what she’s doing because that tree was here long before I moved into this apartment last summer. I know I am odd, but I did not want to be known as the crazy neighbor chasing squirrels out of a tree! < Insert squirrel or nut joke here. >

Then something miraculous happened. Little sprouts of green began emerging underneath some of the red clumps of what I thought were new leave buds. With each passing day, there were more of them. As most of you probably already know, those squirrels were not killing the tree by eating its new leaves. They were feasting on the little helicopter seeds that twirl to the ground. Upon realizing this, I felt relieved and ridiculous at the same time.

Now before you judge me too harshly, remember, I was not here to witness this transformation last spring. I didn’t know the helicopter seeds were red. We had similar maple trees in the front yard of my childhood home in Upstate New York, but the helicopter seeds of those trees started out green and then turned a golden tan color. They were never red.

In any case, as you can see in the second photo, I was concerned for no reason. That tree is now full of bright green leaves and doing just fine without the slightest intervention needed from me. The squirrels had a peaceful feast without this silly human trying to “save the tree.” What a great reminder to trust the process of life even when things don’t appear to be going the way I think they should. This reminder was very timely for me. I hope it is for you too. 

Facilitating Family Constellations for the past 9 years has been one of my best teachers for learning to trust the process. Even when seemingly random or extraneous things come up in a constellation, I have found they usually provide meaningful information if I am open to seeing it that way. Along those lines, A Course in Miracles has taught me that Spirit can find a way to express love and light in even the darkest of situations. A small crack in the door is all that’s required to let in the light.

If I can assist you in cracking the door to let some love and light into a challenging situation, please reach out for a private Family Constellations Session or perhaps a series of Spiritual Coaching Sessions based on A Course in Miracles. To learn more or to book a session, please explore my website

Until next time, may you remember to trust that life will continue to grow in miraculous ways if you allow it to.

A Miracle Happened at the DMV

Earlier this year, I had ongoing frustrations dealing with Honda Financial Services. When my lease ended in January, I decided to purchase my car with a lease buyout. The first challenge occurred when a Houston Honda dealer sent them a payment without my authorization. Due to very poor customer service and more than $2,000 of mysterious additional fees that no one could adequately explain, I decided not to pursue a loan with them. Imagine my surprise when I logged into my account the next day to discover that my balance had been paid! 

I called Honda Financial Services and waited on hold for at least 30 minutes to speak to a customer service agent. Little did I know this would be the first of many half hours spent listening to that hold music and Honda’s special offers. I did my best to be patient knowing many businesses were understaffed due to the pandemic. When an agent finally answered, I explained my situation and she assured me that she would get the paperwork straightened out with the dealership. In the meantime, I had secured a loan through other means, so she advised me to mail the payoff check to them along with my odometer disclosure statement. Once they received my check and that document, Honda would send me the title via FedEx. That sounded good to me.

For the next few months, I waited for FedEx to deliver my title, but it never came. I made more calls to Honda to check on the status with more half hours on hold, but nothing expedited the process. I found out that the title had been issued and sent to the Honda dealer in Houston. Once the dealership sent it back, it would be another 8-10 weeks before they could issue another title with my name on it. Again, I waited.

It was during this time that my guidance to leave Texas became crystal clear. With no news about my title, I began to get anxious. For some reason, I had it in my head that I needed to take care of this lingering detail before I moved back to the Sunshine State. Three days before my move, I surrendered to the fact that my title would not arrive before I left. I called Honda (once again waiting the obligatory 30 minutes on hold) to give them my temporary Florida address and ask that they please FedEx the title to me there. The nice woman on the phone assured me that was not a problem.

As you may have already guessed, that’s not what happened. FedEx delivered it to my address in Houston a month later. It had to be mailed to me in a pre-addressed envelope that I created knowing this would probably happen. Glory! Hallelujah! I finally received the title in the mail 7 months after sending my payoff check to Honda. But, alas, there was a lesson that life wanted to teach me…again.

After all that anxious waiting, the title sat in my drawer for another month! I had found a new apartment but it wouldn’t be ready until August 13. Rather than change the address twice, I decided to wait and title my car when I got my new Florida driver’s license and license plates. Oh, what a happy day that was! And to my surprise, I was able to do all 3 of those things at the same office with the same customer service representative. 

Miguel defied every stereotype and joke you’ve ever heard about the DMV. Not only was he super friendly and efficient, but he delivered some happy news. Since my car was originally titled in Florida where I leased it, I saved over $200 in fees. I also noticed Florida sales tax was $100 less than it would have been in Texas. It turns out those frustrating delays were actually working in my favor! They saved me quite a bit of money and a lot of unnecessary paperwork. What a powerful lesson in surrendering what I think should happen, and trusting the divine timing of the Universe. 

Is there something happening or not happening in your life that is trying to take away your peace? I would be honored to assist you in seeing things from another perspective with a series of Spiritual Coaching sessions or a private Family Constellations session. Both can help you develop a sense of trust that everything is unfolding for your highest good. For more information about these opportunities and to book a session, please look around my website or send me an email.

This week, may you find ways to experience peace while trusting that everything is unfolding perfectly.

What could you not accept, if you but knew that everything that happens, all events, past, present and to come, are gently planned by One Whose only purpose is your good? 

A Course in Miracles ~W.135.18:1 

A Trustworthy Dragon

Disney’s latest animated feature, Raya and the Last Dragon, is another beautifully crafted movie with a powerful and timely message. Not only does it illustrate the importance of unity, but it also celebrates diversity within the Asian community. The creators of this film could not have known it would be released at a time when so many of our sisters and brothers of Asian descent are experiencing hate and prejudice. I choose to believe the Universe (and maybe a dragon or two) had a hand in the timing of its release to bring some joy, hope, and light to a dark and challenging time. 

The story follows a young girl named Raya who witnesses the chaos and destruction that happens when five different lands stop trusting each other and separate. She is accompanied on her journey by the “last dragon” (voiced by the hilarious Awkwafina) who tries to teach her that the only way to achieve her goals and unite the lands is to open her heart and start trusting again. Having suffered a great loss because of a betrayal, Raya has a difficult time doing this. I’m guessing most of us can relate to that, especially in these uncertain and divisive times. I won’t give away the ending, but it is definitely a testament to the magical power of trust and unity. 

I am not proud to admit I did a poor job of opening my heart the day after I watched that movie with our out-of-town guests. While waiting in line to purchase tickets to the train that travels through Hermann Park, we were “serenaded” by a small group of women and men singing a less than inspiring version of Amazing Grace. They were not quite in tune or in harmony. After the song, two of the men stood on a large rock preaching their ideas about Jesus, sin, and salvation to the captive audience waiting in line for tickets. Their language and message felt infused with fear, making it out of tune with my heart, just like the off-key version of Amazing Grace. It was very uncomfortable and I found myself wishing they would just stop talking. I wasn’t standing on a rock trying to convince everyone to study A Course in Miracles, so why was it okay for them to spout their beliefs? 

I don’t know why I allowed them to ruin my experience of an otherwise enjoyable day. Perhaps I was just tired, but in that moment, I simply was not able to shift my perception. I found the whole experience to be very irritating. About twenty minutes later, they finally stopped preaching, we got our tickets, had a lovely train ride, and went about our day. 

The next morning I was still thinking about that situation and what I could have done differently. What would Love do? I imagined myself approaching the men and sharing how their actions were probably repelling people more than attracting them. I could have suggested they sit on the rock and pray silently while extending love to everyone at the park. Perhaps instead of handing out their printed propaganda to everyone that walked by they could give it only to those that approached them for more information. Then Love showed me a bigger truth. 

Instead of closing my heart with judgment and wishing they acted differently, I could have silently extended love to them. Thank goodness I have learned that it’s never too late to make a different choice, so I imagined love surrounding all of the people that irritated me that day in the park. As I result, I felt better. Had I been with a dragon voiced by Awkwafina, I think she would have been pleased.

Are there people in your life with a special knack for irritating you? Perhaps they share some of your DNA or live or work with you. I would be honored to be your trustworthy dragon and help you experience more peace in your life with a series of Life Coaching sessions or with a one-on-one Family Constellations Session. For more information or to book a session, please look around my website or send me an email

Until next time, may you find a trustworthy companion that helps you keep your heart open and love flowing.

Only what you have not given can be lacking in any situation.

A Course in Miracles ~ T-17.VII.4:1 

A Trustworthy Friend

I will be sharing a quick reflection this week because power, water, and internet service are intermittent at best here in Houston. As you may have heard or experienced, severe winter storms moved through Texas knocking out utilities in millions of homes. One of the blessings in disguise of this very unpleasant experience was a visit from the sweet cat pictured in the photo below. She and her owner lost power in their home so they came to stay with us to escape the plummeting temperatures. I had met this cat briefly only once before, so imagine my surprise when she fell asleep on my lap just a few hours after she arrived. I was touched by the level of trust she placed in me so quickly. 

It occurred to me that I often feel a similar gratitude while facilitating Family Constellations Workshops or Life Coaching Sessions. I am honored and humbled every time a participant or client feels safe to share something deeply personal. Their trust, courage, and willingness to be vulnerable is the highest compliment I can imagine. That’s why creating an environment where people feel safe to share whatever is in their hearts is my number one intention. I’d like to take this opportunity to extend a heartfelt thank you to everyone who has placed their trust in me, including my new furry friend who reminded me what a gift it is to be trusted. 

Is there a situation or circumstance weighing heavily on your heart? it would be my great honor to create a safe space for you to lighten your load and assist you in your healing journey. Please join me for an upcoming Virtual Family Constellations Workshops or book a private session. What happens during a Family Constellation is truly miraculous. I also offer Life Coaching programs based on the strong principles found in A Course in Miracles. Information about both of these opportunities can be found on my website. Thanks to technology, sessions can be done from anywhere in the world! 

Until next time, may you find an abundance of opportunities to be courageous and vulnerable… 

Love is your safety… Identify with love, and you are safe. Identify with love, and you are home. Identify with love, and find your Self.”  

A Course in Miracles ~ WB-pII.5.5

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